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vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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As you might have guessed, dating is my newest human behavior interest. :jet:

So! Match.com, or any other online "dating" site - what's the attraction? I skimmed it and honestly, I can pick up inappropriate men who lie about their lives at any bar; don't have to advertise for them.

Has anyone ever met their soul mate by picking through a bunch of profiles and going on interminable dates with mostly crazy people? Back in the day we used to do things - go out, hang with friends, meet people IRL, and find someone we were interested in that way. No fuss, no muss, no real time wasted because you can weed them out within seconds. Plus you had fun doing it instead of reading a bunch of padded resumes and sifting through 10 year old photos.

It's a numbers game, where you go on x-number of dates to find one or two people you might want to see again. Then they act stupid and you're back to the old drawing board. That seems a colossal waste of time to me because I know a zillion people I'd rather be spending that time with, even knowing there is no romance involved. I would seriously rather sit home watching TV with my dog than having dinner with some stranger who should consider checking himself in somewhere.

What am I missing?
 
kwillia

kwillia

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My brother found his soulmate online. They are the perfect fit for each other. He would have never found her on his own.
 
nobody really

nobody really

I need a nap
i wouldn't mind trying speed dating. i could have some fun with that.

there is a organization - dc singles or singles in dc....i had the link, can't find it (maybe google it). but, they did stuff in groups, so you could take a gf, and it seemed fun. never got an oppurtunity to try it out, but a friend of mine did, she had a blast and since she always took a gf, it was never a wasted evening, and she did meet some neat guys.

i thought match.com started something like that. that wouldn't be so bad.
 
Misfit

Misfit

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I found my soul mate online. She’s the kindest, gentlest most loving, sexiest women I've ever known.






















But my wife say's I can't see her anymore :mad:
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

DEEKAYPEE8569

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vraiblonde said:
As you might have guessed, dating is my newest human behavior interest. :jet:

So! Match.com, or any other online "dating" site - what's the attraction? I skimmed it and honestly, I can pick up inappropriate men who lie about their lives at any bar; don't have to advertise for them.

Has anyone ever met their soul mate by picking through a bunch of profiles and going on interminable dates with mostly crazy people? Back in the day we used to do things - go out, hang with friends, meet people IRL, and find someone we were interested in that way. No fuss, no muss, no real time wasted because you can weed them out within seconds. Plus you had fun doing it instead of reading a bunch of padded resumes and sifting through 10 year old photos.

It's a numbers game, where you go on x-number of dates to find one or two people you might want to see again. Then they act stupid and you're back to the old drawing board. That seems a colossal waste of time to me because I know a zillion people I'd rather be spending that time with, even knowing there is no romance involved. I would seriously rather sit home watching TV with my dog than having dinner with some stranger who should consider checking himself in somewhere.

What am I missing?
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Taking this tred on a wide turn; would anyone here be averse to being matched with/actually dating etc., someone of a different nationality?
B/W/the generalizing term "Asian" and so on.....
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

DEEKAYPEE8569

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beachcat said:
i wouldn't mind trying speed dating. i could have some fun with that.

there is a organization - dc singles or singles in dc....i had the link, can't find it (maybe google it). but, they did stuff in groups, so you could take a gf, and it seemed fun. never got an oppurtunity to try it out, but a friend of mine did, she had a blast and since she always took a gf, it was never a wasted evening, and she did meet some neat guys.

i thought match.com started something like that. that wouldn't be so bad.
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Isn't speed dating kinda like a job interview? I mean, how much useful information can two people exchange in between bell rings, or whatever is used to signify 'okay switch' in order to decide, 'Yup, he or she is who I could see myself with'?

I think that Match.com started what amounts to mixers.
 
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daylily

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vraiblonde said:
As you might have guessed, dating is my newest human behavior interest. :jet:

So! Match.com, or any other online "dating" site - what's the attraction? I skimmed it and honestly, I can pick up inappropriate men who lie about their lives at any bar; don't have to advertise for them.

