Ex is taking my baby girl

StadEMS3

StadEMS3

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Got email from ex-gf that she's wants her German Shepherd (Abbi) back.

Abbi (6) has been living with me and her beagle brother, Dino (7) most of her life. The ex and I broke up several years ago but we stayed friends and did a joint custody thing. The dogs were with me most of the time because I had a bigger house and yard. She just got back from a 1yr deployment and has since got married and moved to FL.

Anyway, the ex likes to start problems once & while and since she didn't get her way she said she's coming to take my baby away. I have paid for everything on Abbi and never asked for a dime. Dino, is going to be devastated. This sucks... :bawl:
 
Baja28

Baja28

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StadEMS3 said:
Got email from ex-gf that she's wants her German Shepherd (Abbi) back.

Abbi (6) has been living with me and her beagle brother, Dino (7) most of her life. The ex and I broke up several years ago but we stayed friends and did a joint custody thing. The dogs were with me most of the time because I had a bigger house and yard. She just got back from a 1yr deployment and has since got married and moved to FL.

Anyway, the ex likes to start problems once & while and since she didn't get her way she said she's coming to take my baby away. I have paid for everything on Abbi and never asked for a dime. Dino, is going to be devastated. This sucks... :bawl:
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Grow a set and tell her to eff off. :duh:
 
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stoppingby

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@StadEMS3, don't let her have the dog no matter what it takes. You can always get an attorney if they give you any static. Don't let her intimidate you like this. Those dogs belong together with you. I'm sure you've already explained it to her. This is about the dogs' welfare and they're being together in the fenced yard, etc., not about her. Well, hmmm, you can always tell her that you were at the dog park and the dogs went off chasing another dog that was unleashed or something of the sort. Tell her that you'd hate for her to drive up from FL and the dogs not be there. Then again you said it was a custody thing so ... speak with your attorney about this. The dogs don't need to be separated. Don't make it like "you" want the dog, just talk about the welfare of the dog(s) like children and how the other is going to be sad, etc. Maybe suggest she take both and maybe she'll back out. The more you speak like it's going to "hurt" you, the more she might want the dog. Speak more relaxed and nonchalent as if you don't mind the dog going to FL and then stress the separation issue between the dogs. Good luck to you, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
 
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TurboK9

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Hand her a bill for $30 a day boarding and reimbursement of veterinary costs, then tell her she can have the dog when she pays the bill.

I'm assuming you have no prior agreement saying she can up and take the dog away at an undisclosed future point. Unless she has some sort of written agreement saying you'll turn the dog over to her on demand, and as long as you have documentation showing your posession of the dog such as vet bills and such, she has no legal claim to the dog. I'd tell her to go buy her own dog.
 
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stoppingby

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The more she thinks you want to keep the dog, the more she'll want it. Act like it's no problem that she comes to get it, it's her turn. Wait until she's about a hundred miles or more out of her hometown and then tell her that the dog is missing. At least she'd think that she was on her way to pick up the dog and surely wouldn't want to keep driving if not there. Place the dog(s) with friends or a sitter and let her think they went missing. (You don't want her to ask for the other one.) If this wasn't done through a divorce decree, then what can she do? Don't let the dog go and let the other one be lonesome.
 
StadEMS3

StadEMS3

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Thanx for all the advice. I haven't heard from her in the last 2 days. My wife says she's just trying to get back at me and they are idle threats. The custody thing was just something we called it when she lived up here. No lawyers or paperwork. We acted like they were our kids. Well, they are our kids.

The dogs don't want to be with her anyway. Whenever I'd go pick them up from her they would cry at the door to go out to my truck or they wouldn't follow her out to her truck if she was picking them up. My new step-kids are attatched to them too.

I was told by a few people that it is technically her dog. Abbi was bought in Germany so all paperwork is in ex's name.

We'll see...
 
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stoppingby

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aps45819 said:
Get the dog chipped under a different name.
New paperwork, her dog is gone
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*If* a new chip is inserted, then *both chips will be active* and if the dog goes missing, both owners are then going to be notified. Ownership paperwork must be changed for this to be done properly.

That would work if a vet would insert a new chip along with the old one. Then you could report the dog missing and she'd be notified and believe that the dog is truly missing. If the dog ever went missing, in actuality, and arrived at a shelter or scanned elsewhere, they'd hold the dog for the owner; therefore, two owners would be notified since there's two chips and her chip was the first showing no change of ownership. And then if the dog really went missing later and she's notified after having told her once before that the dog went missing, she'll know that you had found the dog before it literally went missing again.

Depends on how you can deal with her, I guess.

Or make up a story about a $4K surgery the dogs needs and ask if she can pay for that and hopefully she'll say no and transfer ownership paperwork.

I dunno!!
 
Fubar

Fubar

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Have your ex arrested if she comes on your property-uninvited-end of story.
Get serious and stand your ground.:war:
 
KVF323

KVF323

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i say find some roadkill that "could" look like a german shepherd, tell her to come pick her up, and hand her a black trash bag of the road kill.
 
whome20603

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StadEMS3 said:
Got email from ex-gf that she's wants her German Shepherd (Abbi) back.

Abbi (6) has been living with me and her beagle brother, Dino (7) most of her life. The ex and I broke up several years ago but we stayed friends and did a joint custody thing. The dogs were with me most of the time because I had a bigger house and yard. She just got back from a 1yr deployment and has since got married and moved to FL.

Anyway, the ex likes to start problems once & while and since she didn't get her way she said she's coming to take my baby away. I have paid for everything on Abbi and never asked for a dime. Dino, is going to be devastated. This sucks... :bawl:
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Get her a free puppy as a wedding gift instead :yay:

If she barks at that (pun definitely intended :lol:) tell her you want half of the money you put into Abbi...vet bills, food and whatever else you paid for.
 
krazd_kat

krazd_kat

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I'm pretty sure if all the vetting is under your name the dog would be considered your dog and as such she has no right to the dog.
 
ICit

ICit

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TurboK9 said:
Hand her a bill for $30 a day boarding and reimbursement of veterinary costs, then tell her she can have the dog when she pays the bill.

I'm assuming you have no prior agreement saying she can up and take the dog away at an undisclosed future point. Unless she has some sort of written agreement saying you'll turn the dog over to her on demand, and as long as you have documentation showing your posession of the dog such as vet bills and such, she has no legal claim to the dog. I'd tell her to go buy her own dog.
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:yeahthat: :huggy:
 
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