Living with your dad???

[Dougstermd]

Ok my dad is up here staying with me this week. He is watching my kids because the daycare lady is on vacation.

He has been widowed a little over a year and I know he is lonely at home by himself :shrug:
Well he is trying to get me to come live with him. I enjoy haveing him around and all but I do not think our livers could handle being roomates.

This all stems from me looking into a job as a gypsie aircraft mechanic starting my travel out in Everrett WA. :Jameo:

Is this a stupid Idea??? I mean we are both single and all so...

 

[toppick08]

Ok my dad is up here staying with me this week. He is watching my kids because the daycare lady is on vacation.

He has been widowed a little over a year and I know he is lonely at home by himself :shrug:
Well he is trying to get me to come live with him. I enjoy haveing him around and all but I do not think our livers could handle being roomates.

This all stems from me looking into a job as a gypsie aircraft mechanic starting my travel out in Everrett WA. :Jameo:

Is this a stupid Idea??? I mean we are both single and all so...

Well Doug, I came back to live with mine, bought the place from him, and take care of his declining health......all is well..we both have our alone times, which makes it good. We were both used to living by ourselves for so long, it takes a while to adjust...but cherish the time you have with your Dad..

 

[RareBreed]

Compromise. Move into the same neighborhood so that you can get together often but aren't living under the same roof. :shrug: I've seen alot of people do that as their parents get older.

 

[toppick08]

How old is your Daddy, Dougster..?

 

[Lilypad]

Hey Dougstermd

My dad passed 1.5 yrs ago, tell your Dad to call me, I'd love to move in with him!

 

[Dougstermd]

Well Doug, I came back to live with mine, bought the place from him, and take care of his declining health......all is well..we both have our alone times, which makes it good. We were both used to living by ourselves for so long, it takes a while to adjust...but cherish the time you have with your Dad..

Now you said you did it it must be the wrong thing to do. I will never get any chics when I tell them I am 38 and still living with my DAD

Its just that he lives down in the Va beach area and I hate the traffic down there

How old is your Daddy, Dougster..?

he is 66yo.

 

[jaybeeztoo]

I say do it Doug. You only have your parents for so long. I think in the end you will cherish the time you got to spend together.

 

[SoMDGirl42]

Have dad move in with you, that way you can always turn the tables. Tell him it's your house, your rules and threaten to kick him out when he gets on your nerves. Life is a circle.

 

[Dougstermd]

Have dad move in with you, that way you can always turn the tables. Tell him it's your house, your rules and threaten to kick him out when he gets on your nerves. Life is a circle.

Yeah I was thinking that also. :

I have offered but he has lived in the same house for 36 years he does not want to leave his habbitat.

 

[backagain39]

I think that living with parents/relatives is a great idea. Other countries have done this for years, the younger ones take care of the older relatives. It makes so much sense....financially, emotionally and just think of the things he can pass on to your children.......

 

[punjabigyrl]

Depending on your situation either move in with him or have him move in with you. which ever one is best. I would do it in a heart beat. The memories for your kids and you. it'll be some adjustments for both of you.

 

[godsbutterfly]

After my Mom died my Dad refused to move in with any of us and he did not want anybody selling their home to come and live with him even though he wasn't in good health at all. One day he fell and broke his hip and was there for hours before he was found when a neighbor found him and called me. I called him everyday and visited several times a week but I wasn't there all of the time. He never fully recovered and he died 15 months after my Mom. If you can't move him in with you or vice versa - does he have friends or other family members to keep him company and check on him? How is his health. I'd factor in those things before making a decision.

P.S. Yes, Va. Beach traffic is a b&*$# especially since they reopened the tolls on the seriously misnamed "Expressway"! Used to live there myself.

 

[Dougstermd]

P.S. Yes, Va. Beach traffic is a b&*$# especially since they reopened the tolls on the seriously misnamed "Expressway"! Used to live there myself.

I grew up there and everytime I go back I get

 

[Kain99]

Living with Dad is a great idea! You will not regret this cherished time Doug.

