She is a pretty smart kid - communicates very well, and yes she does understand the word no (although she sometimes chooses to have selective memory on that last one). I was torn with the taking of privleges (her favorite cartoons) and toys because I was given grief that I was punishing her for having a fear of something. So I did take some things, and wound up giving them back to her. . . bad mommy! But she did understand at the time that if she went on the floor I was taking X toy, and when she went on the floor, she actually went to get the toy to give to me to take from her. (I didn't give in immediately either - the toy was gone for a few hours before I gave it back)
I have a sticker/calendar reward chart but she doesn't really care much about it. I've even resorted to giving myself a sticker when I pee, so she sees it - and she does get very upset when I have one and tell her that she can't have one. I don't give in to that. I even got her a toy she really really wants and set it high on the counter and told her she could have it if she uses the potty - instead she praises me when I go, telling me that now I can have it!
I've even tried pulling the tape on the diapers so tight that they are uncomfortable for her to wear - telling her that she's getting too big for diapers! The plastic pants don't work because she changes hreself after she pees! Now when I put a diaper on her, this is bad, I put masking tape around her waist so that she's forced to feel uncomfortable in the wet diaper (for about 10 minutes) and can't take it off!
About a year ago it used to be that if she was bare bottom, she would use the potty if she had to go - but that was short lived.
She has almost every potty ever made! She prefers to sit on the big potty though, even though she has a potty chair sitting directly across from it. I even have the small toilet seats that fit over top the big potty!
