There's nothing you can do. She's an adult and can make her own decisions. If you try to talk to her, she's not going to listen to you anyway.
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There's nothing you can do. She's an adult and can make her own decisions. If you try to talk to her, she's not going to listen to you anyway.
JeCa2224
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True. But what worries me is that she is 24 years old and this is her FIRST boyfriend- I wish I was kidding! She doesn't know any different. She thinks its okay to be treated this way and that she's in a good relationship. She's so naive and she's blowing off her best friend of 7 years! But your right, nothing I can do about it, I just wanted to vent
You are only responsible for you. Again, there is nothing you can do.
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True. But what worries me is that she is 24 years old and this is her FIRST boyfriend- I wish I was kidding! She doesn't know any different. She thinks its okay to be treated this way and that she's in a good relationship. She's so naive and she's blowing off her best friend of 7 years! But your right, nothing I can do about it, I just wanted to vent
Controlling, violent relationships are difficult to get out of. The best thing you can do, without becoming partner to the madness, is providing her with info about the kind of relationship she is in. Tell her that it is unhealthy and that you'll be there for her when she is ready to move on. Until then, things will progress as they will. You control no one but yourself. End of story. :shrug:
ginwoman
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my best friend dated a complete idiot jerk for 6 years. He hurt her so bad (mentally), cheated, stole, cheated again. I told her for 6 years to get out, he's no good and everybody else in the county knows he's no good. But she hung in there until she actually saw him with another woman. And then she was devestated. Thank gawd she is in a good relationship now. My point is, I was stressed out a lot over this while she was with him and it didn't make a bit of difference. Hopefully "Lucy" will open her eyes before she gets too deep.
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BET
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True. But what worries me is that she is 24 years old and this is her FIRST boyfriend- I wish I was kidding! She doesn't know any different. She thinks its okay to be treated this way and that she's in a good relationship. She's so naive and she's blowing off her best friend of 7 years! But your right, nothing I can do about it, I just wanted to vent
Yes, you definitely should talk to her about it. Yes, she will probably not listen to you.
MissBtrayed
New Member
Send your friend over to me and I can tell her the whole story of what the next 15 years of her life will be like if she stays with this man. I remember those days having to explain why I needed friends, him telling me I didn't, that he should be my only friend and that I shouldn't need anyone else. He even said that I could talk to him about mascara! (which would be a whole 'nother chapter) Isolation from friends and family - he had the phone disconnected on my birthday so my family and friends could not call me!
Get her some books / articles and leave them with her - help her see!
smdavis65
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Only the biatches maybe.
Maybe your ex just wasn't into you.
Ah. Makes more sense now.
Sorry, I wasn't paying attention...
Yes. Women start isolating their husbands from his buddies as soon as they can. Am I wrong boys?
sockgirl77
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Eff "Lucy". If she really gave a shiat about "Mary" she'd choose her over the controlling SOB.
StrawberryGal
Sweet and Innocent
You're wrong. I've never isolated my husband from his buddies. In fact, I like all of his buddies!
PsyOps
Pixelated
You're wrong. I've never isolated my husband from his buddies. In fact, I like all of his buddies!
sockgirl77
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You can't help anyone see. They have to see it on their own.
Really there is nothing you can do but given that info.......
I'm assuming you are close with this girls family (parents)?
I would make sure her family was aware why you are no longer friends, your concerns and say sorry I couldn't/can't help but want to be sure you are aware of the reason we are no longer friends.
Make clear to her that you'll be there for her when this faze of her life passes, until then wish her well.