chemommy25
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I think money in exchange for good grades is always a good idea. I think we all go to work, and work hard to make a paycheck right? Working hard in school deserves a reward too.
Pay or not pay........
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I think money in exchange for good grades is always a good idea. I think we all go to work, and work hard to make a paycheck right? Working hard in school deserves a reward too.
Recently my daughter asked about money for her report card. We've told her no, she should want good grades no matter what. However, I would be willing to try this. For now her grades are ok and I want her to want the grade, not the money. So far this seems to work but if needed I would start paying her.
I think that was nice of Dad to slip her some cash for helping. 
BS Gal
Voted Nicest in 08
I almost let my kid out of her bubble to go to a birthday party without me this weekend. I was even going to give her spending money. It's a good thing we kept her locked away instead.
terbear1225
Well-Known Member
I think that was nice of Dad to slip her some cash for helping.
just as it was nice of her to help dad clean up the garage.
the lesson should be "kindness inspires kindness"
USWWarrior
It's a Jeep thang!
I think that was nice of Dad to slip her some cash for helping.
Yup I agree, I would have done the same then went for an ice cream...
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
Not at all. Since I'm a broke biatch, I only do what I can, when I can as far as clothes and room decor and toys. Mostly on holidays and with the help of my parents. My daughter wants a DS game for her birthday and the deal was made that she will get allowance to pay for half provided she does her chores, maintains her ab honor roll and doesn't give me any lip. Giving me a hard time gets you NOTHING.
But if they're not expecting it and it's given, how long before they're conditioned too expect payment for being nice? Don't pay them as you have in the past, then you're not fair, you've changed the rules.
Now at this point have you raised a deserving brat or a sincere kid?
I don't give my kids money when they complete a task. I'd never bribe them to take out trash or rake leaves. They will do it because I say so. I may give money to them if I happen to have it and we are in a place where they can spend it on something I approve of. Or, on the rare occasion they go somewhere with out me and may want a souvenir or some kind of snack. I'm a pretty strict parent, in everyone else's opinion:shrug:
Mystical Mom and Morningbell see my kids all the time so if they are spoiled then I guess those two would know if I had spoiled them better than I would.
Mdcopswife
Boss Lady
Our kids have chores that are required of them, because they are members of the household. They dont get paid for doing these.
If they do something "just because" or offer to help around the house or yard they get money. I always have a list of "extras". This is how they learn the value of a dollar and that they have to work for their extra money. Nothing is handed to them.
If they do something "just because" or offer to help around the house or yard they get money. I always have a list of "extras". This is how they learn the value of a dollar and that they have to work for their extra money. Nothing is handed to them.
I never got paid to do anything. I never got allowance. If all four of us kids got good grades (note: ALL FOUR, not just 3 or 2) then we got one collective present. And it wasn't huge....it might have been a video game or a movie.
We lived on a rather large plot of land, and once a week we would take turns mowing the lawn, picking up grass, weeding the gardens (once every 2 weeks), cleaning the house (dust/vacuum), helping plant and harvest the vegetables from the garden, cleaning the pool, etc.
It took me 2 years to save up the $70 for my Game Boy, and every penny of that money was from relative's $5 from birthday cards and christmas cards.
When I needed money for anything, (school supplies, renting a movie, going to the movie with friends, etc.), I got it from my parents....but outside those events, every once and awhile they would go to the store and come back with something for me. (I was big into Magic the Gathering playing cards), so they would bring me a deck of those maybe once a month.
We weren't poor by any means....but we also never expected anything from anybody. We worked our asses off every Sunday after church because, well, honestly, we enjoyed it. We enjoyed being outside working together to make our house look nice. I enjoyed learning how to tend to a garden, how to build a deck, how to repair walls. Driving a lawn Mower?!?! Hot damn, its like a car! And when my parents would come home with a present for me, they would thank me for helping them with everything around the house and not causing any trouble.
We lived on a rather large plot of land, and once a week we would take turns mowing the lawn, picking up grass, weeding the gardens (once every 2 weeks), cleaning the house (dust/vacuum), helping plant and harvest the vegetables from the garden, cleaning the pool, etc.
It took me 2 years to save up the $70 for my Game Boy, and every penny of that money was from relative's $5 from birthday cards and christmas cards.
When I needed money for anything, (school supplies, renting a movie, going to the movie with friends, etc.), I got it from my parents....but outside those events, every once and awhile they would go to the store and come back with something for me. (I was big into Magic the Gathering playing cards), so they would bring me a deck of those maybe once a month.
We weren't poor by any means....but we also never expected anything from anybody. We worked our asses off every Sunday after church because, well, honestly, we enjoyed it. We enjoyed being outside working together to make our house look nice. I enjoyed learning how to tend to a garden, how to build a deck, how to repair walls. Driving a lawn Mower?!?! Hot damn, its like a car! And when my parents would come home with a present for me, they would thank me for helping them with everything around the house and not causing any trouble.
