1) I didn't live in sin with my ex. We married first,
then lived together. Had I lived with him long enough (sex aside), I'd have NEVER married him!
2) Yes, I've had a bad lover before (but I won't elaborate on that story here!
) And you can call me a sinner, shallow or whatever you please, but I believe that a compatible, satisfying sex life is a key factor to a healthy relationship/marriage, and you don't find that out unless you test-drive the goods first.
Since we're getting personal, did you and Sharon wait to live together and have sex until after you married?