Do you feel split in half between kids and spouse?

[Lavendar]

Just wondering if anyone else feels this way. My husband works weird hours so we aren't alone very often and when we want to be alone(sex) I have to always listen to my 4 year old whine and cry about it. I feel so torn between her and my husband. Sometimes I'm able to put her in front of the tv with a good video or a good show so me and hubby can actually have some "time" but it only lasts for aout as long as the show. He doesn't get it that I get stressed out by her wanting me all the time. I guess its time to find a babysitter. What do you do to be alone with your spouse? Oh he's always in bed by 8pm because of his hours and unfortunately she stays up later than he does. We've tried getting her to bed early but shes stubborn as heck.Thanks for any advice.

 

[crabcake]

... and when we want to be alone(sex) I have to always listen to my 4 year old whine and cry about it.

Your hubby gave her the "Where Did I Come From Book" already, too, huh?

 

[Roberta]

Just wondering if anyone else feels this way. My husband works weird hours so we aren't alone very often and when we want to be alone(sex) I have to always listen to my 4 year old whine and cry about it. I feel so torn between her and my husband. Sometimes I'm able to put her in front of the tv with a good video or a good show so me and hubby can actually have some "time" but it only lasts for aout as long as the show. He doesn't get it that I get stressed out by her wanting me all the time. I guess its time to find a babysitter. What do you do to be alone with your spouse? Oh he's always in bed by 8pm because of his hours and unfortunately she stays up later than he does. We've tried getting her to bed early but shes stubborn as heck.Thanks for any advice.

I don't want to sound nasty. But this is my standard awnser to people with problem childern.

Who is the child and who are the parents?

Have you tried " DATE NIGHT"? Once a month, week or however often you can, get a baby sitter and DATE YOUR SPOUSE. Your relationship will benifit from it.

 

[aps45819]

This is why duct tape was invented

 

[mAlice]

Is your 4 year old still napping?

 

[Nanny Pam]

Your hubby gave her the "Where Did I Come From Book" already, too, huh?

Oh Lord!

 

[K-T7]

This is why duct tape was invented

Every mother has thought of that!!!
My husband comes before my children, (well in day to day life)...I tell my children this is my time with daddy, and no I dont feel torn, my children are here because of my husband, not the other way around. My husband works difficult hours, and we dont have babysitters, so I ALWAYS make sure that we have our time at night(not always for sex).....put your 4 year old to bed!, she will complain at first but after a couple of nights of bedtime routine she will get the jist!......I have a child that is as stubborn as a mule, and believe me it is possible! Good Luck

 

[LexiGirl75]

2 words

Tylenol Cocktail



But seriously, I say change the lil shrimps daily routine. End her day by 7pm each night. And then right before hubbies beddy bye time rock him to sleep.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

Just wondering if anyone else feels this way. My husband works weird hours so we aren't alone very often and when we want to be alone(sex) I have to always listen to my 4 year old whine and cry about it. I feel so torn between her and my husband. Sometimes I'm able to put her in front of the tv with a good video or a good show so me and hubby can actually have some "time" but it only lasts for aout as long as the show. He doesn't get it that I get stressed out by her wanting me all the time. I guess its time to find a babysitter. What do you do to be alone with your spouse? Oh he's always in bed by 8pm because of his hours and unfortunately she stays up later than he does. We've tried getting her to bed early but shes stubborn as heck.Thanks for any advice.

What time does hubby get up?

 

[Nickel]

Teach the kid to entertain herself. Does she ever just sit and play by herself? Look at books, play with toys, etc?

 

[Christy]

Lavendar, I would say your husband should take it upon himself to make time, some way, some how. If he's the one getting all cranky about not getting any, he should be more proactive in making it happen. :shrug:

Our kids are up our butt as soon as we step through the door every day. We're cool with that because we make time for each other during the day, like lunch, or maybe even a quick drink or get together directly after.

Sometimes you also have to change what is your routine if you want to get a little nook time. My daughter is ALWAYS sleeping with us, so we can't just "do it" so just two days ago, husband and I got up in the middle of the night and snuck off to her empty room and took care of business. :shrug:

It can be done. You just have to be creative and get out of the routine.

 

[Lavendar]

This is why duct tape was invented

She doesnt take naps and he gets up at 2am. By that time I'm dead tired. Date night is a good idea. She does entertain herself. Sorry for whining. I will put her to bed by 7. WIsh me luck.

 

[CandyRain]

She doesnt take naps and he gets up at 2am. By that time I'm dead tired. Date night is a good idea. She does entertain herself. Sorry for whining. I will put her to bed by 7. WIsh me luck.

you sensed the onslaught coming, didn't you?

 

[Geek]

This is why duct tape was invented

You ment for the husband didn't you Aps?

 

[aps45819]

You can try the traditional Sailor's homecoming trick. After coming home from a deployment, the horny sailor buys a bag of green jelly beans. When he gets home, he kisses the kids and then scatters the bag of jelly beans in the front yard.
Keeps them occupied while he's kissing mommy