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bresamil

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vraiblonde said:
Ladies, once a guy lets himself get into the friend zone is there any way for him to get back out? As in, have you ever had (or even heard of) a guy friend with whom you were strictly platonic who later became a romantic interest? And by guy friend I mean a guy you hang out with, call on the phone, ask for advice about other men - like that, a real friend.
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Yes. :coffee:
 
Dakota

Dakota

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Larry Gude said:
Old people underpants; depends.

Need more info. Was leaving friend zone his idea or yours? Flip a coin? Just happened?

Who wanted back to friend zone? Him? You?

As I understand the question, you are asking if he can do it, go back to just friends. That would depend on the above but, as you are illustrating, it's not common which is not to say impossible. Again, it depends.

This is why 'it's just sex' isn't 'just sex'. If it were, there'd be no 'friend zone' and 'end zone' so to speak :evil: . "Just sex" or "just romantic" is not the same as "just go to lunch" or "just talk on the phone" or "just friends".

So, information, please!

:popcorn:
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You have to be willing to deal with the consequences of your actions in just about anything you do. If you start having sex with somebody you’ve been great, wonderful friends with over a period of time and that sexual relationship ends poorly, it may be impossible to get back once was… but if you have the great wonderful friendship plus enjoying doing things together besides fricken lunch and yapping on the phone (real activities - real hobbies) AND that person is also somebody you enjoy the hell out of by having tumbles in the sac with (lastly after the other 2 areas get check-marks)… well isn’t that what most want from any relationship? Anything worth having does involve some sort or risk.
 
Im_Me

Im_Me

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My ex-husband was a friend for a long time before we started dating and married. Even though he is now an ex I think this was a great way to start our relationship. I knew a lot about him and knew that we has similar, interests, goals and senses of humor (I just didn't understand the depths of his interest in rum). We remain friendly co-parents after the divorce.
 
ZARA

ZARA

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All the guys I ever dated were good friends first. BUT the ones I dated I also found attractive...

Attraction may change to increase or decrease as I get to know someone. But the bottom line, If I don't find someone physically attractive, there is no chance in hell they will ever get out of the friend zone.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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I've had bad experiences in trying to cross "the line" with a good friend. Not booty call or FWB, but trying to have a "we are a couple" relationship. In both instances not only did I lose my boyfriend when it was over, but I lost my friend as well. Not that it ended badly or anything like that, but the friendship became uncomfortable and there was some jealousy when we moved on and started dating other people so we couldn't have that intimacy we had before.

Therefore once a guy goes into my friend zone, that is where he stays. I have two best guy friends who couldn't be any more terrific, but I already know neither of them are right for a longterm relationship and I don't want to screw up what we have.
 
sockgirl77

sockgirl77

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1Lance said:
hm? a friend zone is accepatable, kinda like a buddy or companion maybe, or just someone you enjoy just hangin out with. Boys have boyz nite out like girls have girls nite out. Hell it`s healthy imo in a trusted friendship/or trusted relationship. Smart ppl get all that (whateva) friendship/relationship ironed out from get go. Two (mature) adults meaning able to exercise sound judgment can do that & succeed in that friendship. If it elevates to another level, ya discuss it maturely.

The worst thing is NEVER meeting someone in person (not sounding too redundant hopefully) that you may have or have had the slightest interest or curiosity about. If you don`t pursue it, you'll neva know.

You did state in a post not too long ago, that mentioning one`s ex is definitely a "turn-off", even if it`s just an innocent "trying to get to know someone".
k, if ya never ever, repeat never ever want to or plan to meet a person who has displayed interest in you, either say "I`m not interested", or "We`ll See". A no pressure/drop dead date timeframe is smart. Howeva, neva lead sum1 on, b/c that person may be aweful damn smart, smarter than ya think.
Have a Gr8 Day. I`ll delete this soon enough, don`t wanna U & your __ to possibly actually accept the fact "It`s Over".
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I'm not interested.
 
warneckutz

warneckutz

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vraiblonde said:
Ladies, once a guy lets himself get into the friend zone is there any way for him to get back out? As in, have you ever had (or even heard of) a guy friend with whom you were strictly platonic who later became a romantic interest? And by guy friend I mean a guy you hang out with, call on the phone, ask for advice about other men - like that, a real friend.

I know it happens in the movies and on TV but I've never seen that play out IRL. Once you go into the friend zone that's it. Like that episode of Scrubs where the guy says that after a relationship turning point opportunity, you have 48 hours to make a move or you are relegated to the friend zone for all eternity. :lol:
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1Lance said:
hm? a friend zone is accepatable, kinda like a buddy or companion maybe, or just someone you enjoy just hangin out with. Boys have boyz nite out like girls have girls nite out. Hell it`s healthy imo in a trusted friendship/or trusted relationship. Smart ppl get all that (whateva) friendship/relationship ironed out from get go. Two (mature) adults meaning able to exercise sound judgment can do that & succeed in that friendship. If it elevates to another level, ya discuss it maturely.

