If you had a choice...

[CityGrl]

If you had a choice, would you:

A) Stay home with the kids
B) Work part-time
C) Work full-time and put the kids in daycare

Give me examples and supporting evidence! TIA!

 

[pixiegirl]

If you had a choice, would you:

A) Stay home with the kids
B) Work part-time
C) Work full-time and put the kids in daycare

Give me examples and supporting evidence! TIA!

I'd for sure work part time. I miss my kids terribly while I'm at work. I'd still like to work some though just to have some sort of outlet.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

If you had a choice, would you:

A) Stay home with the kids
B) Work part-time
C) Work full-time and put the kids in daycare

Give me examples and supporting evidence! TIA!

Most Definately A.....if possible I wanna be the one to raise my child/children 24 hours a day 7 days a week, I think to unnecessarily put them in daycare is horrible....

 

[kwillia]

Where's the "stay at home but send the kids to full-time daycare" choice...

 

[Tigerlily]

 

[CityGrl]

Jinx!!!!!!!!!!

 

[pixiegirl]

Where's the "stay at home but send the kids to full-time daycare" choice...

If money wasn't an opion of course I'd stay at home and have a live-in nanny to help. That way if I needed some "me" time I could have it. Alas, I did it for love instead of money.....

 

[CMC122]

Where's the "stay at home but send the kids to full-time daycare" choice...

 

[CityGrl]

Most Definately A.....if possible I wanna be the one to raise my child/children 24 hours a day 7 days a week, I think to unnecessarily put them in daycare is horrible....

Don't you think you'd get bored, or need to have some adult interaction?

 

[CMC122]

Don't you think you'd get bored, or need to have some adult interaction?

I stay home and boredom isn't an issue but the need for adult interaction is very important!

 

[Tigerlily]

Jinx!!!!!!!!!!

Yes indeed, So I quickly changed it to a yeah that!! LOL.

 

[kwillia]

If money wasn't an opion of course I'd stay at home and have a live-in nanny to help. That way if I needed some "me" time I could have it. Alas, I did it for love instead of money.....

Same here... In order for us to have medical insurance, I have no choice but to work full-time.

 

[deino2002]

Don't you think you'd get bored, or need to have some adult interaction?

You could always volunteer at school once the child is of age, until then you could join a play group :shrug:

 

[CityGrl]

What about this--would any of you worry that you were giving up your professional goals if you "cut back" to just working part time?

Or does loving your kids kids trump all of that?

 

[morganj614]

When we first got here it was easier for me to stay home. When the kids were 10 and 6 I started working part time and when they were 16 and 12 I worked a full time job and a part time job.
Like it was stated, boredom is not a problem, but you need adult interaction.

If it is affordable I vote stay home.

 

[kwillia]

What about this--would any of you worry that you were giving up your professional goals if you "cut back" to just working part time?

Or does loving your kids kids trump all of that?

I don't love my kids any less because I have them in daycare. In fact, because my kids are in an daycare where they do educational games, arts and crafts, outdoor activities, etc. I find that they are "better rounded" from the interaction with other kids and with an authority figure that isn't thier parent or grandparent. They learn at an early age that the world does NOT revolve around them. This helps tremendously when they need to become functioning members of society.

 

[pixiegirl]

What about this--would any of you worry that you were giving up your professional goals if you "cut back" to just working part time?

Or does loving your kids kids trump all of that?

I think with most normal people your kids trump everything. If B made enough money for me to work part time I'd do it in a heartbeat and pick-up my career when both were in school.

For me one of the hardest parts of working is letting someone else raise my kids 8 hours every day. They are the greatest thing I'll ever do. I may do well in my career but let's face it, I'm not going to cure cancer or even make an impact on mankind. Our kids are the most important thing I'll ever do.

 

[CityGrl]

I don't love my kids any less because I have them in daycare. In fact, because my kids are in an daycare where they do educational games, arts and crafts, outdoor activities, etc. I find that they are "better rounded" from the interaction with other kids and with an authority figure that isn't thier parent or grandparent. They learn at an early age that the world does NOT revolve around them. This helps tremendously when they need to become functioning members of society.

That sounds reasonable...but, given the opportunity, would you rather at least be home part of the time with the kids? Would it make life easier for you and your hubby if say, you could get off work at noon instead of 5?

 

[kwillia]

That sounds reasonable...but, given the opportunity, would you rather at least be home part of the time with the kids? Would it make life easier for you and your hubby if say, you could get off work at noon instead of 5?

It would definately make things easier on the homefront. I always have to fit everything (homework,sports,housework,paperwork,snuggletime,errands,etc) in a 3-4 hour window each evening. Not everything gets done. I wish I could work a compressed work schedule (CWS) so that I could have every other Friday off in order to do chores and errands on that day which would allow for more quality family time on the weekend. I don't have that option because I can't lose any time in the "3-4 hour window".

Disclaimer: The statements above are representative of the early childhood years. When the kids get old enough to do things on their own and help out with chores, the 3-4 hour window allows for a 1 hour period of time in the gym... and some time on the forums at night...

 

[jwwb2000]

I have done the mom works these hours and dad works these hours with no daycare.....Not fun at all, at least for me it wasn't. I love working and I wish I could do a part time gig and make the amount I do now but it isn't practical for my family.