morningbell
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Not a pro Hillary thread or anything....
Two instances today are the need for this post. This occured at the pool today. My child was playing with a small group of kids. One of the mommies was sitting and monitoring her little angel and I was swimming close by. My child swam to me and told me theat the boy he was playing with said he was going to punch my son. So I swam over and asked why he thinks punching is ok. Apperently my son was jumoing (along with 2 other children) off the side and had no idea that he was spashing this kid (same age as my son mind you). The kid started splashing my son so my son splashed back thinking this is now a game. Then came the threat of this kid punching my son. I was talking to him by his mother, asking them both gently what would be a better way to handle this. Still mom didn't budge, didn't care that her son was a bully.
Second issue is with my neighbor's child. He is the oldest in his family of 3 and one on the way, happens to be the same age as my son. He was telling me that my son (in front of my son) that he was throwing a toad up in the air and hitting it with a stick, then pulled out the tongue of the toad and squeezed the little limp thing until guts came out. My son adimently telling me "no, he is wrong" the whole time "Damien" was telling these lies, it was Damien that was doing these things and he thought it was funny putting the blame on my son like that.
My son happens to be all about nature and animals, he would never hurt a fly. He finds bugs, reptiles, fish, crabs... etc, identifies them and lets them go. He would rather watch Animal Planet and Nat. Geo. over Disney or Cartoon Network. At my neighbor's house boyfriend of the mom has been arrested at least 3 times in the past 6 months, some sort of drug activity has been occuring, they have dogs that run away on a daily basis, mone being an unaltered Pit, they are too lazy to exercise them, the dogs get beat and I have whitnessed "Damien" beating the dogs. I have turned a blind eye to it all long enough and I'm at the boiling point. I asked my son if he really wanted to play with "Damien" any more and if he thinks this kid is worth his time, my son says no.
Am I doing the right thing or is it medeling to step in by telling these people what "Damien" has been saying/doing? Do I stand idly by letting these creatons dig their own ditch when there are children and animals involved?
UGH!
Two instances today are the need for this post. This occured at the pool today. My child was playing with a small group of kids. One of the mommies was sitting and monitoring her little angel and I was swimming close by. My child swam to me and told me theat the boy he was playing with said he was going to punch my son. So I swam over and asked why he thinks punching is ok. Apperently my son was jumoing (along with 2 other children) off the side and had no idea that he was spashing this kid (same age as my son mind you). The kid started splashing my son so my son splashed back thinking this is now a game. Then came the threat of this kid punching my son. I was talking to him by his mother, asking them both gently what would be a better way to handle this. Still mom didn't budge, didn't care that her son was a bully.
Second issue is with my neighbor's child. He is the oldest in his family of 3 and one on the way, happens to be the same age as my son. He was telling me that my son (in front of my son) that he was throwing a toad up in the air and hitting it with a stick, then pulled out the tongue of the toad and squeezed the little limp thing until guts came out. My son adimently telling me "no, he is wrong" the whole time "Damien" was telling these lies, it was Damien that was doing these things and he thought it was funny putting the blame on my son like that.
My son happens to be all about nature and animals, he would never hurt a fly. He finds bugs, reptiles, fish, crabs... etc, identifies them and lets them go. He would rather watch Animal Planet and Nat. Geo. over Disney or Cartoon Network. At my neighbor's house boyfriend of the mom has been arrested at least 3 times in the past 6 months, some sort of drug activity has been occuring, they have dogs that run away on a daily basis, mone being an unaltered Pit, they are too lazy to exercise them, the dogs get beat and I have whitnessed "Damien" beating the dogs. I have turned a blind eye to it all long enough and I'm at the boiling point. I asked my son if he really wanted to play with "Damien" any more and if he thinks this kid is worth his time, my son says no.
Am I doing the right thing or is it medeling to step in by telling these people what "Damien" has been saying/doing? Do I stand idly by letting these creatons dig their own ditch when there are children and animals involved?
UGH!
while things are happening. That isn't parenting. By you stepping in is teaching your son what to do in matters of this nature. If you do nothing, he is likely to do nothing in the future. Then you have WIMPY PARENTS!!! You step in when it's necessary. Your child is coming to you for help because obviously he doesn't know what to do. Secondly, the other child (1st scenario) was ticked because your child was splashing him and instead of saying "Your splashing me", he didn't express himself and therefore your child didn't know the problem. Yeah, perhaps the child is a bully because it was just as easy for him to move. It's a pool and that what kids do. His mother should have stepped in and corrected her son. 
)How is your son going to learn to deal with conflict when mommys not around?
I'll have to add that to my list. Most of the time I only get out "Is something....." then I get the foot stomp and off she goes, she doesn't hang around for the rest.