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Wenchy

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migtig said:
I meet my husband at the St. Mary's County Oyster Festival. But since he's a forumite, and the person who introduced us was a forumite, I guess technically we met through a website, SoMd.com. Though I don't remember reading any of his posts or knowing his screen name before meeting him. :shrug:

On further thought, I rarely see his posts or screen name even knowing who he is. :lmao:
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The festival was a GOOD day!

As far as match.com goes and other dating sites...I think we get a better perspective of future dates here on the forums.

We get to know people in group settings, or even in regular everyday postings.

We all have blow ups; none of us are perfect; political views; religious, etc.

Match.com and such let a person paint a perfect picture...in many ways.

Then you spend months based on false information; get all dressed up; and go meet somebody you never expected to meet.

If you don't meet somebody here on the forums they probably have somebody for you to meet.

I'm not dating but this is my two cents.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Wenchy said:
As far as match.com goes and other dating sites...I think we get a better perspective of future dates here on the forums.
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Which should really be enough to make us all run screaming. :lmao:

That's my biggest fear about these online dating sites. I'd find some guy, seems cool enough, we meet for drinks, that goes well, we meet for dinner....and then I find out he's (insert username here) on the forums. :twitch:
 
Wenchy

Wenchy

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vraiblonde said:
Which should really be enough to make us all run screaming. :lmao:

That's my biggest fear about these online dating sites. I'd find some guy, seems cool enough, we meet for drinks, that goes well, we meet for dinner....and then I find out he's (insert username here) on the forums. :twitch:
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You went out with my ex? :killingme
 
kwillia

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vraiblonde said:
Okay, so there have been some success stories :yay: I wonder if what you're looking for makes a difference. As in looking for a husband vs. just looking for a fun guy to go out with once or twice a week.
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I do know that my brother had a hard time getting a "match" because he is not a college graduate and the vast majority of women consider that a deal breaker. What is ironic is that my brother is self-educated on a wide variety of subjects and is one of the smartest men I know. He is also financially stable and set to take full retirement at age 55 so right off the bat the assumption that he wasn't educated or made enough money was a bad assumption on their part. :coffee:
 
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daylily

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vraiblonde said:
Okay, so there have been some success stories :yay: I wonder if what you're looking for makes a difference. As in looking for a husband vs. just looking for a fun guy to go out with once or twice a week.
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I think it definitely makes a difference. I had always heard that eharmony was less of a "meat market" site and that people on eharmony were generally more serious about wanting a serious relationship/marriage as opposed to just a fling. Didn't know if it was true when I signed up for it but having done it and gotten quite a few friends to do it, I think it's true. And it's not free so that weeds out some of the cheapos. :killingme

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Now, how did that work? As in, how did you have your first date with him being 2 hours away?

Full disclosure:

Larry and I "met" through AOL personals back in 1997. We emailed and talked on the phone for almost two months before we actually had our first date. But I was younger then and had more patience. These days I'd rather hit up wing night with BG and Bob than drive two hours to meet some strange guy.
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Our first date was in Baltimore, half way between where we both lived. I lived in NW DC and he was in process of moving from York PA to Baltimore (he had just transferred to a job in Baltimore). We actually talked/emailed/texted for a month before we met because I was out in Cali for work, then immediately went back home to NY for a 2 week vacation. He worked Saturdays and we both worked long hours during the week. So we never really hung out during the week. Honestly, at the time I was happy to have my space after spending 6 years in a crappy relationship. I'm not the clingy/need to see you every night kinda person anyway.

I'd drive to Baltimore (an hour away) every Saturday afternoon as he got off work and he'd drive us to York where I'd spend the weekend. Monday morning, he'd drive me back to Baltimore early as hell (don't miss that, lol) and I'd drive to work. Luckily that only lasted a couple of months and he moved to Baltimore, which made things so much easier. Then we moved to Columbia together after dating 9 months because it was half way between both jobs. With the distance, it never would've worked if we weren't meant to be. I don't have the patience to drive all over the place for a jackass! :whistle:
 
onebdzee

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GWguy said:
I found match.com and others to be a waste of time and money. Everyone I contacted lied in their profile and posted 10 year old pictures. When you meet them for real, it's kind of hard to overlook the falsehoods, questioning if anything they say will be true. They've already set the precedence. Disappointing.
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I've heard the same thing about these sites...I've also heard them called "fuke/hook-up sites" by men and women....quite a few people go on those sites with the intention of getting laid

