I've always been a bit of a risk taker when it comes to matters involving personal growth. I'd rather do something and perhaps regret it later than not do something and then regret not doing it.
I was the same way with my son. I gave hit quite a bit of rope when he was young. If he faltered, I was somewhat close by to get him back on track. At the age of 17 I let him take a train by himself in a foreign country. He got to where he was going and there were people there to pick him up when he arrived. This was before the time when everyone had cell phones. When he got back everything was fine. Years later he told me that he had actually boarded the wrong train. When they checked his ticket on board he was told that the train he wanted was behind him. He needed to get off the next station and board the next train that came in the station. The trains were running behind that day so he was where he needed to be at the right time. Luckily it all got straightened out in the end.
I'm also amazed by many parents that absolutely won't let their kids go anywhere without them. Students are heading off to college but have never had a chance to make a decision for themselves that didn't include consulting with someone in the family. I don't think kids should be feral but they need to have some degree of independence. Reading this story made me cringe a bit.
The whole fam damily
I was the same way with my son. I gave hit quite a bit of rope when he was young. If he faltered, I was somewhat close by to get him back on track. At the age of 17 I let him take a train by himself in a foreign country. He got to where he was going and there were people there to pick him up when he arrived. This was before the time when everyone had cell phones. When he got back everything was fine. Years later he told me that he had actually boarded the wrong train. When they checked his ticket on board he was told that the train he wanted was behind him. He needed to get off the next station and board the next train that came in the station. The trains were running behind that day so he was where he needed to be at the right time. Luckily it all got straightened out in the end.
I'm also amazed by many parents that absolutely won't let their kids go anywhere without them. Students are heading off to college but have never had a chance to make a decision for themselves that didn't include consulting with someone in the family. I don't think kids should be feral but they need to have some degree of independence. Reading this story made me cringe a bit.
I was a first-generation college student and we didn’t yet know that families were supposed to leave pretty much right after they unloaded your stuff from the car.
Shortly after arriving on campus, the five of us — my parents, my younger sister, my abuela and me — found ourselves listening to a dean end his welcome speech with the words: “Now, parents, please: Go! We thought we all needed to be there for freshman orientation — the whole family, for the entirety of it.
My family followed me around as I visited department offices during course registration. They walked with me to buildings I was supposed to be finding on my own. They waited outside those buildings so that we could all leave from there and go to lunch together.
The five of us wandered each day through the dining hall’s doors. “You guys are still here!” the over-friendly person swiping ID cards said after day three. “They sure are!” I chirped back, learning via the cues of my hallmates that I was supposed to want my family gone. But it was an act: We sat together at meals — amid all the other students, already making friends — my mom placing a napkin and fork at each place, setting the table as we did at home.
The whole fam damily