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puggymom
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Neither Daycare nor Working Parents Affects Toilet Training
ETA: I know the title of this article has nothing to do with this thread but I was being lazy and it was the first article I found that stated what I have heard about average PT completion times.
ETA: I know the title of this article has nothing to do with this thread but I was being lazy and it was the first article I found that stated what I have heard about average PT completion times.
Nanny Pam
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This little girl will be 3 in 2 weeks! I toldher parents to get busy, or they will need to find another daycare. I WILL NOT potty train anyones kid. I WILL help them do it, though.
This is the first time in 5 or 6 years I've had a kid that wasn't trained by 3. I helped all my parents with the training, and every child did really well!
They think I should do it. Hell no I won't do it all by myself. They have to do it at home, too. Laziness on the part of the parents, plus the fact that they said..."she rules the roost." Oh please!
This is the first time in 5 or 6 years I've had a kid that wasn't trained by 3. I helped all my parents with the training, and every child did really well!
They think I should do it. Hell no I won't do it all by myself. They have to do it at home, too. Laziness on the part of the parents, plus the fact that they said..."she rules the roost." Oh please!
puggymom
Active Member
Oh I totally agree!!!This little girl will be 3 in 2 weeks! I toldher parents to get busy, or they will need to find another daycare. I WILL NOT potty train anyones kid. I WILL help them do it, though.
This is the first time in 5 or 6 years I've had a kid that wasn't trained by 3. I helped all my parents with the training, and every child did really well!
They think I should do it. Hell no I won't do it all by myself. They have to do it at home, too. Laziness on the part of the parents, plus the fact that they said..."she rules the roost." Oh please!
The parents should be primarily working with the kid with DC taking an assiting role. That being said I have been working with my daugther since Spetember and we are only showing slight improvement since then. Well she was actually pretty close but I think I pushed too much and she regressed so I totay backed off for a while. I have been told once they are ready it really only takes a few days for them to really get it so I am hoping that happens any day now.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Girlie ( 33 mos) has been making lots of progress. We set a "potty timer" when we're home. It goes off every 30 minutes, and she has to try whether or not she says she has to go. We just say we can't argue with the potty timer. :shrug: If it goes off, it's the rule that she tries. She likes it alot, and has never refused to try. The timer is mainly for us, though...because it's hard to remember to remind her to go. 
barncat
New Member
Girlie ( 33 mos) has been making lots of progress. We set a "potty timer" when we're home. It goes off every 30 minutes, and she has to try whether or not she says she has to go. We just say we can't argue with the potty timer. :shrug: If it goes off, it's the rule that she tries. She likes it alot, and has never refused to try. The timer is mainly for us, though...because it's hard to remember to remind her to go.
That a good idea. It looks like little one is really into the potty. Just called DC and she went pee on the potty earlier when everyone else took a potty break. Hubby and I have to get disciplined and start putting her on the potty every 30 minutes like you do to encourage her.
Dymphna
Loyalty, Friendship, Love
Some kids aren't ready, but no matter what the parents have to commit to it in order to make it happen. You can't do it on your own. What happens nights and weekends if they let her slide? You have to start from scratch every Monday morning.This little girl will be 3 in 2 weeks! I toldher parents to get busy, or they will need to find another daycare. I WILL NOT potty train anyones kid. I WILL help them do it, though.
This is the first time in 5 or 6 years I've had a kid that wasn't trained by 3. I helped all my parents with the training, and every child did really well!
They think I should do it. Hell no I won't do it all by myself. They have to do it at home, too. Laziness on the part of the parents, plus the fact that they said..."she rules the roost." Oh please!
Nanny Pam
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Oh...she's more than ready. She comes and tell me as soon as she wets herself. Then tells me to change her. She has actually gone on the potty for me, but why the heck should I keep pushing her if the parents won't do it at home. I dread Monday's because you were exactly right.....I have to start all over. Well, in 2 weeks...if I don't see something telling me that she is getting potty help at home, her parents will need to find another daycare.
Oh...and here's another thing. Daddy is a landscaper. He was off all winter. (Late Dec till last week) She stayed home with him all winter, and he did nothing to help her to train. He admits it.
My daughter just turned 3 in March and flat out REFUSES to potty train. I actually have been working from home this week to take the time I don't normally have the luxury of having to spend with her to use the potty. She is aware that she needs to go -and if she's wearing panties will request a diaper that she would promptly remove when she was finished. I started on Saturday by telling her that we didn't have any diapers and that I didn't haveany money to buy her any so she would just have to use the potty.
She was okay with that - but never once used the potty. She stayed dry during the night, but then woke up and peed on my couch because she refused to sit on the potty. Monday night we had a small break through - in that she started to sit on the potty - at one point she started to pee on the floor and I lifted her up on the potty so she could finish. She was very upset, but I stressed that that was what was supposed to happen and gave her a sticker and lollipop for her effort.
Tuesday morning she sat on the potty for 2 hours (she actually had a red ring around her butt from sitting so long - and it was't forced by me - she just really had to go!) then stood up and peed on the floor.
I've tried everything I can think of - food coloring so she could watch it change colors, rewards, even taking things from her and making her change herself and clean up her own messes. And she has every kind of toilet known to man. I've asked her why she won't go and she says it's scary! Yet, she plays with her dolls, takes them potty, wipes their butts and flushes the toilet!
