The truth will set us all free.
Once again you did not correctly read and interpret my post. When a spouse/parent walks out of the door and leaves behind their obligations to their spouse and/or their children that is called abandonment - even in the eyes of the law.
Actually that is rightly called baseless slander accusations and it is not "abandonment" at all.
But I must agree that it is called abandonment ONLY by the law and the accusers but by no one else.
The accused feel no guilt under those accusations because they are baseless slanders and no real truth.
One BIG reason that the child support system fails today is because the custodials and the law expect us to believe their pack of lies about the children.
Like the un-truth that the family is abandoned when it is not, like the children are suffering need and they are not.
So long as the custodials and the law base their claims on false slanders as is done now then the resistance will grow, and rightly so.
godsbutterfly said:
No, there is not a support system for the custodial parent and the children until after many legal avenues have been gone down. Meanwhile you end up without a house and without food. Why is it the responsibility of my church to have to give my children and me a bag of food because their father chose to turn his back on them and on his vows? I didn't have enough money to do it all. I did what I could.
The Churches are a fine place to get food and assistance and there is always welfare and food stamps too for the very poorest.
But most custodials have a job and money for their own children.
Providing for the children is what "custody" means.
godsbutterfly said:
You continue to exonerate the one who walks out on their responsibilities and vilify the one who has to drag them thru the court system. Did I get married with the intent it would end in divorce? NO! Did I ask my husband to sleep with other women? NO! Did I give up too easily? I put up with his cheating and his abuse for 20 years so I don't think so. Did I ask him to leave us for alcohol and another woman? NO!
I do not justify the one leaving the family but I do not blame them either.
The separated parents are injured too and it is not a one sided event - except unjustly made one sided by the accusers and to the unjust laws.
godsbutterfly said:
Why then should he get to walk away from those 3 wonderful children who had done nothing wrong? Society and the government didn't create them and they should not be responsible for helping me take care of them. HE should!
The dad has lost his three (3) children and that means "lost" not "won" or "walked away".
You having the 3 "wonderful children" means you have the prize, you have the man's children, and you hold them captive like kidnapped prisoners so the dad must pay you child support cash or else he never sees his wonderful children again.
You are a kid-napper demanding ransom money and the unjust laws empower that wrong doing.
The custodial claim of being harmed by having their own God-given children is an ugly fraud.