Even so, I'd still feel bad if I triggered it in any way. Both of my parents are recovering alcoholics (40 years sober) and I rarely drink in front of them, even though they have invited me to do so many times. It just seems rude for some reason.
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Even so, I'd still feel bad if I triggered it in any way. Both of my parents are recovering alcoholics (40 years sober) and I rarely drink in front of them, even though they have invited me to do so many times. It just seems rude for some reason.
Misfit
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kwillia
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See... if you are actually on a date I find that very misleading because you are indicating to him its okay if he smokes around you when in fact you hate it. IMO it's a potential deal breaker for either of you so should be addressed early on.
but also, when people ask if I mind if they light up a cigarette around me...I usually lie and say it's fine when in fact I hate them. I mind a lot less when we're outside, bc the smell is avoidable depending how I stand. But these people are either acquaintances or coworkers. I don't date or have any friends that are smokers. I'm just saying, I've been politely asked that, and I've just said fine, no problem to be nice.
lucky_bee
RBF expert
I meant in general with other people. I don't think I've ever come across this situation on a date. It's usually already known if either of us are smokers, any guy I have dated that was one...somehow knew ahead of time I wasn't interested in standing outside with him while he smoked.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Well you two are incompatible... LOL
lucky_bee
RBF expert
I'm not a big ketchup fan... it was doomed from the beginning :shrug:
I like to send Kwillia pics of my bloody rare steak just to remind her that I'm not the catch she originally thought I was. I don't want her having any regrets.
kwillia
n/a
And I fro up a little in my mouf each each time.
KDENISE977
New Member
Misfit
Lawful neutral
I could never date a vegetarian !!
That was one of the first questions I asked Monello when we were in the getting to know you stage: "Wait...you're not a vegetarian, are you??"
True story.
If she’s three years sober you’ll always have a designated driver.
You know this. I see I'm not the only one.
Although crawling in to the back seat to nap on the way home...not a good way to impress, apparently.:shrug:
libertytyranny
Dream Stealer
That was one of the first questions I asked Monello when we were in the getting to know you stage: "Wait...you're not a vegetarian, are you??"
True story.
People that are polar opposites can work sometimes. For instance my bf eats his steak......medium rare. But I love him anyway. And he tries not to gag when I eat mine still mooing softly.. sacrifices.
GWguy
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Misfit
Lawful neutral
withrespect
:wr:
I agree with this whole-heartedly.
seven
New Member
This is what I am doing. I don't need a drink that bad. I would rather get to know her better and feel her out.
Your date may not mind, or she may mind and you find that you like her more than drinking anyway. :shrug:
PeoplesElbow
Well-Known Member
Better drink a whole lot.