One of my bigger concerns with her is that she's holding it for so long - sometimes for 12 - 14 hours at a time! When she goes to daycare, they encourage her to wear panties, and she will, but she won't pee all day long!
So, potty training experts, what do you suggest in this situation?
She was okay with that - but never once used the potty. She stayed dry during the night, but then woke up and peed on my couch because she refused to sit on the potty. Monday night we had a small break through - in that she started to sit on the potty - at one point she started to pee on the floor and I lifted her up on the potty so she could finish. She was very upset, but I stressed that that was what was supposed to happen and gave her a sticker and lollipop for her effort.
Tuesday morning she sat on the potty for 2 hours (she actually had a red ring around her butt from sitting so long - and it was't forced by me - she just really had to go!) then stood up and peed on the floor.
I've tried everything I can think of - food coloring so she could watch it change colors, rewards, even taking things from her and making her change herself and clean up her own messes. And she has every kind of toilet known to man. I've asked her why she won't go and she says it's scary! Yet, she plays with her dolls, takes them potty, wipes their butts and flushes the toilet!
One of my bigger concerns with her is that she's holding it for so long - sometimes for 12 - 14 hours at a time! When she goes to daycare, they encourage her to wear panties, and she will, but she won't pee all day long!
So, potty training experts, what do you suggest in this situation?
lovinmaryland
Well-Known Member
This little girl will be 3 in 2 weeks! I toldher parents to get busy, or they will need to find another daycare. I WILL NOT potty train anyones kid. I WILL help them do it, though.
This is the first time in 5 or 6 years I've had a kid that wasn't trained by 3. I helped all my parents with the training, and every child did really well!
They think I should do it. Hell no I won't do it all by myself. They have to do it at home, too. Laziness on the part of the parents, plus the fact that they said..."she rules the roost." Oh please!
What about charging them more $$$? Say charge her the rate of an infant since she is infact still in diapers :shrug:
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
Have you asked her if it hurts her to go potty? I'm wondering if she may had/has a UTI or something just isn't comfortable.
She constantly has yeast infections, but her pedi says it's from the diapers and I need to get her trained. She's been checked many times for UTIs - to the point that she doesn't like going to the dr. because she doesn't want to be bagged for a urine sample. I've never asked her if it hurt to go - I've just asked her why she won't!
Nanny Pam
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It's not really about the $$. It the fact that the parents think that I am supposed to do it, or continue to change her.
lovinmaryland
Well-Known Member
It's not really about the $$. It the fact that the parents think that I am supposed to do it, or continue to change her.
Tell them her weekly fee will be increased $50 until she is trained... see if they dont change their tune and get her potty trained asap
StrawberryGal
Sweet and Innocent
He had a chance to potty trained his daughter the whole winter. I'm with you on that. Parents need to work with daycare providers as a team to make sure thier kids are in potty training at home too and not just letting it "slide" because they don't feel like doing it at home because they are too tired or busy. That's part of the job that ALL parents need to do and it is not Daycare provider's 100% job to potty train the kids. It need to be done at thier home outside of the daycare center/home.
When my son turned 3 and I quit my job to be SAHM after having my baby #2, I spent the time potty trained my son and he was trained within a week. He never had any accidents or anything like that. Then, I decided to send him to bed without pulls up because he have been dried in the morning. He never had an accidents overnight at all, so I kissed the pulls up good bye!
In fact, I still have pulls up leftover and he knew about it. I'm saving it for my baby #2. Hopefully, the baby #2 do not need to wear pulls up because he have an older brother to show him how cool it is to be able to pee standing up and aim at the cheerios in the toilet.
StrawberryGal
Sweet and Innocent
Tell them her weekly fee will be increased $50 until she is trained... see if they dont change their tune and get her potty trained asap
Yeah, you might have to do that especially if you have stubborn parents that won't work with you to get the child potty trained.
IMO, I think paying for non-potty trained kids that aren't ready is not very good idea. However, in your case, you have one STUBBORN parents and thier child is very ready to use the potty.
You reserved the rights to change your contract at anytime you see a need to do so. Also, you deserve a better respect from them. If they don't like it, they can go find someone else to watch thier kids.
Nanny Pam
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He had a chance to potty trained his daughter the whole winter. I'm with you on that. Parents need to work with daycare providers as a team to make sure thier kids are in potty training at home too and not just letting it "slide" because they don't feel like doing it at home because they are too tired or busy. That's part of the job that ALL parents need to do and it is not Daycare provider's 100% job to potty train the kids. It need to be done at thier home outside of the daycare center/home.
When my son turned 3 and I quit my job to be SAHM after having my baby #2, I spent the time potty trained my son and he was trained within a week. He never had any accidents or anything like that. Then, I decided to send him to bed without pulls up because he have been dried in the morning. He never had an accidents overnight at all, so I kissed the pulls up good bye!
In fact, I still have pulls up leftover and he knew about it. I'm saving it for my baby #2. Hopefully, the baby #2 do not need to wear pulls up because he have an older brother to show him how cool it is to be able to pee standing up and aim at the cheerios in the toilet.
Good for you!
That's right....the second & third children are easier to train, because of big brother & big sister. 