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Tigerlily

Luvin Life !!!
MissBtrayed said:
Then don't read it and don't spend the time-

I am not afraid of what I would "lose" - everything I own materially I have bought myself with my own 6 figure income.

I don't expect people to understand anything and the forums are just as for me as they are for you. (I bet when I look I will see that you have probably posted in the thousands?)

for the non-mean people

We have 4 children between us, and I have left before - just about 3 years ago. Then he "convinced" me - the fool I am - that he wasn't unfaithful, wouldn't be abusive, went to counseling, etc - I tried - like a fool. We even built a new house together.

Now, he is back in his "comfort zone" if you will thinking that being an absolute mean SOB is the way to get people to love you - I have gone through feeling sorry for him, I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped
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First of all I will read it if I choose.

Second if I responded I maybe thought that you could use some help.

Third, Apparently your big six income figure check couldn't keep your man in your bed only.

My last thought on your drivel is that if you choose to come to a public forum and WHINE about how you have been wronged and you are not willing to do anything to change it then my response will be to tell you to pack sand.

You are a Drama Mamma. If you really wanted help or advice you would take or seek it when it was offered.

Have a great nights sleep in the spare room while your pig husband of a man (as you have proclaimed him to be) is dreaming of his next trist with his lover.

Who in your house is really the spineless weasel?
 
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MissBtrayed

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Tigerlily said:
First of all I will read it if I choose.

Second if I responded I maybe thought that you could use some help.

Third, Apparently your big six income figure check couldn't keep your man in your bed only.

My last thought on your drivel is that if you choose to come to a public forum and WHINE about how you have been wronged and you are not willing to do anything to change it then my response will be to tell you to pack sand.

You are a Drama Mamma. If you really wanted help or advice you would take or seek it when it was offered.

Have a great nights sleep in the spare room while your pig husband of a man (as you have proclaimed him to be) is dreaming of his next trist with his lover.

Who in your house is really the spineless weasel?
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hmmmm, you sound just like the "HO" would sound - interesting -
pretty darn defensive there for someone "not interested" in the "drama" ??
 
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Tigerlily

Luvin Life !!!
MissBtrayed said:
hmmmm, you sound just like the "HO" would sound - interesting -
pretty darn defensive there for someone "not interested" in the "drama" ??
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Call me whatever names you like. I have lived an learned. I maybe thought you were looking for some advice from those that may have been through it.

Your responses have indicated otherwise so personally I could give two shiats and a grin. Have a great night.:flowers:
 
Loper

Loper

Animal Poor!
DUR LEAVE! I'm not understanding why posting this on a forum will help you make a choice? It's kind of obvious that you know what you should do. Yet, you want to share your effed up life with the world.

Edit: MPD sorry I fell for it... even as stupid as it was... :faint:
 
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MissBtrayed

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Tigerlily said:
Call me whatever names you like. I have lived an learned. I maybe thought you were looking for some advice from those that may have been through it.

Your responses have indicated otherwise so personally I could give to shiats and a grin. Have a great night.:flowers:
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Well - that is certainly not how you come across - you have a great night, too!
 
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MissBtrayed

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....you know, it is really amazing how people think they know someone and their whole personality & story etc, from a few posts on SOMD - I'm just sayin -
 
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Tigerlily

Luvin Life !!!
MissBtrayed said:
Well - that is certainly not how you come across - you have a great night, too!
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I responded to you in the first thread that I linked to this thread. I am not trying to bash you. If you want advice fine. You posted your situation, then we commented. Then it seems you want to back off and try to justify/ defend him.

I have kids too. Having kids does not excuse bad, rude, disrepectful or abusive behavior. I have walked over hot coals in my past and to be honest I put the lighter fluid on many of those fires.

When the day is over and the kids are asleep it all boils down to how much of your sanity are you willing to foresake before you lose your mind or make a change?

This is your life and your choice. The cards are in your hand. You can fold or you can let it ride. Good luck to you all.
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
MissBtrayed said:
So how do you handle a situation where your hubby has started his raging - first bad words and really bad threats and then spits in your face?
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I'm sorry.. did you say he spit in your face??

And he still has his testicles?

You're a moron.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
MissBtrayed said:
...I really think he has a disorder (yes, they really do exist) wanting to get help for him, etc - but I don't believe that he can be helped
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This is simple; if he wants to change and is actually doing it, you have your reasons for hanging in there. If he doesn't want to change, he's not going to and you get to decide what you're going to do based on that. Yes, he's got a disorder.

People decide to accept dealing with abusive spouses all the time and make the best of it. It's a life and we all get to decide what's acceptable and what's not. Just understand this; his issues, whatever they are, are not your fault. Some of your personality traits may exacerbate his problems, but that's not a disorder.

Personality is one thing. What's actually messed up about us as individuals is another.
 
my-thyme

my-thyme

..if momma ain't happy...
Patron
Larry Gude said:
This is simple; if he wants to change and is actually doing it, you have your reasons for hanging in there. If he doesn't want to change, he's not going to and you get to decide what you're going to do based on that. Yes, he's got a disorder.

People decide to accept dealing with abusive spouses all the time and make the best of it. It's a life and we all get to decide what's acceptable and what's not. Just understand this; his issues, whatever they are, are not your fault. Some of your personality traits may exacerbate his problems, but that's not a disorder.

Personality is one thing. What's actually messed up about us as individuals is another.
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