Question

[Mousebaby]

When is a child old enough to tell his biological parent that he does not want to come to their house anymore? And if he is allowed to do this, is there any paper work involved or can he just say, I don't want to come over there anymore and the biological parent has to agree to it?

 

[Mousebaby]

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Help please, this is for a kid. He is miserable. I just need to hear from you guys that have been through this, or knows someone that has been through this please just give me some input. TIA

 

[Geek]

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Help please, this is for a kid. He is miserable. I just need to hear from you guys that have been through this, or knows someone that has been through this please just give me some input. TIA

How old is the kid? Where is he planning on going? Has he been abused?

 

[latinamomma]

I have been told that when child is 13 years of age, then a child can decide if it wants to see the other parent or not. Check out the peoples law website at Maryland Family Law
I can tell you that in a recent case with my ex, it was very, very helpful.

 

[BS Gal]

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Help please, this is for a kid. He is miserable. I just need to hear from you guys that have been through this, or knows someone that has been through this please just give me some input. TIA

I'm pretty sure the court lets kids make the decision of where they want to live when they are 14, but not positive. I don't know if they will allow a child to not see his parent. :shrug: Not much help, I know.

 

[skitty]

My step-son came to live with us when he was 14 and now he's 32. He never went back to his mom. Not sure what the problem is with your situation. If the kid doesn't want to go why make them... There must be a reason on the childs part for not wanting to go.

 

[Geek]

My step-son came to live with us when he was 14 and now he's 32. He never went back to his mom. Not sure what the problem is with your situation. If the kid doesn't want to go why make them... There must be a reason on the childs part for not wanting to go.

It might be time that he moves out

 

[GWguy]

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Help please, this is for a kid. He is miserable. I just need to hear from you guys that have been through this, or knows someone that has been through this please just give me some input. TIA

I would think that if the courts have given the parent visitation rights, then the court needs to acknowledge the requests of the child and make a change to the visitation rules.

 

[Mousebaby]

This is my son, he is 15 and no he's not being physically abused. It's the mental stuff I am worried about from his stepmother, and possibly his father. But unfortunately I have no proof of them doing it. I only know that my son hates going to his house, and a completely different child with them then he is with us. This cannot be good for this child's psyche.

Anyway, he is just miserable and he is desperate to get away from them.

 

[atrusomder]

When is a child old enough to tell his biological parent that he does not want to come to their house anymore? And if he is allowed to do this, is there any paper work involved or can he just say, I don't want to come over there anymore and the biological parent has to agree to it?

Can't wait to see the answer to this..

My 10yo doesn't want to see his biological father either, Granted his bio-father doesn't want to see him unless it's a holiday and/or a three day weekend. But since this Xmas he is due to stay with his Biodad he has already said he doesn't want to go. Is he too young to make that decision himself or can I allow him not to go. I mean, the bio-father hasn't seen him since last summer and wants to uproot him on the one day that most children look forward too all year. Christmas Morning!

 

[skitty]

He's old enough to choose if he wants to go there or not. My step-son moved out after he graduated.

 

[Mousebaby]

He's old enough to choose if he wants to go there or not. My step-son moved out after he graduated.

What can his father do legally? Can he try to take me to court over this? I am not concerned about the court thing for myself, he can do that til he's blue in the face. I just want to avoid anymore crap going on in front of my son. He doesn't need the stress. He has enough on him. I just don't want my son to go through anymore then he has to.

 

[onebdzee]

This is my son, he is 15 and no he's not being physically abused. It's the mental stuff I am worried about from his stepmother, and possibly his father. But unfortunately I have no proof of them doing it. I only know that my son hates going to his house, and a completely different child with them then he is with us. This cannot be good for this child's psyche.

Anyway, he is just miserable and he is desperate to get away from them.

He is old enough to make his own decision about going to his fathers, IMO....but, he needs to realize that in making this decision not to see his father might, in the long run, hurt him future

 

[shiki]

This is my son, he is 15 and no he's not being physically abused. It's the mental stuff I am worried about from his stepmother, and possibly his father. But unfortunately I have no proof of them doing it. I only know that my son hates going to his house, and a completely different child with them then he is with us. This cannot be good for this child's psyche.

Anyway, he is just miserable and he is desperate to get away from them.

I don't know what the legal agreement you have with his biological but if he doesn't want to see him I wouldn't force him to. I have a son 15 and a 13 yo, I wouldn't force them to see their biological, and honestly at this point in their lives I wouldn't even let them see him at this time. If he doesn't want the relationship there is something there.

 

[latinamomma]

What can his father do legally? Can he try to take me to court over this? I am not concerned about the court thing for myself, he can do that til he's blue in the face. I just want to avoid anymore crap going on in front of my son. He doesn't need the stress. He has enough on him. I just don't want my son to go through anymore then he has to.

If you want to, get a free legal consultation with a lawyer and see if there is a way to "modify" the visitation thru mediation therapy. Explain what is going on with your son, and see if they would be willing to help. I have always told my son it was up to him if he wanted to see his " bio" father.....and after 8 years, he has decided that he might. I have always and will always leave it up to him. My son is 15 and knows that it's totally up to him on what he wants to do.

 

[sockgirl77]

He is old enough to choose where he wants to live but a judge will still order visitation. At 15, he could just like it better wherever he's getting his way. :shrug:

 

[Mousebaby]

Well, I found out why he wanted to come home early from his visit with his dad. Apparently his dad and stepmother had been "partying" a little too hard at the campsite where they were staying and his dad ended up passing out on top of the air mattress with his sleeping bag underneath it. He ended up staying up all night because he had no where to sleep. Then they wanted him to work the snack bar at the club and he was too tired and didn't want to help.

Now I know people drink and party and such, but I have worked hard his whole life not to expose him to such things because he is predisposed to be an alcoholic because his father is one. Apparently they have been partying like this a lot in front of him and I am none too happy.

I told my son last night that if he didn't want to spend weekends over there anymore that was fine, but he had to tell his dad that and he had to say look we can go out to lunch, dinner or a movie, but I don't want to spend weekends with you anymore. I said it's up to him and what ever decision he makes I will be behind him 100%.

 

[baileydog]

When is a child old enough to tell his biological parent that he does not want to come to their house anymore? And if he is allowed to do this, is there any paper work involved or can he just say, I don't want to come over there anymore and the biological parent has to agree to it?

I would say around 16. Before that is too young to be making grown up decisions like where to live. I was given that choice at too young of age. Too young makes bad choices, they base their decision on thing like who will give more frredom, more money, better clothes and allowance. JMO.

 

[SouthernMdRocks]

When is a child old enough to tell his biological parent that he does not want to come to their house anymore? And if he is allowed to do this, is there any paper work involved or can he just say, I don't want to come over there anymore and the biological parent has to agree to it?

They(parent) have to go with what the court visitation papers state, unless changed. Usually around 12 yo or so a judge will take into consideration how the child feels but until there has been a change in visitation through the courts, not following through is considered a court ordered violation.

 

[Mousebaby]

They(parent) have to go with what the court visitation papers state, unless changed. Usually around 12 yo or so a judge will take into consideration how the child feels but until there has been a change in visitation through the courts, not following through is considered a court ordered violation.

I look at it this way, if he really wants to take it to court let him. But how is he going to feel knowing he has to FORCE his son into coming to see him. I don't know. I just told the boy to talk it out with his dad and I would be there with him and for him. We shall see...