Ok my son is 21, my daughter is 5...yes second marriage. son does not live at home so I am getting him just a few things...he is an adult...didn't really load my daughter up but yes she got more....the grandmother thinks that is so unfair and that the older one should get more...I am not rich but am I wrong?
Christmas - 21 yrs old vs. 5 years old
- Thread starter rdkarob
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
My hubby and I have two girls - one his and one mine. We try to make it as fair as possible. :shrug:rdkarob said:
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
No, I am sure your 21yr old will understand, it's more for the younger ones anyways.rdkarob said:
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
Then no I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure at 21 he understands.rdkarob said:
bohman
Well-Known Member
CMC122 said:If your 21 year old dosen't understand then there is a problem
You beat me to it. He's old enough to appreciate that he got anything. And if he's happy, then what does Grandma have to do with it? Let her buy him more stuff to make up the difference, if she's that worried about it.
kwillia
n/a
IMO, a 21 year old should only expect to get one maybe two presents from their parents. It never even crossed my mind that parents be expected to lavish their adult child with lots of gifts. The other key factor here is that you can most likely by 10 things for the 5 year old for the same amount of money it would cost you to buy the 21 year old something they want/would like to receive as a Christmas gift.
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
kwillia said:
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
My parents still spoil me at Christmas!kwillia said:
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
On the flipside, what should an adult buy their parents? Should I only get them 1, maybe 2 gifts?kwillia said::shocker: Exactly my point... look how you turned out...
Guilty guilty guiltykwillia said:
I do more for the adult kids than for the younger ones, and more than I did for them when *they* were still home. Lots of presents are wasted on unappreciative teenagers and children. Once they're out on their own, paying their own way, they genuinely appreciate anything you do for them and don't just expect it.
oldman
Lobster Land
rdkarob said:
Christmas is for kids - well for the most part. At 21 I was away from home and getting a package of homemade cookies or Tastycakes was all I needed or wanted. Now that many years have passed I still get the same things and I couldn't be happier. Just don't send me a fruitcake or a tie!
Katt
Active Member
Grandma is way out of line. If that 21 yr old is not even living at home, there is no need to shower lots of gifts on them. When are you supposed to cut the cord? I was married at 20 and from them on, it was a few gifts, not a boat load like when I was growing up at home. It's a shame Grandma is putting a guilt trip on you.. don't fall for it. You are doing the right thing. It shouldn't be all about the gifts anyway. If it is for a 21 yr. old, then they've got alot of growing up to do. Now's a good time to start. JMHO
donbarzini
Well-Known Member
The only way you buy equal is if the 21yo still believes in Santa