 

[Beelzebaby666]

My friend Fred has lived with his folks for most of his adult life. His fatehr suffered a troke 20 years ago and he, being the only single child, stepped up and tkaes care of them both.

My OTL asked his father about moving home when he left OH. His father's response was, " About time you moved your ass back to the mountains where you belong." His dad is in his 70's and lives alone, and Kenny will be taking over the place one day anyhow.

I think that your father will love it. He'll get to see the grandkids more and have someone at home to look after, who will look after him. Ihate to see the elderly living alone. The majority of the folks at my work are alone and many literally pay someone to keep company with them and look after their needs.

Go for it honey, you only get one Dad so why not enjoy all the time you two can share together. Imagine it, two bachelors, Doug and the one who made him Doug!! The wimin in your are need to check their panties!!

 

[clevalley]

Compromise. Move into the same neighborhood so that you can get together often but aren't living under the same roof. :shrug: I've seen alot of people do that as their parents get older.

Talking from experience here...

We bought in the neighborhood I grew up in as my parents were aging and dad was in poor health. There home is ~3000 sq.ft. almost 4 acres with a pool... my home is slightly under 3000 sq.ft. with 3 acres... we moved in our home in July of 2000...

My father passed away in December of '01 - I really enjoyed EVERY second I spent up there helping out, but he could do about 80% of the work.

For the past 7 years, my mother can only do about 25% of the work. Most of the burden falls on me on the big outdoor stuff and it does get hard... with the market the way it is now, neither house will sell so we cannot consolidate into one home as she is not getting any younger (she will be 74 this July.) When I cut my grass, I cut her grass; I clean my gutters, I clean her gutters; I do my leaves, I do her leaves - etc... it gets to be a hassle

If it was me, my father was still alive and I was single (even if we were married), I would move in together hands down... with the price of the way things are keeping two homes is really, really tough - not only from a monetary standpoint, but from a maintenance standpoint. If you get along great with him (and have been close with him in the past) I would say go for it. (side note - my Dad and Hoover were really close and got along great)

If it was my mother, she would drive me crazy don't get me wrong, I love my Mom and all, but she would drive me nuts physically being in the same home - and would drive Hoover insane... that is her nature. BUT we have contemplated about building an in-law apartment with a separate entrance and living space.

 

[BadGirl]

If it were possible, I would absolutely take this time to move home with my dad.

You'll have comfort knowing that he's ok and happy, and when he's gone, you'll have great memories to keep your heart warm.


Shortly before my dad died, he came to stay with me in Bethesda so that he could get his daily radiation treatment, and for those 8 weeks, I totally enjoyed being with him, taking care of him, and letting him know how much I loved him. I consider those 8 weeks extremely precious, and feel really honored to have had that time alone with him.

 

[RaspberryBeret]

Talking from experience here...

If it was my mother, she would drive me crazy don't get me wrong, I love my Mom and all, but she would drive me nuts physically being in the same home - and would drive Hoover insane... that is her nature. BUT we have contemplated about building an in-law apartment with a separate entrance and living space.

I think the idea of having an in-law apartment is a great one. You would each have your privacy and independance but would still be close enough to enjoy eachothers company.

 

[Dougstermd]

ok I think you guys have all told me it a great idea. I am gona start sending some resumes down there. The two current positions I saw down there were at FT. Eustis and at Elizabeth City NC. both are a considerable commute from Chesapeake but I do not have to pay for anything while living with dad. well as long as I cook and clean for him.

 

[morningbell]

Ok my dad is up here staying with me this week. He is watching my kids because the daycare lady is on vacation.

He has been widowed a little over a year and I know he is lonely at home by himself :shrug:
Well he is trying to get me to come live with him. I enjoy haveing him around and all but I do not think our livers could handle being roomates.

This all stems from me looking into a job as a gypsie aircraft mechanic starting my travel out in Everrett WA. :Jameo:

Is this a stupid Idea??? I mean we are both single and all so...

BFD if you live together :shrug: If a woman has no concept of family then eff her, she was never worth it in the first place.

I would jump at the chance to live with my mom and help her out, it would be a different situation.

If you truly don't feel like moving with him then let him know you need a change of scenery in WA