KDENISE977
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Three year olds want one thing..power. They want to be boss and to decide what happens and when. So the best thing to remember is not to tell him to do anything unless you plan on and are capable of following through on making him do it. I was late out the door this morning because monster decided she didnt know how to/didnt want to put her shoes on. She has put those shoes on countless times. I knew she could do it and I knew because i pulled rank and told her to put them on right now that I had to follow through. SO while she whined like a baby on the steps pretending she couldnt get her shoe on I told her she was acting like a baby and until she put her shoe on I was going to wait. And further i was going to go outside without her because i didnt feel like hearing her whine. Soon as my hand was on the door..boom. they were on. Like magic. If you understand it is a power struggle and that it is one you HAVE TO WIN in order to not create a brat then it doesnt make it easier to deal with, but easier to understand how it should be handled. monster's power struggles have their days but most times i can get her to do what i need her to do without too much fuss..I get a lot of sass, but she does it
That sums it up EXACTLY...it's a power struggle. Even when I AM giving him a spanking (not that often), I'll do it, then he'll go and spank himself "No, mommy" :shrug: I've given up on spankings.