How young??

[poster]

Alrighty... I know I've got a few years yet, but I'm beginning to wonder how soon I should be prepared.

I once read that a girl usually starts about the same age her mother did. Then more recently I read that girls these days are maturing faster than they used to, usually about a year younger than their mothers.

So for all you mothers of pubescent girls, how did your daughter's starting age compare to yours?

She hasn't started her period yet but she it "developing" already so..
I'd say she's an easy year ahead of me. She's already started in a training bra and needs/uses deodorant. This all began at an early 8. Her newest development is one single hair under each arm. I'm thinking it'll happen before she's 10, I'm holding out for longer though.

I should add - her father is in denial and says the day will never come.
Boy is he in for an awakening.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Are you sure she's too young for a pelvic? I'd consult with a gyno anyway if you have questions. I was at the doc yesterday, and as it happened, my grandmother was there at the same time. When the doc discovered we were related, he went through the rest of my family..."so that means X is your aunt and Y is your cousin...etc."

He even mentioned my 14 year old cousin. Now why would a gyno know my 14 year old cousin if she weren't a patient? I didn't ask, privacy issues and all that, plus I was still freaked out that he'd just seen my grandmother.

I don't know if she is "too young" but they can't do a Pap on her.

 

[Pooh31]

Are you sure she's too young for a pelvic? I'd consult with a gyno anyway if you have questions. I was at the doc yesterday, and as it happened, my grandmother was there at the same time. When the doc discovered we were related, he went through the rest of my family..."so that means X is your aunt and Y is your cousin...etc."

He even mentioned my 14 year old cousin. Now why would a gyno know my 14 year old cousin if she weren't a patient? I didn't ask, privacy issues and all that, plus I was still freaked out that he'd just seen my grandmother.

Yes, that is what my gyno told me. She said that she would not do a pap on her at this age. I had to go on B/C at an ealry age to regulate my periods and I was afraid of the same thing for her, so I took her in. My gyno assured me that it would regulate itself and for the most part it did.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

What does her doctor say?

Most girls that young have irregular cycles, so that shouldn't be a factor, at least not yet. As far as being heavy, that's subjective. What's normal for some might be heavy for someone else.

I was on a pill similar to Loestrin and it seriously messed up my system, which is one thing for a 30-something, but I'd worry about the effect it would have on a still developing girl. Besides the fact that it ultimately failed in its primary purpose.

 

[Beelzebaby666]

Well, the kiddo is adamantly refusing the Pap. Which means that there will be no BC and she will have to tough it out until she's ready. She also doesn't want to change doctors to a female and I know she's not letting a male doctor check her out.
SO, I'll just wait until next summer and ask her what she wants to do. If she prefers the periods to the alternative and the cramps and acne and mood swings, it's her prerogative.

In the mean time I'll be getting her used to the idea of a Pap.

 

[Mousebaby]

I've got the same problem with my daughter and she is 11. I have asked her several times if she wanted to go to the "Lady doctor" and get "medicine" that will make it not so heavy. She refuses to go to the "Lady doctor"! What sux even worse now, I am switching docs and this one is male. I REALLY think I am going to have to tie her up and take her when the time comes. I was told that she needs to be seen within 3 yrs. of starting her period or when she becomes sexually active, whichever comes first. I hope 3 yrs. does!

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Well, the kiddo is adamantly refusing the Pap. Which means that there will be no BC and she will have to tough it out until she's ready. She also doesn't want to change doctors to a female and I know she's not letting a male doctor check her out.
SO, I'll just wait until next summer and ask her what she wants to do. If she prefers the periods to the alternative and the cramps and acne and mood swings, it's her prerogative.

In the mean time I'll be getting her used to the idea of a Pap.

Well, until she has sex, she can't have a Pap unless somehow physically that part of her anatomy has miraculously already taken care of itself. Personally, I think parents are pushing their children into adulthood much to fast than necessary. Parents should stop pushing the pills, and all of these stupid unnecessary doctors visits. When girls get old enough to start making some of their own decisions, then fine. I'm for the "Old Fashioned" way of going to the store, buying the good ole reliable "Midol, Tylenol or Pamprin", big ole box of pads or tampons and suffer through it. When "boys" start entering into the picture on a regular basis and it becomes more than "Oh, he's so cute", then it's time to have the "talk" or "the other talk".

 

[Beth_kennedy]

Both my daughters had their pap after the age of 13. Birth control at the age of 17 and 19.

Sure their periods were a little rough at times but most are. Thankfully theirs was the usual cramping, bloating, blah blah blah. They endured without having to have BC. Midol sure was a life saver though...

 

[Beelzebaby666]

Well, until she has sex, she can't have a Pap unless somehow physically that part of her anatomy has miraculously already taken care of itself. Personally, I think parents are pushing their children into adulthood much to fast than necessary. Parents should stop pushing the pills, and all of these stupid unnecessary doctors visits. When girls get old enough to start making some of their own decisions, then fine. I'm for the "Old Fashioned" way of going to the store, buying the good ole reliable "Midol, Tylenol or Pamprin", big ole box of pads or tampons and suffer through it. When "boys" start entering into the picture on a regular basis and it becomes more than "Oh, he's so cute", then it's time to have the "talk" or "the other talk".

How is it possible for you to type like the teacher from Charlie Brown??
:whawhawhwaawahwahwah:

 

[Dye Tied]

I've got the same problem with my daughter and she is 11. I have asked her several times if she wanted to go to the "Lady doctor" and get "medicine" that will make it not so heavy. She refuses to go to the "Lady doctor"! What sux even worse now, I am switching docs and this one is male. I REALLY think I am going to have to tie her up and take her when the time comes. I was told that she needs to be seen within 3 yrs. of starting her period or when she becomes sexually active, whichever comes first. I hope 3 yrs. does!

If you are talking birth control and a gynecologist to your 11 year old, why aren't you using proper terminology? "lady dr." and "medicine" Get real.

Does she think babies come from the tummy and her vagina is a peepee?

 

[Chasey_Lane]

My daughter can choose her own BC when she's 18.

 

[kwillia]

My daughter can choose her own BC when she's 18.

How'd that work for your mom?

 

[Pandora]

Funny how, after you have a baby, the OBGYN isn't a big deal...

I have a girlfriend, beautiful girl, who remained a virgin until she got married at 28-29 years old (it was a choice based on her faith) and had pre-cancerous cells in a pap, which happened to be her first pap when she was 22-23. Don't think a woman doesn't need a pelvic exam or pap because she isn't using her vagina that is a common misconception.

I raised my 2 sisters and believe it or not, I told them if they think they are big enough to have sex, they are big enough to get their own birth control, but neither ever complained of ‘bad’ periods either.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

How'd that work for your mom?

It didn't.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Funny how, after you have a baby, the OBGYN isn't a big deal...

I have a girlfriend, beautiful girl, who remained a virgin until she got married at 28-29 years old (it was a choice based on her faith) and had pre-cancerous cells in a pap, which happened to be her first pap when she was 22-23. Don't think a woman doesn't need a pelvic exam or pap because she isn't using her vagina that is a common misconception.
I raised my 2 sisters and believe it or not, I told them if they think they are big enough to have sex, they are big enough to get their own birth control, but neither ever complained of ‘bad’ periods either.

You do have a good point, but my doctor (years ago) wouldn't do a Pap on me for the obvious reasons but I was still "old enough" to make my own decisions. So, that gives you some idea that I wasn't "under age". I wonder what would have happened, on a hypathetical note, had I decided to wait longer? How would they have handled that?