harleygirl said:
Sorry, I cannot agree with that one. Maybe they are looking to meet someone, if it happens it happens. Not every women wants to take someone home. The bottom line is this, if a woman says no, drunk or not, and a man still proceeds that is rape. If she wakes up in the morning and cannot remember who is laying next to her, that is just being stupid, not rape.
Ok... so I'm thinking we can agree with the concept that she's getting dolled up and headed to the bar to find some company, and "if it happens, it happens." But then the woman makes a concious decision to drink, which she knows will impair her judgement, BUT she's not to be held accountable for that???
I think that most of us are being selectively naive in this matter. For you ladies, we guys do not go to bars to look for women to take home to meet mom. We're there looking for a quick score, and if things evolve from there great, and if not that's great too. We aren't out there looking for long-term commitments or marriages. So I have to wonder if a woman is not going out to a bar looking for the same thing, then what are they going out there for? Do they really think they're going to find Mr. Right hanging over a Captain & Coke at the Dew Drop Inn?
I think the reality is that you'all get dolled up so that you'll catch some guy's attention. I mean what other point is there? And if you know that you're going to be laying out the bait, why then take actions (drinking) that you know will impair your judgement?
Lastly, since most everybody who goes to a bar is out drinking, why is it that only the woman's judgement is impaired? The guy is likely equally impaired, yet he's expected to be the judge of when a woman is tipsy and saying no, impaired and saying maybe, faced and begging, etc. Sorry ladies, but you've been crying for equality, and that means taking the good with the bad. If you go out and get smashed and bang some smashed guy, you've both messed up equally.