New friends and guns
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baileydog
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kwillia said:
K, thats great that you have taught your kids but what if they go to a new friends home and the new kids werent taught and get out the familys gun and start playing with it. I like the idea of finding out the parents views on this subject first. You know, even the best kids can make bad decisions. Just a thought.
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baileydog said:K, thats great that you have taught your kids but what if they go to a new friends home and the new kids werent taught and get out the familys gun and start playing with it. I like the idea of finding out the parents views on this subject first. You know, even the best kids can make bad decisions. Just a thought.
How did you go about asking them?
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If I was your son, I'd ask if the mother was a school teacher also.jetmonkey said:
baileydog
I wanna be a SMIB
Sharon said:
You make talking to the new kids parents sound like a bad thing. Get involved with your kids friends and their parents. Know these things before you let your kids go. Just ask them, by the way, do you own any guns? And do you have locks on them? whats so hard
I'd be more concerned about the funny uncle than a gun.Sharon said:
I've never asked a parent if they had a gun in the house. And we've only had one parent ask us about it when her squab was coming to stay the night. Larry told her yes, we had a gun, and no, it wasn't locked up. But it was put away and the kids would have to be unsupervised for some time in order to get it without our knowledge. And since we didn't intend to leave the kids unsupervised, she shouldn't worry.
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K_Jo said:
Which is the proper way? In case some kids' parents ask me.
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Do you have time to hold thier hand where ever they go? I mean, I understand your concern, but sometimes you have to trust them that they will do what's right, unless they prove otherwide.Geek said:
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*to hopefully get laid*jetmonkey said:I don't get it
You'd simply say, "Do you have a firearm in the house?" and if they say yes, ask if it's locked up.Geek said:
That's just a guess, though.
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kwillia
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It's never come up as an issue. Both of mine are real rule followers and I believe I would have been told had there been an issue.Geek said:
You have no control of what they get exposed to in other households. All you can do as a parent, is discuss stuff with them daily, and hold firm to your rules and beliefs. I find that there are times when a parent can compromise on something here and there (it's part of letting them grow up and become independent), but if you hold firm to the imporant things, kids recognize that.
Example, my son was about 10 years old when he come home from a sleepover and was raving about the latest shoot 'em up thug PS2 game he played. He wanted it for his next birthday. I told him it wasn't happening. I didn't condone a game that consisted of shooting cops, killing pedestrians, etc. and that just because little Johnny's mom didn't mind doesn't mean I have to condone it. I told him there were many other games to select from and to give me a new list. He did. He's soon to be 15 and the issue never came up again.
I know this is a watered down example, but an example of what you have no control over just the same. I accepted what I could not change (that he would play it over little Johnny's house), but I still held the line at what I defined as acceptable. My son respected that. Now that he's mentioned on more than one occasion that he appreciates when we don't cave in, his exact words were, "It tells me you love me and really care about what I do."