Has anyone ever met their soul mate by picking through a bunch of profiles and going on interminable dates with mostly crazy people? Back in the day we used to do things - go out, hang with friends, meet people IRL, and find someone we were interested in that way. No fuss, no muss, no real time wasted because you can weed them out within seconds. Plus you had fun doing it instead of reading a bunch of padded resumes and sifting through 10 year old photos.

It's a numbers game, where you go on x-number of dates to find one or two people you might want to see again. Then they act stupid and you're back to the old drawing board. That seems a colossal waste of time to me because I know a zillion people I'd rather be spending that time with, even knowing there is no romance involved. I would seriously rather sit home watching TV with my dog than having dinner with some stranger who should consider checking himself in somewhere.

What am I missing?
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I actually did meet my soul mate online! :yahoo:

I fled NY to get away from my psycho ex-fiance and transferred to DC. After 6 months, I finally decided I was ready to start dating again. My manager had been harrassing me to try Match.com FOREVER because she finally met her hubby on there....after meeting/dating a bunch of jackasses. I never had any interest in the online dating thing but decided...what the hell? I signed up for eharmony because they do the "matching" for you and only send you profiles of those who you're supposedly compatible with. I was working crazy hours with lots of travel involved, I didn't have the time to waste looking through pages and pages of guys who weren't right for me. I was on eharmony for only 3 weeks and my hubby was on for 2 weeks when we were matched. 7 1/2 years later, we couldn't be happier. We're so much alike, it's crazy. He lived 2 hours from me (in the sticks of PA) so we probably wouldn't have ever crossed paths if we didn't give it a shot.

So.....try eharmony, lol.
 
migtig

migtig

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I meet my husband at the St. Mary's County Oyster Festival. But since he's a forumite, and the person who introduced us was a forumite, I guess technically we met through a website, SoMd.com. Though I don't remember reading any of his posts or knowing his screen name before meeting him. :shrug:

On further thought, I rarely see his posts or screen name even knowing who he is. :lmao:
 
GWguy

GWguy

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I found match.com and others to be a waste of time and money. Everyone I contacted lied in their profile and posted 10 year old pictures. When you meet them for real, it's kind of hard to overlook the falsehoods, questioning if anything they say will be true. They've already set the precedence. Disappointing.
 
nobody really

nobody really

I need a nap
DEEKAYPEE8569 said:
Isn't speed dating kinda like a job interview? I mean, how much useful information can two people exchange in between bell rings, or whatever is used to signify 'okay switch' in order to decide, 'Yup, he or she is who I could see myself with'?

I think that Match.com started what amounts to mixers.
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yeah, but i wonder if you can just ask crazy off the wall questions just to see their reaction. just to have fun. and if they find humor in the questions, i guess that won't be so bad.
 
nobody really

nobody really

I need a nap
belvak said:
I hear commercials on the radio for this "activities club" all the time. Might be worth a try?

Events And Adventures
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i looked in to that, i thought it was REALLY expensive. and they never stop calling. You go on an initial interview, the closest place they could give me was fairfax. they do a background check and a credit check, which is a good thing. but you can do that yourself with the right information.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Okay, so there have been some success stories :yay: I wonder if what you're looking for makes a difference. As in looking for a husband vs. just looking for a fun guy to go out with once or twice a week.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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daylily said:
He lived 2 hours from me (in the sticks of PA) so we probably wouldn't have ever crossed paths if we didn't give it a shot.
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Now, how did that work? As in, how did you have your first date with him being 2 hours away?

Full disclosure:

Larry and I "met" through AOL personals back in 1997. We emailed and talked on the phone for almost two months before we actually had our first date. But I was younger then and had more patience. These days I'd rather hit up wing night with BG and Bob than drive two hours to meet some strange guy.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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another forumite from here that recently married met their spouse they met on and on-line dating site. I'll leave it up to that person if they wish to discuss it.

I have a cousin that met his wife on line years ago, when on-lining dating was brand new and no one did it. They are still married, it's been about 15 years or more now. She was 1500 miles away. They talked on line for many months before finally meeting. When they did, it clicked and she moved here, they got married, and lived happily ever after.

I've known a few others that have had sucess as well.

I say, go for it if you want to. Just be careful.
 
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