Ladies, Iinfidelity is your fault!

[JULZ]

Women who work in strip clubs aren't interest in getting picked up.

just paid!

 

[vraiblonde]

When I want to deal with a child, I will give birth to one not marry one.............

That's pretty much my take on most of Dr. Laura's advice regarding married couples.

 

[HouseCat]

oh so true!!! men cheat for different reasons as do women.....that's the bottom line...even if a woman gives her man everything he says he wants and needs, he could still go out and cheat...same with a woman.

Good point.

I look at it like this. Women are no different than cars to men that cheat. They have their reliable Honda that they use to get from point A to point B. As long as the Honda doesn't act up and require a lot of maintenance, they're happy with it for the service it provides.

Mrs. Honda notices his eyes stray when they're in a parking lot. He's checkin' out the new Charger's headlights, and watching a Porsche's rear-end as it drives away, but she doesn't think anything of it. He's just a car lover... he'd never stray. Little does she know, that when he's out and about, he sees a lot of other models he really likes and would rather have... only, he doesn't have the means to get in one. If he does manage to get lucky, and an opportunity presents itself, he'll take that Jag for a test drive first chance he gets.
Then, he gets to wondering what's under the Corvette's hood. Maybe he'll take that one for a test drive on his next business trip out of town. Who is going to know?

Meanwhile, the ol Honda is just doing what it does best. Be efficient and reliable. And we all know the song and dance.... once Mrs. Honda's warranty runs out and she hits about 200k...he'll trade her in for a younger model.

 

[ImnoMensa]

If we say Dr. Laura is right then men must be to blame when a woman wants a new companion. It works both ways.

IMO most casual affairs are affairs that start out by just happening.

One or the other of the partners got horny at the same time a person of the opposite sex did and it just happens. In these cases its best to just make sure it doesn't happen again and keep quiet.

In the case of hiring prostitutes for sex there is an underlying problem somewhere.
Especially when the Governor wants a sex practice considered dangerous.

Any affair can turn into a life changing experience if allowed to continue past the sex stage and into the emotional stage. At that point its time to be honest and both need to seek an attorney.

But then there are the so-called "open " marriages, the swappers, the perversions, fetishes, some times both partners engage in these, there are no answers that fit all occasions.

 

[nhboy]

Good point.

I look at it like this. Women are no different than cars to men that cheat. They have their reliable Honda that they use to get from point A to point B. As long as the Honda doesn't act up and require a lot of maintenance, they're happy with it for the service it provides.

Mrs. Honda notices his eyes stray when they're in a parking lot. He's checkin' out the new Charger's headlights, and watching a Porsche's rear-end as it drives away, but she doesn't think anything of it. He's just a car lover... he'd never stray. Little does she know, that when he's out and about, he sees a lot of other models he really likes and would rather have... only, he doesn't have the means to get in one. If he does manage to get lucky, and an opportunity presents itself, he'll take that Jag for a test drive first chance he gets.
Then, he gets to wondering what's under the Corvette's hood. Maybe he'll take that one for a test drive on his next business trip out of town. Who is going to know?

Meanwhile, the ol Honda is just doing what it does best. Be efficient and reliable. And we all know the song and dance.... once Mrs. Honda's warranty runs out and she hits about 200k...he'll trade her in for a younger model.

Now, THAT is entertaining!

 

[Larry Gude]

Lol...

its looking like its going to be a good forum day. threads on crabs, incest, faking orgasms, why men cheat...

...under normal circumstances, I'd give you some green for that laugh.

 

[ItalianScallion]

Dr. Laura: Women share blame for cheating men
"“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said."

She's a nut! It's not ALL the woman's responsibility. I've never had a woman cheat on me. She either liked me or she didn't. If she didn't, she left and if she did, we had great conversations about our relationship and we talked about our expectations on both sides. I make sure conversation is first & foremost in my relationships. So many of them fail because of a lack of conversation and from unrealistic expectations. I think some men expect the women to do it all.
Some of my male friends have told me that their wives/girlfriends weren't "giving it up" any more. After talking with their mates, I found out that the husbands/boyfriends weren't meeting their emotional needs. This is truly the guy's fault! Without buying the ladies affections, I had no trouble with my ladies because I "made love" to their minds first. The rest followed normally. FYI, this was BC, (before Christ came into my life), so the rumor control folks don't pick me apart on this.
We live in the "entitlement" age where no one takes responsibility for their own actions and people love to blame others for their short comings. It doesn't take a genius to make a relationship work. It takes work, but the golden rule works well here.

 

[chernmax]

LOL, commenting on this thread could get me banned!!!

 

[High EGT]

oh so true!!! men cheat for different reasons as do women.....that's the bottom line...even if a woman gives her man everything he says he wants and needs, he could still go out and cheat...same with a woman.

even if a woman gives her man everything he says he wants and needs, he could still go out and cheat

In my book that would be one dumb azz man.

 

[RadioPatrol]

"“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said."

She also said, tonight on Vannity and Colmes, that if the guy is a mental case all bets are off ...... basically if a Woman is not helping build her mans self esteem up and all should be building each other being motivating not nagging .... then your man will not want to stray


but the funny thing Dr Laura mention was a former High Priced Call Girl was on the today show spouting " 90% of my clients just wanted a woman to pay attention to him for an hr, that the wife was not doing it at home" and did not want sex .............


funny how both topics are the same .... but Dr Laura gets slammed for it in her book

 

[happyazz]

Dr. Laura: Women share blame for cheating men

"“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said."

Dr. Laura: Women share blame for cheating men - TODAY: People - MSNBC.com

Where the he!! is the red karma when you need it??

 

[wkndbeacher]

It's interesting to see a psychologist using the word "make" when it comes to feelings. Most shrinks will tell you that you can't "make" anyone feel anything - they choose to feel that way.

Dr. Laura's always been a kook when it comes to male/female relationships, though. She told this one woman whose hubby was a sex freak that she should service him whenever he wants it. The woman was like, "Even when he calls me at work and wants me to come home?" And Laura replied, "Yes."

Now that would be a good woman...but the favor would have to go both ways.

 

[camily]

I think it's true. It goes both ways though. When a woman isn't feeling loved, wanted, etc. than someone comes along and makes her feel good, she too is more likely to cheat. She's not saying it is right, or that it is excusable, just that that is how it works. People don't cheat because they are fulfilled and happy.
Mars and Venus.
Women mistake what THEY need in a relatinoship as what their man needs in a relationship. What a woman finds to be caring and showing feelings, a man interprets a different way. As nagging and needy. Often having the opposite effect as what was intended.
What women see as showing interest by asking questions etc, men interpret as not trusting him to solve the problem or whatever.

 

[signora]

I think it's true. It goes both ways though. When a woman isn't feeling loved, wanted, etc. than someone comes along and makes her feel good, she too is more likely to cheat. She's not saying it is right, or that it is excusable, just that that is how it works. People don't cheat because they are fulfilled and happy.
Mars and Venus.
Women mistake what THEY need in a relatinoship as what their man needs in a relationship. What a woman finds to be caring and showing feelings, a man interprets a different way. As nagging and needy. Often having the opposite effect as what was intended.
What women see as showing interest by asking questions etc, men interpret as not trusting him to solve the problem or whatever.

I would never take any advice Dr. Laura gives or consider her as an expert source.

I do agree infidelity goes both ways because it is usually due to something lacking in the relationship like not feeling loved or wanted, lack of communication, etc. But I also think there are some people who like the saying goes "want the cake and eat it too"