SouthernMdRocks
R.I.P. Bobo, We miss you!
He probable won't care that he has to be forced. Most likely blame it on you that he doesn't want to come visit. Alcoholics blame everyone else, it's never them that are at fault.
He probable won't care that he has to be forced. Most likely blame it on you that he doesn't want to come visit. Alcoholics blame everyone else, it's never them that are at fault.
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Mousebaby
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Unfortunately from being raised around them all my life I know this to be true. But like I said, let him drag me to court, I don't care, if he wants to play dirty we can do that. I kindly doubt he will though, because I had released him from his child support out of the kindness of my heart because they were supposedly having financial difficulties. I will just let him know that if he takes me to court I will be asking for child support again and they will more than triple what he has paid me in the past, when he felt like paying it. So I have him by the proverbial balls!!!
SouthernMdRocks
R.I.P. Bobo, We miss you!
Unfortunately from being raised around them all my life I know this to be true. But like I said, let him drag me to court, I don't care, if he wants to play dirty we can do that. I kindly doubt he will though, because I had released him from his child support out of the kindness of my heart because they were supposedly having financial difficulties. I will just let him know that if he takes me to court I will be asking for child support again and they will more than triple what he has paid me in the past, when he felt like paying it. So I have him by the proverbial balls!!!
Good luck, but remember, support and visitation do not go hand in hand. They will be dealt with in separate court hearings. Oh BTW, I do agree with you not to make him go just pointing out the legal issues to consider.
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Mousebaby
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Yeah, well I hope he doesn't know that!
He's not the brightest bulb in the box! 
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CalvertNewbie
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Unfortunately from being raised around them all my life I know this to be true. But like I said, let him drag me to court, I don't care, if he wants to play dirty we can do that. I kindly doubt he will though, because I had released him from his child support out of the kindness of my heart because they were supposedly having financial difficulties. I will just let him know that if he takes me to court I will be asking for child support again and they will more than triple what he has paid me in the past, when he felt like paying it. So I have him by the proverbial balls!!!
You sure were generous by dropping the support. You ex is a lucky man in that respect. I too, know about alcoholism and the difficulties it can cause for kids/teenagers when they are subjected to stupid behavior like your ex exhibited while "camping". No kid should have to go through that but unfortunately, it's all too common.
I don't know about the legalities of visitation in a case like this, but I agree with the many others who have stated that the choice should be up to your son. I think you made the right decision by telling your son to speak with his father about how he's feeling - he's old enough to have a man-to-man conversation with his father. If the father chooses to do nothing to make your son more comfortable being around him, then the father can live with regrets in the future. I have a feeling that if this did have to go to court, that a judge would side with your son. Being that he is predisposed to alcoholism, it's really bad parenting for his father and his wife to party in front of your son.
Let us know how everything turns out. Good luck!
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Mousebaby
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Thanks, it makes me feel better hearing that.Thanks to everyone who offered advice. I'm sure things will work out one way or another. I'll keep you posted.