There is one person that I know that has been on several sites for 8-10 years with the full intention of finding several "fwb's"....his live-in girlfriend has no clue that he is on these sites and/or hooking up with others
 
Wenchy

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kwillia said:
I do know that my brother had a hard time getting a "match" because he is not a college graduate and the vast majority of women consider that a deal breaker. What is ironic is that my brother is self-educated on a wide variety of subjects and is one of the smartest men I know. He is also financially stable and set to take full retirement at age 55 so right off the bat the assumption that he wasn't educated or made enough money was a bad assumption on their part. :coffee:
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True, but why did he have a problem finding a suitable woman?

I've dated multimillionaires (which I met when we were young and penniless...I left when there was money...maybe I am a Demoncrat) and even 8th grade dropouts who ended up getting a HS diploma. Kudos to them for getting the diploma.

When a man treats me like a servant I am gone.
 
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My cousin met her husband on Myspace and a friend of mine met her hubby on some other dating site...match, eharmoney...I don't know
 
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daylily

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kwillia said:
I do know that my brother had a hard time getting a "match" because he is not a college graduate and the vast majority of women consider that a deal breaker. What is ironic is that my brother is self-educated on a wide variety of subjects and is one of the smartest men I know. He is also financially stable and set to take full retirement at age 55 so right off the bat the assumption that he wasn't educated or made enough money was a bad assumption on their part. :coffee:
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That's why I liked eharmony. They didn't waste my time. There are certain dealbreakers for me - didn't want to date a smoker, didn't want to date someone who was overly religious because I'm not, didn't want someone who was a lazy bum yet I didn't care if he had a degree or not. My hubby didn't quite finish his degree but is very successful. Glad I wasn't so close minded on that or we never would've been matched.
 
vraiblonde

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DoWhat said:
Me and DidWhat met through Match.com back in 2002, I think.
Got married in 2004, I think.
And we are still married, I ....... nevermind.
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That's right - I forgot that you two met on Match. :yay:

How the hell did you beat out all the scavengers to make that fabulous woman your own??
 
kwillia

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Wenchy said:
True, but why did he have a problem finding a suitable woman?
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He did eventually find a suitable woman and she's pefect for him (and the rest of us (family) love her too!) so it all worked out for the best, but the point is that him not having a college degree eliminated a very large chunk of women... and I do mean a majority... that would even consider getting to know him and I find that ironic considering how educated he really is.
 
Merlin99

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vraiblonde said:
As you might have guessed, dating is my newest human behavior interest. :jet:

So! Match.com, or any other online "dating" site - what's the attraction? I skimmed it and honestly, I can pick up inappropriate men who lie about their lives at any bar; don't have to advertise for them.

Has anyone ever met their soul mate by picking through a bunch of profiles and going on interminable dates with mostly crazy people? Back in the day we used to do things - go out, hang with friends, meet people IRL, and find someone we were interested in that way. No fuss, no muss, no real time wasted because you can weed them out within seconds. Plus you had fun doing it instead of reading a bunch of padded resumes and sifting through 10 year old photos.

It's a numbers game, where you go on x-number of dates to find one or two people you might want to see again. Then they act stupid and you're back to the old drawing board. That seems a colossal waste of time to me because I know a zillion people I'd rather be spending that time with, even knowing there is no romance involved. I would seriously rather sit home watching TV with my dog than having dinner with some stranger who should consider checking himself in somewhere.

What am I missing?
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onebdzee

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kwillia said:
He did eventually find a suitable woman and she's pefect for him (and the rest of us (family) love her too!) so it all worked out for the best, but the point is that him not having a college degree eliminated a very large chunk of women... and I do mean a majority... that would even consider getting to know him and I find that ironic considering how educated he really is.
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everything happens for a reason :hugs:

I think I messaged you son(?) on Facebook last night....check your PM'er in a second please
 
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