The worst thing is NEVER meeting someone in person (not sounding too redundant hopefully) that you may have or have had the slightest interest or curiosity about. If you don`t pursue it, you'll neva know.

You did state in a post not too long ago, that mentioning one`s ex is definitely a "turn-off", even if it`s just an innocent "trying to get to know someone".
k, if ya never ever, repeat never ever want to or plan to meet a person who has displayed interest in you, either say "I`m not interested", or "We`ll See". A no pressure/drop dead date timeframe is smart. Howeva, neva lead sum1 on, b/c that person may be aweful damn smart, smarter than ya think.
Have a Gr8 Day. I`ll delete this soon enough, don`t wanna U & your __ to possibly actually accept the fact "It`s Over".
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:popcorn:
 
MMDad

MMDad

Lem Putt
1Lance said:
hm? a friend zone is accepatable, kinda like a buddy or companion maybe, or just someone you enjoy just hangin out with. Boys have boyz nite out like girls have girls nite out. Hell it`s healthy imo in a trusted friendship/or trusted relationship. Smart ppl get all that (whateva) friendship/relationship ironed out from get go. Two (mature) adults meaning able to exercise sound judgment can do that & succeed in that friendship. If it elevates to another level, ya discuss it maturely.

The worst thing is NEVER meeting someone in person (not sounding too redundant hopefully) that you may have or have had the slightest interest or curiosity about. If you don`t pursue it, you'll neva know.

You did state in a post not too long ago, that mentioning one`s ex is definitely a "turn-off", even if it`s just an innocent "trying to get to know someone".
k, if ya never ever, repeat never ever want to or plan to meet a person who has displayed interest in you, either say "I`m not interested", or "We`ll See". A no pressure/drop dead date timeframe is smart. Howeva, neva lead sum1 on, b/c that person may be aweful damn smart, smarter than ya think.
Have a Gr8 Day. I`ll delete this soon enough, don`t wanna U & your __ to possibly actually accept the fact "It`s Over".
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vraiblonde said:
Stop quoting that psycho or I'm going to make a fat effigy of you and cast a voodoo spell.

:mad:
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:poke:
 
warneckutz

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migtig

migtig

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I'm starting to think that Lance is really Vrai's MPD and she has built and maintained the best MPD in somd history. :eyebrow: :clap:
 
sockgirl77

sockgirl77

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1Lance said:
Why the heck are you havin a moment Ma`am? Hey psssst, this user is allowed to post ya know. It was a thought, a personal opinion just as you have.
If you have a problem with this user, then Ma`am I highly suggest "WE" take this elsewhere. If you automatically fly off "your" handle, damn you really need someone that is totally disassociated with this website!

This users posts have been in compliance with VEI`s "WAY" outdated rules/guidelines. The template is older than dirt btw.

Hey V, ya wanna fuss with me? Can you meet the challenge?

Now quit fussin with me, b/c I aint goin away any too soon, so either remain my BDF or that chit can change immediately.

For everyone else to know...."You" for some (odd) reason have never directly replied to Lance unless it was a banning, then the auto system sent a msg. But you did have a thread once "Should I date Lance?" remember that 1???????

Either you have a "hardon" 4 Lance, figuratively speaking, or you have a prob. You create a thread, therefore others can reply. Simple.
If you can`t take the heat, get outta the kitchen.

Geeze thnx. Damn good thing I know you, b/c you don`t know me!!!!
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SHE has you on iggy. And being that you're the one professing your love for her, you're the one with the hard-on. :yay:
 
warneckutz

warneckutz

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1Lance said:
Why the heck are you havin a moment Ma`am? Hey psssst, this user is allowed to post ya know. It was a thought, a personal opinion just as you have.
If you have a problem with this user, then Ma`am I highly suggest "WE" take this elsewhere. If you automatically fly off "your" handle, damn you really need someone that is totally disassociated with this website!

This users posts have been in compliance with VEI`s "WAY" outdated rules/guidelines. The template is older than dirt btw.

Hey V, ya wanna fuss with me? Can you meet the challenge?

Now quit fussin with me, b/c I aint goin away any too soon, so either remain my BDF or that chit can change immediately.

For everyone else to know...."You" for some (odd) reason have never directly replied to Lance unless it was a banning, then the auto system sent a msg. But you did have a thread once "Should I date Lance?" remember that 1???????

Either you have a "hardon" 4 Lance, figuratively speaking, or you have a prob. You create a thread, therefore others can reply. Simple.
If you can`t take the heat, get outta the kitchen.

Geeze thnx. Damn good thing I know you, b/c you don`t know me!!!!
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1Lance said:
:killingme :whistle:

Gr8 minds think alike, in sync. Best ploy eva, mutual CYAsses
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Vrai! :howdy:


At least get 0% financing on a new car out of this deal...
 
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