My husband got the hint!
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morningbell
hmmmmmm
I won't use it if I don't like it, I hate wasting money.
I told my husband what I wanted for my birthday, it wasn’t extravagant. Well, I get home from work and go into our bedroom to change out of my work clothes and hanging on the wall is a flat screen TV and my husband announces happy birthday! Is it what I wanted, nope but it is what he wanted and is trying to pass it off as a birthday present to me. I told him to return it, I don't want it - there was absolutely nothing wrong with our old TV. He says he can't return it because he already tossed out the box it came in. I said that's not what I asked for. He said "I know but this is what I wanted to give you." Yeah, the dumbazz is in the DOGHOUSE!
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wearepbandj
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Our limit is $100. The kids are $200 each. We have only 2 but between b-days and my huge family there is no point on spending a lot of money. Our parents get a gift card and home made gifts from the kids. Our brother and sisters we give a a card and a $25 gift card. I have 7 brother and sisters and he has 2 sisters and a brother in law. I try to start shopping early buying a couple presents a month and putting them in a plastic bin. You never know when something might come up.
LadyWolf
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LOL...That is what I am trying to explain to my mothers SO. I do his Christmas Shopping for her because he doesn't like fighting the crowds. He asks.."What do you think she would want for Christmas?" I say "She likes perfume." He says "No..what about dress slacks?"
I say "You bought her dress slacks 3 years or so ago and she took them back." 
Sometimes... you just can't make it sink in!!!
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I don't need to be surprised. Buy me what I want.
kwillia
n/a
I don't need to be surprised. Buy me what I want.
I heard you had to put up a second tree this year just to "house" all the presents your bought yourself this year... true?
RaspberryBeret
Protected By Trunk Monkey
I drop a hint and then if I don't get what I want then I just go buy it myself. No sense biatching and whining about something when you can easily get it done yourself .......... same goes with chores
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
Buy him high heels and a gift card to a nail salon for his birthday.
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
I drop a hint and then if I don't get what I want then I just go buy it myself. No sense biatching and whining about something when you can easily get it done yourself .......... same goes with chores
Hints are used by people with no backbone.
I'll leave the chore thing alone.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I heard you had to put up a second tree this year just to "house" all the presents your bought yourself this year... true?
The presents I buy for myself don't get wrapped. The presents for me (from hubby) that I buy do.
SamSpade
Well-Known Member
I don't need a surprise, but pleasant surprises are grand.
For example, one Christmas, a friend bought me the DVD set for "Firefly". That was great on so many levels. I never hinted at getting it, nor had it crossed my mind to buy it myself, and as luck would have it - it wasn't the slightest bit expensive. But it meant he'd been listening carefully and made a good choice.
My wife is spot on with this about 90% of the time - gets exactly the right thing at the right time.
Me - I'm terrible at this sort of thing. Really. I can get the right cologne, but still mess it up. I can't pick out clothes, jewelry or any kind of girly thing for my wife. I can pretty much bet whatever I get along those lines, it's going back for a trade in. And my wife really doesn't like surprises. I think last year I asked her what she wanted, and she said something like "these boots, here, that I ordered online - and thank you very much, they fit great".
For some people, they want the right present - surprise doesn't enter into it.
The very best present I ever got, was a wooden baseball bat my brother *made* for me, and if you know my brother, you'd know it took a lot of effort. It was made of the wrong wood, and it was too small, but he spent hours making it, sanding and shaping it. I came this close to crying.
I know this sounds a little maudlin, but the fact is, I spent many years away from home around well meaning people who ALWAYS forgot my birthday and generally ignored me around the holidays - and it taught me that ANYTHING - anything - someone gets you for a gift is wonderful, because it really is the thought that counts. It means they could have just bought presents for their family, but they got one for you. You were important enough to them, they bought you a gift - and they even wrapped it. You've had "friends" who ignored you for years, but this person made you important. I think when people don't appreciate gifts, it's because they've never spent a dozen years or so getting NOTHING.
LadyWolf
New Member
That almost makes me
. Well, but you know sometimes it also applies to people who just don't give a damn about people they are around 99% of the time. You could get a bunch of things, but none of it has meaning because it's just something to say "Hey, I got you something." It is just all in how you look at it.
thurley42
HY;FR
SamSpade
Well-Known Member
It still works, for me. I've been in situations, jobs, where *everyone* ignored me. At times, it seemed like they went out of their way to do it. Now this was years ago, mostly.
Try to draw this mental image - you're in a new city, you have no friends, and your co-workers could give a crap if you even show up. You're walking down the streets during Christmas season, and someone you're not even sure you know stops you and says "hey, LadyWolf - I bought this for you. Merry Christmas!" and walks away. Assuming it's not a load of horse crap, at that point, do you even care if it's not your size?
I don't feel angry at people who don't appreciate what they have. I feel bad for them. They HAVE something wonderful, but don't realize it. It's like not appreciating your own kids or your own parents. I never realized what a wonderful dad I had, until a man was at my parent's house and said "did you know you have a brother from Kenya?". He loved my dad so much, he "adopted" my dad as his own, not having one himself.
Kinda like that.
LadyWolf
New Member
Well, yeah I would care because why would I want something that is either to big or too small? If I knew them and they bought me something, thats one thing but to just buy me something not knowing anything about me...I don't know. I would want someone to know something about me. That is what makes it personal and it shows they care about YOU!!
sweetprincess23
New Member
I have gotten nothing also, it sucks.
picture this...
SO asks if you want a watch, you tell him no.
You get him, several video games even though that means less time with you more time playing video games. But its ok because that is what he wants, and if you want to spend time with him you learn to play and like some of the games. Your SO likes to enjoy some "pharmacutical" things after a long day at work, you don't enjoy it but still wrap up a few "cigars" because again this is what he enjoys (i don't know if i am allowed to say things like this, did i violate anything). And add a few other cheap but thoughtful gifts.
Your SO gets you a watch.
I don't care who you are, this would make anyone upset.
Maybe I am just selfish and want to feel special on special occasions.