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Marriage/relationships @ age 40+
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backagain39
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I don't understand the people that say that they hate living alone....are you kidding me????
I have FULL charge of my time. I can sleep in or I can stay out all night. I can get into the car and leave for a weekend anytime that I want. I can call or go out with anyone that I want.
All my money is MINE MINE MINE........
I don't have to do another person's stinky laundry or do their errands....
I can stay in the tub for hours, and the remote is MINE....LOL
I do not have someone else's drama or problems..........
I love being alone.................
I have FULL charge of my time. I can sleep in or I can stay out all night. I can get into the car and leave for a weekend anytime that I want. I can call or go out with anyone that I want.
All my money is MINE MINE MINE........
I don't have to do another person's stinky laundry or do their errands....
I can stay in the tub for hours, and the remote is MINE....LOL
I do not have someone else's drama or problems..........
I love being alone.................
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I don't understand the people that say that they hate living alone....are you kidding me????
I have FULL charge of my time. I can sleep in or I can stay out all night. I can get into the car and leave for a weekend anytime that I want. I can call or go out with anyone that I want.
All my money is MINE MINE MINE........
I don't have to do another person's stinky laundry or do their errands....
I can stay in the tub for hours, and the remote is MINE....LOL
I do not have someone else's drama or problems..........
I love being alone.................
Justwaitin
Live 4 today!
Marriage would be great....with an actual grown up. So tired of the head games. What ever happened to long lasting deep emotional relationships? It's too easy to leave these days, people just up and go..it's sad.
backagain39
New Member
Because people are selfish and only think of theirselves.
I was married for 24 years and it was no picnic because I was the caretaker, for better or worse.
I will not do that again............so since it's my time to be selfish I will not drag another person into my happiness............
Justwaitin
Live 4 today!
Because people are selfish and only think of theirselves.
I was married for 24 years and it was no picnic because I was the caretaker, for better or worse.
I will not do that again............so since it's my time to be selfish I will not drag another person into my happiness............
Yah, but my problem is that i'm not happy..so busy trying to make everyone else happy, i think i lost me somewhere.
Queenofdenile1
Love is Blind
I agree. I can't find anyone who is an actual grownup and doesn't play the stupid games. 99.9% of the reason why I'm still single. I like doing what I want but it also gets lonely too.
Justwaitin
Live 4 today!
Yes, it does get lonely. If I hear that "i'm not ready" phrase from a 40 + man again i'm going to scream 
4d2008
New Member
Yes I know Im not in the 40+ range so my opinion shouldnt be in this BUT, Ill join the convo n e ways.... Just turned 33 this weekend. Ive been married twice already. First marriage lasted 10+ yrs with 3 sons, Second marriage didnt make it the first year. Numerous relationships in between and after obviously none of those made it either. Very sick of being alone but even more sick of breaking up / divorcing. Cant seem to find "the one" but also not giving up yet. I just know my "one" isnt in Wa. Ok. Az. Fl. Md. Va. Nc.. Next state please.
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toppick08
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Yes I know Im not in the 40+ range so my opinion shouldnt be in this BUT, Ill join the convo n e ways.... Just turned 33 this weekend. Ive been married twice already. First marriage lasted 10+ yrs with 3 sons, Second marriage didnt make it the first year. Numerous relationships in between and after obviously none of those made it either. Very sick of being alone but even more sick of breaking up / divorcing. Cant seem to find "the one" but also not giving up yet. I just know my "one" isnt in Wa. Ok. Az. Fl. Md. Va. Nc.. Next state please.
Avoid Iowa too.....
daisycreek
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Avoid Iowa too.....
and Minnesota....
Justwaitin
Live 4 today!
Yes I know Im not in the 40+ range so my opinion shouldnt be in this BUT, Ill join the convo n e ways.... Just turned 33 this weekend. Ive been married twice already. First marriage lasted 10+ yrs with 3 sons, Second marriage didnt make it the first year. Numerous relationships in between and after obviously none of those made it either. Very sick of being alone but even more sick of breaking up / divorcing. Cant seem to find "the one" but also not giving up yet. I just know my "one" isnt in Wa. Ok. Az. Fl. Md. Va. Nc.. Next state please.
You are entitled to your opinion no matter your age..Happy Birthday by the way. Hope it was a good one. I have been married a few times as well..with 3 sons as well. One is all grown up and on his own though..miss him
I guess all i'm looking for is plain & straight honesty and something that will stick, call me hopeless, but I still dream of growing old with somebody in a rocking chair on my front porch.....Hey !!! Maryland isn't so bad. Although, I am from Maine originally
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Consider this...
