question for women

[hotmomma]

I have a 9 year old daughter and I just wanted to know what women think is a good age to have the talk with girls about "women stuff"? If you do start that conversation, do you also discuss sex to explain why the monthly visit comes? My mom never had a talk with me so I have no clue what to say. I know it's kinda dumb but when I think I'm ready to bring it up, I chicken out. For all I know she may know everything about it. I don't remember how old I was when I knew about menstruation and sex. Any advice would be great. Just don't know how detailed the conversation should be. TIA

 

[vraiblonde]

We never had "the talk" - there's so much crap on TV and they'd hear things from their friends that we just kind of took stuff as it came up. Very matter-of-fact. The kids saw boxes of feminine hygeine products in the bathroom and said, "What's that?" when they were pretty young. I just told them :shrug:

9 is old enough to talk about menstruation - no need to be graphic about sex or anything at that age.

 

[Mousebaby]

I have a 9 year old daughter and I just wanted to know what women think is a good age to have the talk with girls about "women stuff"? If you do start that conversation, do you also discuss sex to explain why the monthly visit comes? My mom never had a talk with me so I have no clue what to say. I know it's kinda dumb but when I think I'm ready to bring it up, I chicken out. For all I know she may know everything about it. I don't remember how old I was when I knew about menstruation and sex. Any advice would be great. Just don't know how detailed the conversation should be. TIA

I was freaking out about this very subject last year. I finally just bit the bullet and asked her if she had heard any of the other girls talking about periods. She said no, so I started explaining to her that when a girl becomes a yound lady her body starts getting ready to become a mommy. That this is just practice for her body so when she is old enough then her body will be ready to have a baby. So I explained what happened every month to the uterus and how after a few days the egg and the lining shed from the uterus and came out as blood. (no nasty comments we're talking to 9 yr. olds) This is how our body got rid of what we don't use and that it took a few days for this to pass. And then in 21 days or so it would start again, with the lining forming, the egg coming down and so on. She seemed ok with it and even somewhat excited about growing up. Then the school had a Mom and Me get together for just the moms and daughters in the 5th grade and the school nurse explained everything I did. So my daughter was like I already knew this stuff to her friends.

Once its over then you can watch her leave the room and then you can

Good luck!

 

[maxima87]

My mother never had the "talk" with me...but at Ridge they had the Always Mom and Me program. My 8yo son has saw products and asked what they were so I told him. He wasn't too grossed out...he said "Oh, well lucky I am a boy, poor sissy!"

 

[Lilypad]

"What Every Young Girl Should Know" or something like that, I saw the film and got the booklet in the 6th grade-gals went to their side of the gym-boys went their side of the gym to watch "What Every Young Boy Should Know" I guess?!
Ughhhhhhh-walking out afterwards!

 

[maxima87]

"What Every Young Girl Should Know" or something like that, I saw the film and got the booklet in the 6th grade-gals went to their side of the gym-boys went their side of the gym to watch "What Every Young Boy Should Know" I guess?!
Ughhhhhhh-walking out afterwards!

I remember taking sex ed in middle school...it was really awkward after the class was over. I forgot all about that class until you said something. LOL

 

[hotmomma]

I had sex ed in middle school also. I guess I just feel it's my repsonsibilty to tell my daughter about her body and not the school and then when sex ed is talked about she will know a lil somthin. My mom knew I started when her pads kept disappearing. I was too embarrassed to ask her to buy me some and she never talked to me about it. She wised up and started buying enough for the both of us.

 

[FromTexas]

I was freaking out about this very subject last year. I finally just bit the bullet and asked her if she had heard any of the other girls talking about periods. She said no, so I started explaining to her that when a girl becomes a yound lady her body starts getting ready to become a mommy. That this is just practice for her body so when she is old enough then her body will be ready to have a baby. So I explained what happened every month to the uterus and how after a few days the egg and the lining shed from the uterus and came out as blood. (no nasty comments we're talking to 9 yr. olds) This is how our body got rid of what we don't use and that it took a few days for this to pass. And then in 21 days or so it would start again, with the lining forming, the egg coming down and so on. She seemed ok with it and even somewhat excited about growing up. Then the school had a Mom and Me get together for just the moms and daughters in the 5th grade and the school nurse explained everything I did. So my daughter was like I already knew this stuff to her friends.

Once its over then you can watch her leave the room and then you can

Good luck!

Oh! That is why it happens!

I thought the little dwarves went in and did spring cleaning and then threw out all the trash. I should have never trusted my third grade friend.

 

[baileydog]

You guys are shocking me that your moms never talked to you about this. I was about 9 or 10. Mom sat me down and explained the whole miserable period thing, brought out the tampax and showed me what they looked like and explained how to use them for later then told me about pads and belts. It was the 60's. The only thing I really remember about the period talk was she just kept saying that once I start my periods, I can get preggo anytime after that. That was scary at 10 years old and as long as I kept that in mind, I stayed out of trouble.

