No one can break your heart like...

[mAlice]

My child has astonished me over the last couple of years. When she went on meds several years ago she gained a lot of weight. A few years ago she started dropping it. A few months ago she looked great. 5'4", about 130 lbs. She is now at 115 and looks absolutely awesome. I looked at her a few days ago and told her her face was no longer round.

A few months ago she still had to be right about everything, was very argumentative and always seemed to be on the defensive. Over the last couple of months she has blossomed into a beautiful, reasoning adult.

I can't express how astonished I am.

 

[RoseRed]

My child has astonished me over the last couple of years. When she went on meds several years ago she gained a lot of weight. A few years ago she started dropping it. A few months ago she looked great. 5'4", about 130 lbs. She is now at 115 and looks absolutely awesome. I looked at her a few days ago and told her her face was no longer round.

A few months ago she still had to be right about everything, was very argumentative and always seemed to be on the defensive. Over the last couple of months she has blossomed into a beautiful, reasoning adult.

I can't express how astonished I am.

You have done a wonderful job, she's a sweetheart.

 

[mAlice]

You have done a wonderful job, she's a sweetheart.

Thanks for saying so. It's been a long, hard road. Now she wants to move out. Just when I got her the way I like her.

 

[Wickedwrench]

See, in my house, if I drew back (which I did 1 time, 1 time only) I learned real quick and in a hurry that that's a MAJOR you should DEFINITELY not let her get away with that.....

I knew better than to even try. I didn't want to sport dentures before I hit 18.

 

[Softballkid]

I knew better than to even try. I didn't want to sport dentures before I hit 18.

I was 16 or so, and dad told me when I think Im man enough, we can go outside, I tried to push through him with my shoulder to go by him and get outside....yeah...he didnt move...so I went in my room and cried

 

[Softballkid]

Thanks for saying so. It's been a long, hard road. Now she wants to move out. Just when I got her the way I like her.

How old is your daughter...I moved out when I was 17...needless to say, a little before I turned 19, I was asking to move back home

Moved back out when I was 20, and been gone since...came back home, smartened up, and now I can say Im doing very well for myself at 22

 

[RoseRed]

Thanks for saying so. It's been a long, hard road. Now she wants to move out. Just when I got her the way I like her.

I thought she was moving downstairs?

 

[mAlice]

I thought she was moving downstairs?

It looks like that's going to be a temporary arrangement.

 

[mAlice]

How old is your daughter...I moved out when I was 17...needless to say, a little before I turned 19, I was asking to move back home

Moved back out when I was 20, and been gone since...came back home, smartened up, and now I can say Im doing very well for myself at 22

She's 20, and I'm in no hurry for her to move out. Maybe that's why she is.

If you want them to leave, they don't. If you don't want them to leave, they do.

 

[mv_princess]

If any one would like a temp. daughter to live with I am free! I am great...I don't eat that much and I will let you know everything that's going on.

 

[Softballkid]

She's 20, and I'm in no hurry for her to move out. Maybe that's why she is.

If you want them to leave, they don't. If you don't want them to leave, they do.

20......does she have a good job...and is she going out on her own, or with a bf, or gf, or what....

 

[Otter]

It gets real fun once they hit the teen years this is when you lose every brain cell in your head(at least to them you do)

then they hit the 20's and you get smart again

Exactlyalackly.

 

[citysherry]

your own child. That is all.

When I was a little girl, I remember telling my Mom that I don't ever want my heart to be broken...Mom's reply to me was "honey, don't ever have children then."

 

[mAlice]

20......does she have a good job...and is she going out on her own, or with a bf, or gf, or what....

She has a good job, on the base. I'm not sure I'm following "going out on her own". She goes out with her friends, she goes out with her parents, she never goes out alone, though. Where's the fun in that, anyway?

 

[jwwb2000]

It gets real fun once they hit the teen years this is when you lose every brain cell in your head(at least to them you do)

then they hit the 20's and you get smart again

Great.

 

[Softballkid]

She has a good job, on the base. I'm not sure I'm following "going out on her own". She goes out with her friends, she goes out with her parents, she never goes out alone, though. Where's the fun in that, anyway?

Well the good job helps...but what I meant was, will she be living by herself, her bf, or a gf of hers.....

cuz if its on her own, or with a bf....chances are good she will be back its hard that first go around....you realize you dont have the money left over you though you would each month, and all that...with a bf, once the newness wears off, and all, and you get tired of looking at each othe ever day, day in day out.....she may come home...and with a gf, she will eventually realize she wants her own place....

so, she MAY be back home sooner than you think...it all depends...

 

[mAlice]

Well the good job helps...but what I meant was, will she be living by herself, her bf, or a gf of hers.....

cuz if its on her own, or with a bf....chances are good she will be back its hard that first go around....you realize you dont have the money left over you though you would each month, and all that...with a bf, once the newness wears off, and all, and you get tired of looking at each othe ever day, day in day out.....she may come home...and with a gf, she will eventually realize she wants her own place....

so, she MAY be back home sooner than you think...it all depends...

She wants to share a place with good friends. She's not currently dating anyone.

As for her wanting her own place, she's aware that we have our eye on a couple of houses, one which we know will be coming up for sale in the not too distant future. She will pay the mortgage and eventually buy if that's what she wants.

...and yes, she probably will return home at least once before she's really on her own.

 

[mv_princess]

She wants to share a place with good friends. She's not currently dating anyone.

As for her wanting her own place, she's aware that we have our eye on a couple of houses, one which we know will be coming up for sale in the not too distant future. She will pay the mortgage and eventually buy if that's what she wants.

...and yes, she probably will return home at least once before she's really on her own.

Well I guess the only little bit of hope I can give you is that Friends no matter how great don't always work out.....I moved in with my best friend and now we no longer talk to each other.......

So it could work out that she move back.......

 

[Softballkid]

She wants to share a place with good friends. She's not currently dating anyone.

As for her wanting her own place, she's aware that we have our eye on a couple of houses, one which we know will be coming up for sale in the not too distant future. She will pay the mortgage and eventually buy if that's what she wants.

...and yes, she probably will return home at least once before she's really on her own.

Rent to own is not a bad thing to do right now, with the house prices still very high, though they arent selling like they were, the prices are still up there, so a rent to own is ALOT smarter than just renting... no sense in paying someones elses bills if your NEVER going to own it...ya know... Our realtor explained all this to us like 10 times, because I wanted to make sure the story never changed.. haha... but we ended up just straight out buying a house...

A buddy of mine is doing a rent to own, and his bills are alot lower, because of how it worked out for him...

Hope all works out well for you and her

 

[Qurious]

Let her go....

she'll be back.

If you move out before 21 u usually ALWAYS come back home in need of something.....