Living with your dad???

[foodcritic]

I would say send resumes out and see what happens. If it is meant to be everything will fall into place. You mentioned you have kids and I think it would be wonderful for them to be able to spend time with their grandfather and really get to know him. We are five hours from my father and I wish we were closer so my kids could spend more time with him. I think it also teaches your kids alot about compassion and caring about other people (especially the elderly - not that 60 something is really old these days). It sounds to me they are young enough that a move won't be to hard on them. I would defintily set some ground rules so that when you each need a break from each other you can get it. Good Luck!!!

 

[flomaster]

I am not one to talk about my dad much but I will give you my 2 pennies worth because I think its important. I don't know your dad and his ways so that could be a major factor for you. As for me, my father lives a couple states north of here. He doesn't look for me and I don't for him. I wait for the day that someone tells me he is dead so I can rid myself of any expectations of him. Just the way it is for me. If you can hang with your dad then by all means go for it. Wish I could.

 

[godsbutterfly]

ok I think you guys have all told me it a great idea. I am gona start sending some resumes down there. The two current positions I saw down there were at FT. Eustis and at Elizabeth City NC. both are a considerable commute from Chesapeake but I do not have to pay for anything while living with dad. well as long as I cook and clean for him.

Elizabeth City is not that far from Chesapeake depending on what part of Chesapeake you're in but I will tell you if you have to head there down George Washington Highway that is a real hassle during the summer - especially come the Holidays and weekends! Just break out your favorite music and find your patience!

 

[signora]

It's not a stupid idea. Don't know your situation, but I have a Dad whose 2nd wife brain washed him into disowning his kids so has no clue about me or my siblings lives or his grandkids. He's missing out on a lot, but that's his choice.

So be grateful that you have a Dad that wants you in his life and wants you near him. Life is short - so appreciate the time you have with people you love before they are gone. If you feel that living as roommates may be a little too much, which it can be, then consider living in the same area.

 

[Tigerlily]

Doug,
I think this is really an idea you should consider. Just think of it, you and your dad out on Friday nights looking for mother-daughter pairs to hook up with. Then comparing notes over a diet coke the next morning.

In all seriousness though. It would probably be a great benefit to all of you and when you have the kids you will not only have your dad to help but your sister and "L's" family too. This could really be a win win for you all. The only draw back I could see is that your dad's house is quite small, so elbow room and privacy could be and issue at times.

You have to consider all sides and way the pro's and con's and make the best decision for all of you. I still remember your dad running down the hall with those beads that night, so the two of you will be two peas in a pod. It could be a wonderfull opportunity for you both. It will of course take some time to get adjusted though.

Oh and Slotted lives that way so you'll have someone to go riding with.

 

[Nickel]

ok I think you guys have all told me it a great idea. I am gona start sending some resumes down there. The two current positions I saw down there were at FT. Eustis and at Elizabeth City NC. both are a considerable commute from Chesapeake but I do not have to pay for anything while living with dad. well as long as I cook and clean for him.

We could be neighbors.

ETA: I didn't read for comprehension.

 

[RoseRed]

I am not one to talk about my dad much but I will give you my 2 pennies worth because I think its important. I don't know your dad and his ways so that could be a major factor for you. As for me, my father lives a couple states north of here. He doesn't look for me and I don't for him. I wait for the day that someone tells me he is dead so I can rid myself of any expectations of him. Just the way it is for me. If you can hang with your dad then by all means go for it. Wish I could.

Mine lives in Taboga.

 

[toppick08]

It's not a stupid idea. Don't know your situation, but I have a Dad whose 2nd wife brain washed him into disowning his kids so has no clue about me or my siblings lives or his grandkids. He's missing out on a lot, but that's his choice.

So be grateful that you have a Dad that wants you in his life and wants you near him. Life is short - so appreciate the time you have with people you love before they are gone. If you feel that living as roommates may be a little too much, which it can be, then consider living in the same area.

Good point...

Also Doug, I don't know if you have any siblings, but this would also be a good time to discuss family issues that will occur at the "end", with your Dad. You could ease his mind by shoring up things such as his will, how you could take care of his material, financial, and health issues...Don't mean to sound morbid, but death is real and unpredictable.
Also, if you are able to, buy the place from him, help him out as much as you can, enjoy your time with him, and listen to his advice. It can be done, and I guarantee, you will be his best friend.

later.....

 

[Dougstermd]

Doug,
I think this is really an idea you should consider. Just think of it, you and your dad out on Friday nights looking for mother-daughter pairs to hook up with. Then comparing notes over a diet coke the next morning.

In all seriousness though. It would probably be a great benefit to all of you and when you have the kids you will not only have your dad to help but your sister and "L's" family too. This could really be a win win for you all. The only draw back I could see is that your dad's house is quite small, so elbow room and privacy could be and issue at times.

You have to consider all sides and way the pro's and con's and make the best decision for all of you. I still remember your dad running down the hall with those beads that night, so the two of you will be two peas in a pod. It could be a wonderfull opportunity for you both. It will of course take some time to get adjusted though.

Oh and Slotted lives that way so you'll have someone to go riding with.