Generally I do follow the idea that it’s more likely stupidity than malice, because it is SO MUCH EASIER than planning and strategizing prolonged misery. Plus it’s still mostly true that if you continue that way - in any venue - the likelihood you’ll be kicked out or SHOT increases.See, and I'm the exact opposite, so we'd make a great talk show panel.
Geez, minimally ya gotta throw a bone.
I believe this is true in everyday life. People are just not going to bust their asses all day to screw with you. It’s just easier to ignore you.
Plus I’ve seen tyrants in the workplace and in cults. The very worst have convinced themselves they are actually doing good. They think they know what’s best for you and like a parent, they will ignore your opinion to do what they think is best for you.
It’s insane the way they think - Goebbels said of Hitler “really the Messiah or only John?”. They just don’t see it. Psychotic people think they’re doing good things.