Outsource your online dating to your mom

Toxick

Toxick

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RareBreed

RareBreed

Throwing the deuces
The first time I brought my husband over to meet my mom while we were dating, she tried to fix him up with my older sister. :ohwell:
 
ZARA

ZARA

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Wow...and here I am telling my kids they better not get married or w/child before they are 25, preferably 30.
 
RareBreed

RareBreed

Throwing the deuces
ZARA said:
Wow...and here I am telling my kids they better not get married or w/child before they are 25, preferably 30.
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:dance: I was 25 when I got married. Unfortunately, I looked really young so when I got pregnant at 28/29, I had people calling me bad names and saying I was a disappointment to my parents because they thought I was a teenager.
 
Misfit

Misfit

Lawful neutral
RareBreed said:
I had people calling me bad names and saying I was a disappointment to my parents because they thought I was a teenager.
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That happened to me and my girlfriend in line at McDonalds. I guess we should have expected it though, me being in the 10th grade and her in college. But, well, she had a car. :ohwell:
 
ZARA

ZARA

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I want my kids to be well established academically, mentally, emotionally, and financially before they start a family. I don't want them to have to rely on anyone or anything except for themselves and to be secure in their knowledge of what needs to be done to more than "survive." You have to remember, I lived a hard life and if it weren't for my wits and fighting nature, I would not have survived.

Maybe then, If My Prayers are answered, they will have a better understanding and notion of exactly what they need out of a Life Partner and they will choose wisely and grow closer to their first partner over the years instead of apart. I so wish they find someone that will give them the kind of relationship I have now and not have to find what they need through failed Marriages because they were much too young to understand that we change as we grow older.

Lust is great but is not a strong foundation to build a family. Just my opinion.
 
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kwillia

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ZARA said:
I want my kids to be well established academically, mentally, emotionally, and financially before they start a family. I don't want them to have to rely on anyone or anything except for themselves and to be secure in their knowledge of what needs to be done to more than "survive." You have to remember, I lived a hard life and if it weren't for my wits and fighting nature, I would not have survived.

Maybe then, If My Prayers are answered, they will have a better understanding and notion of exactly what they need out of a Life Partner and they will choose wisely and grow closer to their first partner over the years instead of apart. I so wish they find someone that will give them the kind of relationship I have now and not have to find what they need through failed relationships because they were much too young to understand that we change as we grow older.

Lust is great but is not a strong foundation to build a family. Just my opinion.
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That's all nice but I believe that their is also something to be said for a commited couple to grow together which adds to a strong foundation. I also think that the older you get and the more years that pass with you living independently and alone could make it harder to actually tolerate suddenly living with someone else and now compromising on all that you've worked on to be independent, self-sufficient and set in your ways.... I think there are two sides to it... just sayin'.... :shrug:
 
ZARA

ZARA

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kwillia said:
That's all nice but I believe that their is also something to be said for a commited couple to grow together which adds to a strong foundation. I also think that the older you get and the more years that pass with you living independently and alone could make it harder to actually tolerate suddenly living with someone else and now compromising on all that you've worked on to be independent, self-sufficient and set in your ways.... I think there are two sides to it... just sayin'.... :shrug:
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Very good argument, however I am referring to settling down with a Life Partner and having children. Not dating or living together.
 
libertytyranny

libertytyranny

Dream Stealer
ZARA said:
I want my kids to be well established academically, mentally, emotionally, and financially before they start a family. I don't want them to have to rely on anyone or anything except for themselves and to be secure in their knowledge of what needs to be done to more than "survive." You have to remember, I lived a hard life and if it weren't for my wits and fighting nature, I would not have survived.

Maybe then, If My Prayers are answered, they will have a better understanding and notion of exactly what they need out of a Life Partner and they will choose wisely and grow closer to their first partner over the years instead of apart. I so wish they find someone that will give them the kind of relationship I have now and not have to find what they need through failed relationships because they were much too young to understand that we change as we grow older. Lust is great but is not a strong foundation to build a family. Just my opinion.
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I feel like this is the way we learn what we want and need, though. I know that what I am looking for is very different now than it was even 2 years ago..and part of this is because I am older, but I believe most of it is because through different relationships (of varying types) I have discovered what it is I expect and what to look for and what is actually important and what I can let slide. I cant imagine that I would have learned it so thoroughly without the various disasters and excellent times I have had.
 
ZARA

ZARA

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libertytyranny said:
I feel like this is the way we learn what we want and need, though. I know that what I am looking for is very different now than it was even 2 years ago..and part of this is because I am older, but I believe most of it is because through different relationships (of varying types) I have discovered what it is I expect and what to look for and what is actually important and what I can let slide. I cant imagine that I would have learned it so thoroughly without the various disasters and excellent times I have had.
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How many times have you been divorced? How many times have you changed Life Partner's? (Rhetorical questions)

The pivotal words for me are "Dating/boyfriend/girlfriend" and "Marriage/Life Partner's" They are two different things.

A person can have many relationships but that does not make each relationship a Life Partner or Spouse.
 
libertytyranny

libertytyranny

Dream Stealer
ZARA said:
How many times have you been divorced? How many times have you changed Life Partner's? (Rhetorical questions)

The pivotal words for me are "Dating/boyfriend/girlfriend" and "Marriage/Life Partner's" They are two different things.

A person can have many relationships but that does not make each relationship a Life Partner or Spouse.
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you said failed relationships :shrug: and a divorce really is just a failed relationship, with a monetary value attached :killingme


point being. I know a lot of people who found their ideal mate in a second marriage..or with someone who is not the biological parent of their child...or with someone after a long relationship they believed was forever. I don't think you can avoid any of that simply by waiting to get a marriage certificate until you are 30. Sure, maybe you save some money, some time at the court house..but you don't save the heartache or the learning process. I don't think too many people get to avoid that.
 
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