Just because you get divorced...

[Pro.Freestyle]

I'm in a similar situation now. we bought peak market, things declined, we declined...the kids got to see us grow apart. He got to go to anger management.

It's easy to say what I think I'd do, but right now, from where I sit, I know I need to model peace for my kids, and help them to deal with the uncertainty of our future. I'm trying to give them some coping skills, keep the peace, and show them that two people can end a relationship, or change it, and we chose to change it. At least, for all my suffering and the craziness of going through this, I know my kids are seeing us behave in a healthy manner, with respect, courtesy and cooperation.

I'm pretty sure there are more than five stages of grief, though.

 

[itsbob]

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

Just remember the "Testicles can't touch" rule..

 

[vraiblonde]

Like someone already said, what's the point of divorcing if you're still going to live together? Sucking it up for whatever reason is all well and good, people do it all the time, but why bother divorcing?

 

[Pete]

I'm dating a lady who's ex lives in the bottom half of the house.

Isn't that called a "basement"?

 

[Pete]

Very limber too

Is it a PITA getting her in and out of the chair?

 

[Christy]

Like someone already said, what's the point of divorcing if you're still going to live together? Sucking it up for whatever reason is all well and good, people do it all the time, but why bother divorcing?

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together?

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

 

[Roberta]

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together?

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

Good point.

In Maryland you have to prove that you have not lived together for a year before the Court will grant your divorce.

 

[vraiblonde]

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together?

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements.

 

[Pro.Freestyle]

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements.

it should be law. haha

I'm sure everyone's circumstances are different.

For me, this is going to take time. We can't legally divorce until we separate for a year, and the cost would seriously diminish our standard of living and our children's standard of living.

 

[camily]

Just remember the "Testicles can't touch" rule..

That made me laugh out loud.

 

[Wickedwrench]

Are you kidding? I can't understand why everyone doesn't have separate living arrangements.

It sure keeps the domestic violence calls to the police to a minimum.

 

[Vince]

Good point.

In Maryland you have to prove that you have not lived together for a year before the Court will grant your divorce.

Only if there are minor children involved. Even if there are minor children involved and adultery is proven, you can get an immediate divorce.

 

[Roberta]

On the converse, why bother staying married if you're not living together?

I'm not sure you can even divorce in MD if you're living together. Isn't there a rule that you have to live separate for at least a year before being granted a divorce?

Only if there are minor children involved. Even if there are minor children involved and adultery is proven, you can get an immediate divorce.

You are right about the adultery, but not about the other circumstances divorces. It its still "separated for 1 year". At least in 1995 it was.

 

[lbreder]

I think this is alot more common then people think. My husbands mother and step father were married for only 8 years and got divorced but lived together for the rest of his life. He passed away at there home. They made it work out and it was odd seeing how they got along pretty well. My good friend from school her parents did the same thing. They were divorced and still lived together. After many, many years she FINALLY moved out. I dont think I would know how to handle a situation like that cause I havent been put in it.