Divorce/Separation process

jaclyn

jaclyn

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Here it goes:

I'm currently married. Have been for 12 yrs this coming Nov.
My marriage is crap. Has been for a while.

Whats the process for separation? Of course, I would like to stay in the house with the children. I live in Calvert county.

Is it as simple as filing papers at the Calvert County courthouse? What do i file?
 
itsbob

itsbob

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jaclyn said:
Here it goes:

I'm currently married. Have been for 12 yrs this coming Nov.
My marriage is crap. Has been for a while.

Whats the process for separation? Of course, I would like to stay in the house with the children. I live in Calvert county.

Is it as simple as filing papers at the Calvert County courthouse? What do i file?
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Do you think it will be an amicable split?

If yes, you can go to the court and do it all yourself, and if he goes with you, you can save months of time. You really don't HAVE to file for a seperation, but for a divorce you must say, and have a witness to verify, that you have been physically seperated for two years. There are other ways too, but the seperation is the easiest (I think anyways). Court house has all the documentation you need to file, and instructions on how to do it. You would save THOUSANDS of dollars by DIY.

If it's not going to be amicable get a lawyer.
 
Baja28

Baja28

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itsbob said:
Do you think it will be an amicable split?

If yes, you can go to the court and do it all yourself, and if he goes with you, you can save months of time. You really don't HAVE to file for a seperation, but for a divorce you must say, and have a witness to verify, that you have been physically seperated for two years. There are other ways too, but the seperation is the easiest (I think anyways). Court house has all the documentation you need to file, and instructions on how to do it. You would save THOUSANDS of dollars by DIY.

If it's not going to be amicable get a lawyer.
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One year.
 
K_Jo

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itsbob said:
Do you think it will be an amicable split?

If yes, you can go to the court and do it all yourself, and if he goes with you, you can save months of time. You really don't HAVE to file for a seperation, but for a divorce you must say, and have a witness to verify, that you have been physically seperated for two years. There are other ways too, but the seperation is the easiest (I think anyways). Court house has all the documentation you need to file, and instructions on how to do it. You would save THOUSANDS of dollars by DIY.

If it's not going to be amicable get a lawyer.
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Once again, itsbob is right! :diva: I know someone who had to divorce his first wife before he could marry me, and he did it all himself for like $200. He may have gotten the forms online.
 
Baja28

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
jaclyn said:
Here it goes:

I'm currently married. Have been for 12 yrs this coming Nov.
My marriage is crap. Has been for a while.

Whats the process for separation? Of course, I would like to stay in the house with the children. I live in Calvert county.

Is it as simple as filing papers at the Calvert County courthouse? What do i file?
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Sorry to hear that. :huggy:


Are you chubby?
Who's your driver?
What kind of bike do you ride?
What's your favorite beer?
 
jaclyn

jaclyn

Not a Lurker anymore!
itsbob said:
Do you think it will be an amicable split?

If yes, you can go to the court and do it all yourself, and if he goes with you, you can save months of time. You really don't HAVE to file for a seperation, but for a divorce you must say, and have a witness to verify, that you have been physically seperated for two years. There are other ways too, but the seperation is the easiest (I think anyways). Court house has all the documentation you need to file, and instructions on how to do it. You would save THOUSANDS of dollars by DIY.

If it's not going to be amicable get a lawyer.
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I don't think its going to be amicable. I don't even know if it will end in divorce. I just wan't us to separate, and figure out what it is that we really want. My concern, is that he won't leave. As a matter of fact, I know he won't.
Basically, I wan't the courts to make him vacate the house, while we figure things out. I'm not sure if that sounds silly, but its the best I can explain it.
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
K_Jo said:
Once again, itsbob is right! :diva: I know someone who had to divorce his first wife before he could marry me, and he did it all himself for like $200. He may have gotten the forms online.
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And now we're married!! :smoochy:
 
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Baja28

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
itsbob said:
Don't konw if it's changed or there is different criteria, but we had to testify that we had been living apart for two years.. but that was the ONLY criteria we used for our divorce.
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I have to also say I don't know if it's changed but I do know that 11 years ago it was one year. :lmao:
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
jaclyn said:
I don't think its going to be amicable. I don't even know if it will end in divorce. I just wan't us to separate, and figure out what it is that we really want. My concern, is that he won't leave. As a matter of fact, I know he won't.
Basically, I wan't the courts to make him vacate the house, while we figure things out. I'm not sure if that sounds silly, but its the best I can explain it.
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In that case, he who draws blood first wins..
 
Baja28

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
jaclyn said:
I don't think its going to be amicable. I don't even know if it will end in divorce. I just wan't us to separate, and figure out what it is that we really want. My concern, is that he won't leave. As a matter of fact, I know he won't.
Basically, I wan't the courts to make him vacate the house, while we figure things out. I'm not sure if that sounds silly, but its the best I can explain it.
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psssttt..... :gossip: There's no apostrophe in "want".
 
jaclyn

jaclyn

Not a Lurker anymore!
Baja28 said:
Sorry to hear that. :huggy:


Are you chubby?
Who's your driver?
What kind of bike do you ride?
What's your favorite beer?
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Nope.
Is that really even a question? Tony Stewart of course~!
2004 Springer Softail
BudLight

Anything else? lol
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
K_Jo said:
Oh, yeah, I think itsbob might be wrong about that part. The streak is over! :faint:
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Under Maryland law, there are two kinds of "no-fault" divorce. After 1 year of mutual and voluntary separation, with no hope or expectation of reconciliation, either party can obtain an absolute divorce. "Mutual and voluntary" means that both parties agreed to separate, that they did so without any coercion or threat, and that they intended to end their marriage. After 2 years of separation for any reason, either spouse can obtain an absolute divorce. (Even a philandering and abusive spouse who stays away for 2 years is entitled to a divorce.)

We were both right.. I'm still sreaking!!:cds:
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
jaclyn said:
Nope.
Is that really even a question? Tony Stewart of course~!
2004 Springer Softail
BudLight

Anything else? lol
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Softail?? Strike one..

She understood what queStion 2 was asking. Strike 2.. (I would have guessed he was fishing to see if she was rich enough to have a chauffer)

AND BUDLIGHT?? :cds:
 
R

rich70

STEELERS NATION!!
I just went through this myself. All we did was write up a seperation aggrement and then had it notarized. In Maryland, you have to be seprated for one year before you can get divorced. After our year was up, we went to the courthouse together (like bob said, that saves alot of time) filed the paperwork and waited for our court date. It took about 4 months, we went to court, and our divorce was final. You will need a witness to testify that you two haven't spent the night under the same roof for a year and no sexual relations with each other. My divorce cost us $105. If you have any questions, let me know.
 
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