SoMDMama82
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A lady I work with was in tears yesterday with the school board about the school in which her 3 kids would go to yesterday, and I wanted to get some opinions on here for her.
Here is the background. She is in her late 20's, she separated from her hubby (lives in Calvert) about 2 years ago, and moved to St. Mary's. Technically, they only have one child together (who is special needs), and each one brought in a child from a previous relationship. Both children were very young when they met, and did not have much to do with their biological mother/father. The kids only know him and her as their "Mom" and "Dad", and the other kids as siblings (not step siblings). All children are under 10 years old. Anyway here is her dilemma:
Soon to be Ex-hubby lives in Calvert, she is temporarily renting in St. Mary's until she can buy a home in Calvert (she has been working with a realtor, but all houses keep falling through for one reason or another). The oldest child primarily lives with dad, the girls primarily live with mom. They all go to the same daycare in Calvert. There are no court documents, but they have split custody (50/50). Yesterday, she receives a call from the school board stating that she had 1 week to find her kids a new daycare (for 2 slots, 1 with special needs) in St. Mary's county, and enroll them in St. Mary's county schools.
She could keep them in Calvert if she got a legal paper signed by a judge stating the kids stay at their father's during the school week OR by paying tuition of, I think it was $6,000/child.
When she cried that all she wanted was to keep the kids together, and not separate them. The lady from the school board said "Well the son is not biologically yours" pretty much saying because the kids aren't 100% blood related, what did it matter if they were separated.
When she asked how they got that information, the lady told her from her middle child's teacher. The middle child does not even know her St. Mary's address. She only knows her fathers address. And she doesn't know how the school board even knows the one child isn't biologically hers, because the share a last name.
With no court documents, would it even be possible to enroll the 2 kids in St. Mary's schools by next week?
We told her to set up a meeting for her and her husband to talk with the Superintendent of Charles County Schools and go over their issues. But anybody have any different opinions/suggestions? (Sorry if I lost you, I know it's a lot of information)
Here is the background. She is in her late 20's, she separated from her hubby (lives in Calvert) about 2 years ago, and moved to St. Mary's. Technically, they only have one child together (who is special needs), and each one brought in a child from a previous relationship. Both children were very young when they met, and did not have much to do with their biological mother/father. The kids only know him and her as their "Mom" and "Dad", and the other kids as siblings (not step siblings). All children are under 10 years old. Anyway here is her dilemma:
Soon to be Ex-hubby lives in Calvert, she is temporarily renting in St. Mary's until she can buy a home in Calvert (she has been working with a realtor, but all houses keep falling through for one reason or another). The oldest child primarily lives with dad, the girls primarily live with mom. They all go to the same daycare in Calvert. There are no court documents, but they have split custody (50/50). Yesterday, she receives a call from the school board stating that she had 1 week to find her kids a new daycare (for 2 slots, 1 with special needs) in St. Mary's county, and enroll them in St. Mary's county schools.
She could keep them in Calvert if she got a legal paper signed by a judge stating the kids stay at their father's during the school week OR by paying tuition of, I think it was $6,000/child.
When she cried that all she wanted was to keep the kids together, and not separate them. The lady from the school board said "Well the son is not biologically yours" pretty much saying because the kids aren't 100% blood related, what did it matter if they were separated.
When she asked how they got that information, the lady told her from her middle child's teacher. The middle child does not even know her St. Mary's address. She only knows her fathers address. And she doesn't know how the school board even knows the one child isn't biologically hers, because the share a last name.
With no court documents, would it even be possible to enroll the 2 kids in St. Mary's schools by next week?
We told her to set up a meeting for her and her husband to talk with the Superintendent of Charles County Schools and go over their issues. But anybody have any different opinions/suggestions? (Sorry if I lost you, I know it's a lot of information)
Sounds to me like someone is trying to start trouble for her and unfortunately its going to hurt the kids in the long run! Maybe dad has a new sneaky girlfriend and she's trying to stir the pot.
on that one. She should fight that, it would still be a few hundred dollars and it's bogus. Lots of people get permission to have their kids in a place they are getting ready to move to, but haven't yet, for example if they are building a house and it's not ready before school starts.