Child/Teen ADD/ADHD

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LOVE

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When he gets referrals it's always for yelling out, goofing off or not listening he has never been in a fight in his life. I take away his cellphone, the computer, have can't have any company or go places with his friends. I don't beat him what is that gonna do he's almost 13 he knows right from wrong. Do you think im being too hard on him ?
 
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musiclady

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tygrace said:
Is the child you give sugar to ADD or ADHD? A friend of mine who has add/adhd, found that if she drinks any type of caffiene, will do the exact opposite of what it does for most, sugar does that to her also (makes her very tired). Her son also has it, and he too has the same results as she does, so therefore she never medicated him, just gave him caffiene.
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He has ADD, but sometimes gets hyper, just not diagnosed as such. When he was 5yr we drove to Florida and about halfway, he was so wound up, we couldn't concentrate. Stopped at a rest stop and bet him how many times can he run around the van. He made it 17 times, then ran into the door. People look at us like we're the crazy ones, but these things work.

I also have an older girl with ADD and we went the meds route with her. Found out that Drs are just guessing and trying various things. And once the kid is on meds, no one wants to change or remove, just add more. She was on 5 different meds and still nothing and Drs actually threatened me for wanting to discontinue them. Last one was Abilify (not ADD, I know) and that one weirded her out so much she ended up in Juvi and THEY refused all meds to her. Best thing that ever happened. She is now a very nice 19 yr old on NO drugs and knows the things she needs to do to focus and stay settled.
 
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LOVE said:
The meds are really what im really against. He's really a very outgoing kid he makes friends with everywhere we go. I even cut out football last year so school would be the only thing on his mind when they went back. That was a big mistake after homework he was really a zombie he just dragged around with nothing to do, he would go outside but not for long cause all of his friends were at football pratice. Then I thought the work was too hard, his teachers stated when he's focused he's one of the brightest kids in the class but the hard part for them is keeping him on track.
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Cutting out extra activities actually backfires because it leaves them only with what they struggle with - with no outlet. The more I would cut out things mine enjoyed, the worse school got, not better. As for the teacher saying he doesn't stay on track: suggest a study carrol to block out distractions. Even something as simple as being allowed to put folders standing up on the desk to minimize peripheral vision might help. Some kids just need quiet and no distractions. They should be able to do that without drugs or an IEP.
 
lbreder

lbreder

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Both my kids have ADHD. My oldest takes 2 different meds for it and helps in such a BIG way. His grades are great and he pays more attention to things. Hes not a zombie or out to lunch. Hes the same just more clam. My other son doesnt take anything cause he works his way through. He reads, writes and draws. It helps with him. Its whatever works best for you. Sometimes meds work and sometimes they dont.
 
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LOVE said:
I have a 12 year old son and in the last year its like he's losing his brains. He has been having problems paying attention, (home and school) forgets things easily. His grades have dropped and notes and conferences have been going on all year. His teachers say he's not misbehaved but he is easily distracted, yells outs answers, has trouble following instructions/directions and he can't keep still....and so on and so on. I spoke with his doctor about this last year ans she told my if things didn't get better by the middle of the school year then bring him in.
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I'd like to say that science has shown that at the age of 12 kids start developing the frontal part of the brain. They forget, attention propblems etc. My daughter is a straight A student. But I could give her a lecture on cleaning her room, completing her chores, etc. and 5 minutes later....nothing It all just flies. I would talk to him and see maybe he's having a hard time coping with peer pressure, tween years and all.
 
SouthernMdRocks

SouthernMdRocks

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Cowgirl said:
You know, it *is* possible to have a child on medication without the child becoming a zombie. For what it's worth...
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Very true, some kids might need medication,,, others luckily learn skills to cope. These kids are all so very different even when they share a same diagnosis.
 
SouthernMdRocks

SouthernMdRocks

R.I.P. Bobo, We miss you!
LOVE said:
When he gets referrals it's always for yelling out, goofing off or not listening he has never been in a fight in his life. I take away his cellphone, the computer, have can't have any company or go places with his friends. I don't beat him what is that gonna do he's almost 13 he knows right from wrong. Do you think im being too hard on him ?
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No, I think you need a professionals opinion. Not all jump on the ADD wagon.
 
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