Originally posted by Sandy
2ndAmendment & Kain99, In this circumstance I know for a fact that this person he knows will not get involved b/c she has been in the limelight for knowing and associating with persons involved in illegal activities, and I would rather not elaborate any further
Trust me I know the line money talks and it's who you know.
That's all fine. Sounds like you have some challenges ahead. Make no mistake about this guy. His attempt to keep your child is -only- intended to hurt you. That is his #1 intention, even if he has something in his mind about wanting the boy to be safe.
The other big thing for you to do is to keep your cool. Don't go off screaming and being all upset. That will not accomplish anything. Get yourself together and keep yourself together, and have a strong front. If you need to cry and unload, go into the bathroom alone after everyone is asleep, and do it then. Call your folks and cry to them. Ask them (parents, family member, sibling or friend) to help you work through this before you're in the situation.
If he brings the law in, and you're a hysterical mess, then they have all that to sort through before they can deal with the situation. Deal with him on a factual basis. No emotions - period. Deal with your emotions, away from the situation. I know its tough, but you need to deal with this that way. If he sees he can make you angry, or cry, then he'll play that card at every chance. If you get like that, you can't think clearly. He may even push that button and have you working against yourself. At the same time, you deal with him the way you want him to deal with you. Don't play the games with him, don't throw things back in his face, don't make the nasty remarks or belittle him. Deal straight up, no emotions and facts only.
You're the Mom, he's not the dad. He was wrong to kick you out without notice. The boy is your child and will leave with you. You'll be OK as long as you have your stuff together, and keep it together.