"Mommy, a boy in school said he's gay"
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Now quit, dammit! I want some serious input from parents here ... not horned up, fru-fru dog owners. 
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crabcake said:<~~ that was my face when the DQ (who is 6) told me that this morning. Once I got over the initial shock of the statement, I asked her to elaborate a bit and tell me what that meant. She said he told her he's been gay since he was born (again
So I probe further. "What does 'gay' mean?" I ask. "It means he's happy. Why, does 'gay' mean something else?" Why do I have such a smart, inquisitive kid?So, in my endeavor to be honest and open with her about things, I offered up the truth. "It DOES mean 'happy', but yes, it does mean something else too." I briefly explained how, like most relationships/marriages are "boy-girl", there are some boys that like boys, and some girls that like girls. Her reply: "Oh."
If I wasn't awake before that conversation, I sure am now.Anyone else's kids asking questions about sexuality at that age (even though I don't know that that was what she was initially asking)? I have a hard time believing kids today use the term "gay" meaning happy.
Yep, been there done that, and believe me, I was shocked, nearly crap my pants when I was comfronted with the conversation. I thought I'd heard everything, seen a great deal, but I never thought in a million years I'd have to explain to my first grader at the time what gay is and the really shocking part, he had somewhat of a clue.
The nice part, is when I explain something to the oldest, I get to hear it in his terms when he tells the youngest one.
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Kizzy said:Yep, been there done that, and believe me, I was shocked, nearly crap my pants when I was comfronted with the conversation. I thought I'd heard everything, seen a great deal, but I never thought in a million years I'd have to explain to my first grader at the time what gay is and the really shocking part, he had somewhat of a clue.
The nice part, is when I explain something to the oldest, I get to hear it in his terms when he tells the youngest one.
Your's goes to the same B&A center; did he say he heard it from a kid there too or elsewhere? She told me the kid's name; I'll IM that to you.
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crabcake said:
Yep, I am well aware. It was a few weeks ago. I asked my son if he (I want to say 3rd grader) knew what it meant and my son said the boy understood what he said.
Yeah, that's way too young for that sort of stuff. I'd have taken it away from her and just told her it was too old for her and she could have it back in a few years. Then I'd have beat the #### out of the dad.crabcake said:
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There isn't an azzbeating long or hard enough that would knock a shred of common sense into him, unfortunately.vraiblonde said:Yeah, that's way too young for that sort of stuff. I'd have taken it away from her and just told her it was too old for her and she could have it back in a few years. Then I'd have beat the #### out of the dad.
I did ask him, from that point on, to discuss his plans of approaching discussions about sex with me first so that we are both in agreement about not only when, but what is said. Kids today are subjected to too much as it is at a young age. She doesn't need to be 'advanced' in this area just yet. 
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My daughter was 6 when she first asked me what "f#g" meant. I asked her where she heard that word and to my surprise it came from the homeschooled holy roller girl across the street. Turned out she had the whole neighborhood of kids calling the boy up the street that name. Lovely. I told her what it meant and surprisingly she wasn't too shocked either.
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J,
I really think you did exactly the right thing by saying that "sometimes boys like boys and girls like girls in the same way that mommies & daddy's love one another." (like Emmitt & Dakota. That's GAY~!)
I doubt if I'd be telling her that it was "right or wrong." Keep it simple.
But sure as shootin, I'd go to the b/a care center and have a discussion with the director!
I really think you did exactly the right thing by saying that "sometimes boys like boys and girls like girls in the same way that mommies & daddy's love one another." (like Emmitt & Dakota. That's GAY~!)
I doubt if I'd be telling her that it was "right or wrong." Keep it simple.
But sure as shootin, I'd go to the b/a care center and have a discussion with the director!