...for moment; you are one of six billion on this planet. If there even is your ONE and only ONE, the odds of you finding each other are not so good. So, this 'one' business is, obviously, for those who happily stay together, more a function of settling for good enough.
That's not to say that people who claim to have found 'the one' are not being honest. There is, obviously, adapting that goes on in couples that stay together and, just as obvious, some moving apart that occurs in the break ups.
So, figure there is probably only so many personality types among people. There certainly are not 6 billion personality TYPES. Six billion personalities, yes, types, no. Some say there are 16 personality types. Even if it's 100 types, you've narrowed the field exponentially.
So, if you can figure out the personality type that works for you, assuming you've figured yourself out and even know what would work for you, now you're got a manageable number to work with.
Once you get that straightened out, all of a sudden you're not looking for one in six billion, you're looking for 375,000,000 in 6,000,000,000, 1 in 16.
Maryland, with 5,000,000 people or so, 1/2 of which should be your gender of preference, roughly, and maybe 20% or so in your age bracket means 500,000of which 1 in 16 fit your type or some 30,000 people in Maryland alone should suit you.
Relationships by the numbers.
Yes I know Im not in the 40+ range so my opinion shouldnt be in this BUT, Ill join the convo n e ways.... Just turned 33 this weekend. Ive been married twice already. First marriage lasted 10+ yrs with 3 sons, Second marriage didnt make it the first year. Numerous relationships in between and after obviously none of those made it either. Very sick of being alone but even more sick of breaking up / divorcing. Cant seem to find "the one" but also not giving up yet. I just know my "one" isnt in Wa. Ok. Az. Fl. Md. Va. Nc.. Next state please.
...for moment; you are one of six billion on this planet. If there even is your ONE and only ONE, the odds of you finding each other are not so good. So, this 'one' business is, obviously, for those who happily stay together, more a function of settling for good enough.
That's not to say that people who claim to have found 'the one' are not being honest. There is, obviously, adapting that goes on in couples that stay together and, just as obvious, some moving apart that occurs in the break ups.
So, figure there is probably only so many personality types among people. There certainly are not 6 billion personality TYPES. Six billion personalities, yes, types, no. Some say there are 16 personality types. Even if it's 100 types, you've narrowed the field exponentially.
So, if you can figure out the personality type that works for you, assuming you've figured yourself out and even know what would work for you, now you're got a manageable number to work with.
Once you get that straightened out, all of a sudden you're not looking for one in six billion, you're looking for 375,000,000 in 6,000,000,000, 1 in 16.
Maryland, with 5,000,000 people or so, 1/2 of which should be your gender of preference, roughly, and maybe 20% or so in your age bracket means 500,000of which 1 in 16 fit your type or some 30,000 people in Maryland alone should suit you.
Relationships by the numbers.
Lugnut
I'm Rick James #####!
This thread has much potential for bitterness! 
Hey Larry, now tell him how many OTHER dudes are competing for that 1 in 16 girl!!
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Relationships by the numbers.
Hey Larry, now tell him how many OTHER dudes are competing for that 1 in 16 girl!!
Larry Gude
Strung Out
You failed...
...math, didn't you?
This thread has much potential for bitterness!
Hey Larry, now tell him how many other dudes are competing for that 1 in 16 girl!!
...math, didn't you?
Lugnut
I'm Rick James #####!
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Well...
...I'm not sure if you're kidding or what, so, just to be clear, given that the man:woman ratio is essentially 1:1, there should be, on paper, 30,000 boys looking for 30,000 girls in Maryland. That should hold true in Virginia. Enter into West Virginia and your chances improve vastly with the reduction in types.
It was funny when I THOUGHT it...
...I'm not sure if you're kidding or what, so, just to be clear, given that the man:woman ratio is essentially 1:1, there should be, on paper, 30,000 boys looking for 30,000 girls in Maryland. That should hold true in Virginia. Enter into West Virginia and your chances improve vastly with the reduction in types.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That...
...one is growing on me. I like that; "Well, it was funny when I thought it..."
...one is growing on me. I like that; "Well, it was funny when I thought it..."
Lugnut
I'm Rick James #####!
I was kidding on the math. More a comment on all the griping. Even so, it was funnier in my head. I should have left it there!