Yeah, let me tell you one thing I will never ever do, and that is have a first date with you all in attendance.
Bann, she's ashamed of us.
My husband is awesome.
And if you've learned anything, it would be never to take dating advice from IS.........or even me.Yeah, let me tell you one thing I will never ever do, and that is have a first date with you all in attendance.
Actually I think he would see how awesome your friends are and probably want to join us every Friday night...
Actually I think he would see how awesome your friends are and probably want to join us every Friday night...
It started with a simple question posed to one of my best male bounceboards:
This guy is all over me - touching, flirting, playing with my hair. I'm sending him the "interested" signal back but he won't ask me out.
He's not interested.
Should I ask him out?
No.
What if he's...
No.
But...
No.
Now this has taken on a bit of a life of it's own, from other people I've asked and guys Bounceboard has asked. I tend to agree with BB - if he's a real guy, he'll adhere to traditional gender roles and do the asking. If he doesn't, it means he's not interested.
I have no problem calling guys in the friend zone and seeing if they want to grab dinner or watch a movie, but when there is romantic potential the man should drive. However, there is dissent from both men and women who say that women should do some asking and not leave it up to the man.
So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
Maybe that is what was lacking. 
"Socially inept"??? You're trying to get him to ask you out and he's obviously not going to do it at those gatherings where you & him go, so increase the odds. It sounds to me like he's got other issues.I'm pretty sure Bann would be the first one to smack the #### out of me if I did something so socially inept.
Alrighty then? You're trying to force something to happen with someone who isn't ready/interested/your type. I'm just suggesting an option that I can honestly say it has worked for me and some of my friends before. It's not an un-tried suggestion but, whatever..."Hey, hot stuff, I think you're great and want to get to know you better. Oh, btw, there will be 10 babysitters with us. Hope you don't mind..."
I am? I thought I was sitting on my ass and not being proactive, willing to lazily accept that he may not be ready/interested/my type.
Whattsamatta you?! Are you drinking?!
Of course, there's nothing wrong with her friends or a potential beau meeting them. *At some point*. But the whole point of a date between 2 people is to get to know each other NOT IN A GROUP SETTING!
You are so going to get an earful from me tomorrow!
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