baileydog
I wanna be a SMIB
Now here is a person I could live with. Everything has a place and everything in its place, thats my motto.
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Now here is a person I could live with. Everything has a place and everything in its place, thats my motto.
ocean733
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baileydog
I wanna be a SMIB
As long as they have chores.
I am trying to talk Scott into having his kids (my step-sons) do chores. I think I'm losing the battle.
Chores teach children responsibility. And dont pay them, tell them they get a roof and food. You only get paid for extras.
ocean733
New Member
You are so right. S seems to want to be their "buddy" and just give them snacks whenever they want.
We just got married and are in the process of me telling him that they are not allowed to smack their father and flip out and then be offered snacks.
I don't give snacks.
I give something else to cry about, but it doesn't have sugar.
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
You are so right. S seems to want to be their "buddy" and just give them snacks whenever they want.
We just got married and are in the process of me telling him that they are not allowed to smack their father and flip out and then be offered snacks.
I don't give snacks.
I give something else to cry about, but it doesn't have sugar.
When Hubby and I got married nobody had a sense of when to do what and the kids had no chores at all. Hubby got to things when they were so stacked up it was mandatory. First thing that happened was that the kids got set chores. They learned to do their own laundry too. Boy was 11 and girl was 15. When chores are done without reminders or complaints they get allowance; part of which they have to save for something they really want to get. If they don't do what they are supposed to they don't get it. If they do extra w/out being told or asked they get extra. Normally they would not get allowance for chores but I am trying to teach financial responsibility too and so far it is working out very well!
Queenofdenile1
Love is Blind
Ah, reminds me of the good ole days of when I was a youngster. I wanted to help but my Mom felt that she could do it much faster. Needless to say after awhile I stopped asking and became the "Lazy White Girl". Then when help was requested of me, I didn't feel like doing it.
puggymom
Active Member
The beds get neatly made when I clean the sheets once a week. I should probably add that dh works night shift every other week pretty much so he gets home from work and goes to bed as we are waking up. If he is off I just kind of pull everything up but not really 'made' with all the pillows looking nice and everything.
What is the average on washing sheets?
I wash everything on my bed 1 time per week, typically on Sundays, but I didn't do mine today or #1 son's since we both have all new bedding being delivered Tuesday or Wednesday this week. Then, I'll wash the new stuff and put that on the bed and wash what I have and bag it. But, I'm curious, what is the average? I have often wondered if I over wash my sheets?
puggymom
Active Member
My kids are too young for real chores. Definately when they are older but what can they really do at 16 months and three? Well the 3 year old is getting better about picking up.
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
I do sheets every weekend and my comforter every couple of months unless my little dog sneaks into my room with dirty paws or something.
puggymom
Active Member
OK now I feel bad! I really do let my daughter help when she can. Like mixing food before I cook it or helping sweep (she loves to sweep). But I really do not want my kids touching cleaners especially bleach at such young ages.
My son literally wanted to take a bath in bleach water! Yes I understand he is too young to know better but the smell alone is enough that I do not want my kids in there.
Yes my original post was a bit of a complaint but there was also humor in it.
My son literally wanted to take a bath in bleach water! Yes I understand he is too young to know better but the smell alone is enough that I do not want my kids in there.
Yes my original post was a bit of a complaint but there was also humor in it.
puggymom
Active Member
Average for me is once a week. I will admit that I slack occasionally and it may not get done one week.
baileydog
I wanna be a SMIB
At probably around 6 years old, mom pulled a kitchen chair up to the sink and put me on it and said , :heres how you wash dishes, have fun. So little ones can do chores.
puggymom
Active Member
6 is a good age and I agree kids can do chores but like I have said my oldest is 3 years old, my youngest 16 months s just over a one year old.
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
You shouldn't feel bad and your toddler's don't have to become little child laborers at their ages either! The 3 year old can be taught to get his/her pajamas out or put dirty clothes in the hamper. Both kids can help pick up toys. One of my grandsons is almost 15 months old and he is learning to help put his toys in the box. Of course he'd rather pull them back out and his Mama could do it faster herself but he's learning! Just little things like that get to be a habit and then it's easy to add to the list as they get older. Good luck to you!
Can't stand clutter either. A few months back I started throwing things out. In the next few weeks am going to finish with the rest. Told my girls if you don't come and get what you want then it's gone. Given alot of things away in the last year.
dixiepeach
Member
Every other day???????? Are you that dirty?????? Sounds a bit obsessive to me. I change my sheets once a week.
Why do you need to be a smartass. So you think because I put clean sheets on bed everyother day am dirty or an obsessive person. Well am not. So you change sheets once a week. Good for you. You don't see me saying to you thats to long and are you a dirty person.
dixiepeach
Member
This is good advice. Your children are under 3, if you took the advice of others here you'd have CPS knocking on your door.