 

[Pete]

Boy was asking a bunch of questions when he was 8 so I decided it was time I told him. He sat there a minute processing the info after and then turned and went "Ewwwww you had sex with my mom!" to which I replied "I was just one of many, be glad your egg popped that weekend".


j/k

 

[mommarock]

Boy was asking a bunch of questions when he was 8 so I decided it was time I told him. He sat there a minute processing the info after and then turned and went "Ewwwww you had sex with my mom!" to which I replied "I was just one of many, be glad your egg popped that weekend".


j/k

 

[ocean733]

My mom just told me that she was there for me and if I had any questions, that she would be my friend and answer anything that I wanted/needed to know. She never really had "the talk" with me, but it was nice to know that I could go to her if I had any questions.

 

[ocean733]

Boy was asking a bunch of questions when he was 8 so I decided it was time I told him. He sat there a minute processing the info after and then turned and went "Ewwwww you had sex with my mom!" to which I replied "I was just one of many, be glad your egg popped that weekend".


j/k

 

[Pete]

My mom just told me that she was there for me and if I had any questions, that she would be my friend and answer anything that I wanted/needed to know. She never really had "the talk" with me, but it was nice to know that I could go to her if I had any questions.

If she missed anything and you want to know I am just a PM away

 

[hotmomma]

If she missed anything and you want to know I am just a PM away [/QUOTE

Hey Pete, where do babies come from? My mommy never explained that to me either.

 

[singlesomddad]

rotfl im sure glad it didnt pop [the weekend before lol


QUOTE=Pete]Boy was asking a bunch of questions when he was 8 so I decided it was time I told him. He sat there a minute processing the info after and then turned and went "Ewwwww you had sex with my mom!" to which I replied "I was just one of many, be glad your egg popped that weekend".


j/k [/QUOTE]

 

[Poohhunny1605]

Yeah! I didn't get a talk, my mom just kinda left it open to tell her whenever it happend. We were introduced sex ed in 5th grade before DARE and then in 6th grade with Health/PE. So by the time I got it in 7th grade I pretty much new about the whole sha bang and mom didn't have to explain anything. Then again I also was on birth control at 14(no it wasn't only for sex), so I had to know before than haha!

You know, I would just metion it to her? I'm sure she will be just as embarrassed as you! Then again, she will need to know someday right? :shrug:

 

[bresamil]

Yeah! I didn't get a talk, my mom just kinda left it open to tell her whenever it happend. We were introduced sex ed in 5th grade before DARE and then in 6th grade with Health/PE. So by the time I got it in 7th grade I pretty much new about the whole sha bang and mom didn't have to explain anything. Then again I also was on birth control at 14(no it wasn't only for sex), so I had to know before than haha!

You know, I would just metion it to her? I'm sure she will be just as embarrassed as you! Then again, she will need to know someday right? :shrug:

There's a great book at the library - What's happening to me? is I think the title or What's happening to my body? - one for boys and one for girls.

Anyhow I gave my oldest son this book at 10 and we discussed it - which is how I found out how little his friends knew of truth. He didn't discuss it with them but after we'd gone over it - and to this day (he's 15) - he'll tell me that friends think *insert wrong information here* and he's glad he's smarter than that.

Boy 2 has also read the book and gone through the discussion (He's 12).

I'm getting the girl the book this summer - she just turned 10.

 

[Poohhunny1605]

There's a great book at the library - What's happening to me? is I think the title or What's happening to my body? - one for boys and one for girls.

Anyhow I gave my oldest son this book at 10 and we discussed it - which is how I found out how little his friends knew of truth. He didn't discuss it with them but after we'd gone over it - and to this day (he's 15) - he'll tell me that friends think *insert wrong information here* and he's glad he's smarter than that.

Boy 2 has also read the book and gone through the discussion (He's 12).

I'm getting the girl the book this summer - she just turned 10.

Yeah my mom bought the "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus" book for my brother and gave it to him when he was 16 when he got his first girlfriend. She said she never had anything to discuss with him about until then because he "knew it all", couldn't tell him anything. Well, both of us kids ended up having sex at 16 or before and I really don't regret it, but I don't want my child to do what I did when I was younger, I wasn't mature enough and didn't know a dag on thing about sex. I wish my mom would have sat down with me and told me about sex and the menustration things. Then again, I had an easier time talking to my doctor about it then I did my mom.

Suggestion: Maybe next time she goes to the doctors for a physical or something mention it to the doctor to say something to her maybe? I mean if you are uncomfortable about the discussion ?

 

[bresamil]

Suggestion: Maybe next time she goes to the doctors for a physical or something mention it to the doctor to say something to her maybe? I mean if you are uncomfortable about the discussion ?

You must be asking this of hotmomma. I have no trouble or discomfort discussing sex and bodily functions with my children, but I do believe the book I mentioned to be an excellent tool in those discussions.