How you gonna leave your kids like that?

[Qurious]

I am so furious with my best friends baby daddy. Let me tell you why...

This dude lost his job and was watching his children while she went to work to save on childcare since child support stopped. After 5 months of him being unemployed & not paying child support, he put in a request to lower child support cuz he was watching the kids & there was no child care expenses. So child support got lowered. Then a week later he takes this job that sends him out of the state for 2 months...he didn't even give my BF notice!! So she's scrambling looking for child care within a week for her 6 year old and 3 year old and luckily found someone but didnt have the money...so i had to front it to her for 2 weeks of care.

I told him the next time she hears from her baby daddy she better tell him I want my money back...all $600 of it. You don't just up and leave your children who have been use to seeing you not every 2 weeks but every day for 5 months. He could've got a local job...y go out of the state? I think he set my BF up...get child support lowered and then get a job cuz u know it takes 3-6 months to revisit the case...

i feel so bad for her...she's struggling and he's been away for a month for this job and they haven't paid him yet.....

if he doesn't pay me my $600 i'll see him in court.

 

[jetmonkey]

That's what you get for having a 'baby daddy' and not a man :shrug:

 

[jetmonkey]

p.s. play on, playa!

 

[kwillia]

if he doesn't pay me my $600 i'll see him in court.

I watch enough Judge Judy to know you won't be able to sue him for the $600. You would have to sue her for the $600 and if she thinks he owes her $600, she would have to sue him for the $600. You can't sue him for the $600 outright. So I would say you are out $600 unless your BF can come up with $600 to give you. Consider the $600 a gift.

 

[aps45819]

I am so furious with my best friends baby daddy. Let me tell you why...
I told him the next time she hears from her baby daddy she better tell him I want my money back...all $600 of it. You don't just up and leave your children who have been use to seeing you not every 2 weeks but every day for 5 months. He could've got a local job...y go out of the state? I think he set my BF up...get child support lowered and then get a job cuz u know it takes 3-6 months to revisit the case...

i feel so bad for her...she's struggling and he's been away for a month for this job and they haven't paid him yet.....

if he doesn't pay me my $600 i'll see him in court.

You bytch at the guy to get a job and then bytch when he does. He probably jumped at a chance to get away from his kids moma's harpy shrew best friend.

What exactly will you take him to court for?

 

[Qurious]

I watch enough Judge Judy to know you won't be able to sue him for the $600. You would have to sue her for the $600 and if she thinks he owes her $600, she would have to sue him for the $600. You can't sue him for the $600 outright. So I would say you are out $600 unless your BF can come up with $600 to give you. Consider the $600 a gift.

the $600 was child support she should've got but wasn't receiving from him because he's not working...

so once he starts working he should be paying the child support and she can give it to me otherwise, i can get it from him.

 

[Qurious]

You bytch at the guy to get a job and then bytch when he does. He probably jumped at a chance to get away from his kids moma's harpy shrew best friend.

What exactly will you take him to court for?

He could've gotten a job locally. His children love him and then for him to up and leave whether it was to get away or if it was really for a job I think was selfish.

And then not to send any money home is just trifling.

 

[jetmonkey]

Why would he give you money when he didn't borrow any from you Good luck with that!

the $600 was child support she should've got but wasn't receiving from him because he's not working...

so once he starts working he should be paying the child support and she can give it to me otherwise, i can get it from him.

 

[Kain99]

I'll be honest with you. The economy sucks and the job market is tight! Be proud of him for taking the first offer. Shows that he is responsible.

 

[aps45819]

the $600 was child support she should've got but wasn't receiving from him because he's not working...

so once he starts working he should be paying the child support and she can give it to me otherwise, i can get it from him.

Let me be the one to point out that legally, him owing her money has noting to do with you.

 

[kwillia]

otherwise, i can get it from him.

No really. He doesn't owe you $600. Your BF owes you $600. He may owe your BF$600, but that has nothing to do with the $600 you lent your BF. He didn't make any agreement with you for the $600. Your BF made the agreement with you for as to how you'd get your $600 back. She can't speak on his behalf.

 

[Sweet 16]

y go out of the state?

To get away from the mother and the long arm of the law.

they haven't paid him yet.....

I'll bet.

i'll see him in court.

No you won't.

 

[Qurious]

I'll be honest with you. The economy sucks and the job market is tight! Be proud of him for taking the first offer. Shows that he is responsible.

That wasn't the first offer though...he has military background...she told me she gave him leads to work in security on one of the bases ..she spoke with one of her co-workers husbands who is in charge of the hiring on the base and said they were so desperate for people his application would be put straight through.

I would think any father who wants to remain close to his children with flexible hours would take that job...instead of up and leaving them and not seeing them for 2 months straight and not sending money home to help out the mom.

 

[Qurious]

No really. He doesn't owe you $600. Your BF owes you $600. He may owe your BF$600, but that has nothing to do with the $600 you lent your BF. He didn't make any agreement with you for the $600. Your BF made the agreement with you for as to how you'd get your $600 back. She can't speak on his behalf.

 

[Xaquin44]

What is a baby daddy?

Is it a baby who somehow became a father?

Did you mean 'The baby's daddy'?