Grandparents...

Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
...if you wanted to ask your 17 year old granddaughter, who you know is off school today, if she'd like to go for a hike with you and grandma(pop) would you call her dad first and ask him what he thinks she'd think or do you just get a little wild and just call her cell and...ask her?

Assume, for the sake of argument, that the dad has long since made sure the grandfolks have all the kids phone numbers and e mail addresses and so forth and just accept on face value that the dad has placed NO restrictions on grandparent/grandchild communication and interaction whatsoever. Lastly, assume that the phrase 'you'd have to ask them that' has been used, frequently, for similar such issues.


I'm just asking before my head explodes. :banghead:
 
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cattitude

cattitude

My Sweetest Boy
I wouldn't feel the need to ask the parent first but would insist my grandchild let the parent know grandchild's whereabouts.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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Larry Gude said:
...if you wanted to ask your 17 year old granddaughter, who you know is off school today, if she'd like to go for a hike with you and grandma(pop) would you call her dad first and ask him what he thinks she'd think or do you just get a little wild and just call her cell and...ask her?

Assume, for the sake of argument, that the dad has long since made sure the grandfolks have all the kids phone numbers and e mail addresses and so forth and just accept on face value that the dad has placed NO restrictions on grandparent/grandchild communication and interaction whatsoever. Lastly, assume that the phrase 'you'd have to ask them that' has been used, frequently, for similar such issues.


I'm just asking before my head explodes. :headbang:
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My granddaughter is not 17, please stop calling :evil:











sorry I couldn't resist. I hope you enjoy your afternoon out with your granddaughter. They should be thankful they have one that wants to spend time with them. My youngest doesn't have a grandfather so to speak. The only grandfather she has, has to date refused to even meet her.

Your son just needed someone to biatch at, and today happens to be TAG YOU'RE IT.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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SoMDGirl42 said:
sorry I couldn't resist. I hope you enjoy your afternoon out with your granddaughter. They should be thankful they have one that wants to spend time with them. My youngest doesn't have a grandfather so to speak. The only grandfather she has, has to date refused to even meet her.

Your son just needed someone to biatch at, and today happens to be TAG YOU'RE IT.
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:roflmao:

And there you have it, Larry! :lmao:

I think it's courteous for them to ask you first in case you had things you wanted her to do before she takes off.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
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SoMDGirl42 said:
My granddaughter is not 17, please stop calling :evil:











sorry I couldn't resist. I hope you enjoy your afternoon out with your granddaughter. They should be thankful they have one that wants to spend time with them. My youngest doesn't have a grandfather so to speak. The only grandfather she has, has to date refused to even meet her.

Your son just needed someone to biatch at, and today happens to be TAG YOU'RE IT.
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SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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:doh:

So it went :woosh:

I don't know Larry. I read it as he wanted to take his 17 year old granddaughter out for the afternoon and her parents wanted him to ask their permission first. Ok, now I've even confused myself. :jameo: :blushing:

Forget what I said, I don't even understand it. :killingme
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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SoMDGirl42 said:
I don't know Larry. I read it as he wanted to take his 17 year old granddaughter out for the afternoon and her parents wanted him to ask their permission first. Ok, now I've even confused myself.
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Allow me:

Larry has a 17 year old daughter. His Dad and step-mother, the girl's grandparents, wanted to take her hiking with them. They asked Larry first if daughter could go with them. Larry is bent because he thinks they should have just asked her and left him out of it.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
I was asking...

SoMDGirl42 said:
:doh:

So it went :woosh:

I don't know Larry. I read it as he wanted to take his 17 year old granddaughter out for the afternoon and her parents wanted him to ask their permission first. Ok, now I've even confused myself. :jameo: :blushing:

Forget what I said, I don't even understand it. :killingme
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...if any other grandparents, besides my dad, call their kid, ME, to see if the 17 year old grand kid, my daughter, wants to go for a hike knowing full well that he's gonna have to ask her because I, honest to God, don't know is she wants to go and she is a big girl who knows whether she wants to or has time to take off with the grandfolks for an hour or so or not.

FWIW, when I was a kid, my dad set me on the street with a sign around my neck; "Please take this kid hiking. The longer the better. Anyone." So, this is not some sort of altruistic burst as Vrail, the apologist, would have folks thinking.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
And I was asking...

vraiblonde said:
Allow me:

Larry has a 17 year old daughter. His Dad and step-mother, the girl's grandparents, wanted to take her hiking with them. Dad, not 'they', as grandmom would have asked girl were it up to her, 'They' asked Larry first if daughter could go with them even though they know to ask her as she is a big girl and I would tell them to ask her anyway. Larry is bent because they should have just asked her and left him out of it.
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...if any other grandparents enjoy tormenting their kids.
 
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vbailey

vbailey
I am a very new Granny, my grandson is only 4mths old. I believe that when my grandson (children, because I want more of them ) If they are 17 and still in school, and my daughters are still providing for them and they are still living under the rules of my daughters, I would make it a habit to check with their mother first. I would want to be sure their mother did not have chores or things they had planned for the grandchild first.
I take my grandson every other Sunday for the day, his other granny has him the opposite Sunday. So my daughter has no problem with me spending time with my Grandson. I have been doing this since he was about 6 weeks old.
 
Dymphna

Dymphna

Loyalty, Friendship, Love
When I was 17, I called grandma and asked her if I could take her somewhere, not the other way around.

However, I should note that since grandma didn't drive, it was made clear to me that my parents would pay for my car expenses with the understanding that I played grandma's chauffeur.
 
DanceMom

DanceMom

New Member
My grandparents used to call my brother and I and then come pick us up. We or they would call the folks once we were at grandparents house. Now that I am an adult I see how wrong that was. I'd call parent, then child.
 
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Queenofdenile1

Love is Blind
I wouldn't think the grandparents need to ask the parents what they thought. My Grandparents, (now deceased), would have just asked me. Perhaps as a small child, they would have gone to my mother, but at 17, I don't think so.
 
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