“Ultimately I felt like we weren’t compatible, even though we have a lot of love for each other,” she said in the clip, which has been viewed by more than 357,000 people.
“As a last straw, we decided to do a performance improvement plan. For those of you not (working) in tech, a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) … is what you get put on when they’re about to fire you.
“And before you come at me, I know it’s kind of harsh to some of you, but he’s an engineer and sometimes it’s really hard to communicate with him without using something that he can already relate to. Plus, he kind of liked it.”
Hui went on to explain the couple had “a shared note with daily and weekly tasks he needed to do, and set of things that he needed to work on, and it worked out really well.”
So well, in fact, that they continue to use a similar system for “household chores” and “things that he’s responsible for … that has been the only thing that has stuck and works.”
“Like anything I need done, I just add it onto the board and he’ll get it done — but if I just tell him, he’ll forget about it,” Hui said.
“We also do weekly retrospectives where we check in with each other at the end of each week to see how we’re doing and that’s my favorite.”
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“As a last straw, we decided to do a performance improvement plan. For those of you not (working) in tech, a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) … is what you get put on when they’re about to fire you.
“And before you come at me, I know it’s kind of harsh to some of you, but he’s an engineer and sometimes it’s really hard to communicate with him without using something that he can already relate to. Plus, he kind of liked it.”
Hui went on to explain the couple had “a shared note with daily and weekly tasks he needed to do, and set of things that he needed to work on, and it worked out really well.”
So well, in fact, that they continue to use a similar system for “household chores” and “things that he’s responsible for … that has been the only thing that has stuck and works.”
“Like anything I need done, I just add it onto the board and he’ll get it done — but if I just tell him, he’ll forget about it,” Hui said.
“We also do weekly retrospectives where we check in with each other at the end of each week to see how we’re doing and that’s my favorite.”
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I put my boyfriend on a Performance Improvement Plan to save our relationship
A woman has divided social media after revealing she put her boyfriend on a Performance Improvement Plan to save their relationship.
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