Shut up!

[FromTexas]

Would you all just shut up.

 

[nawty1]

And thelling the youngster to shut up and take many forms, but "be quiet please" is the kind of garbage that drives the rest of us crazy, when a kid is acting up in public. "Shut up or I'm going to whup your behind" tends to work a bit better

You forgot "shut your pie hole!"

 

[snuzzy]

Well...I did the soap thing with my son...talked with him about inappropriate words...so the other day we were in the Dr's. office and he was a bit hipper and I told him to just talk to the Dr. politely and calm down! What did my "well brought up son say?"..."Don't have an orgasim! I was furious, and he was obviously shocked by my reaction. When we got in the car, I asked him what his new word meant..."you know, like "have a cow", he was mortified when I explained to him what he had said.

 

[RoseRed]

Another one that really gets me is kids calling each other "dummy" or "stupid"
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Mine knows those are bad words and tattles on others when they say that.

I don't say Shup Up either. I use Be Quiet.

 

[happyappygirl]

FWIW....I don't tell anyone to "Shut Up" unless it's STFU at an ADULT who has plucked my last nerve (like my mom sometimes can since I'm for all intents and purposes all grown up now - although I would never actually SAY it to her )
When mine came home with a naughty word, smacked me (like a toddler will sometimes try), or fibbed to me...I acted like I was about to just DIE of shock...worked like a charm. I've managed to raise 5 pretty neat kiddos between the ages of 8 and 24 and none are in jail or gone bad YET When i found out the boy (aged 16) had tried those stupid little strawberry cigars the Burch Mart keeps out on the shelf and sells to anyone, he got the SILENT treatment for 2 solid days after the "SHOCKED" reaction and the spray of "YOU'RE an ATHLETE!! Don't you CARE what you're doing to the only body God gave you???" He got the message loud and clear, and made the decision *on his own* to wait until he's 18 and then decide wether to or not too. <WHEW> dodged the bullet I HOPE.

 

[happyappygirl]

AND...kids live what they learn...if baby bites mommy, and mommy's reaction is to bite back...what have you taught baby? That MOMMY WINS because she's bigger. Baby knows that being bitten HURTS someone prolly did it to him, that's why he did it to you, and you taught him that the bigger one wins, so guess what? He'll go to daycare tomorrow and bite someone SMALLER ...so IMHO there is no good reason to bite back or smack or call names for that matter... Just my two cents on it.

With that said, I am NOT averse to saying "Now THAT was stupid!" Referring to the ACTION rather than the PERSON. I have often told my kids that I HATE what they did...which isn't an attack on them. It's like a couple fighting. A golden rule for us is attack the ISSUE not the PERSON. And I never hesitate to apoligize for making him angry or upset, thus apologizing but not REALLY apologizing.... A little female stragey sisters...Oh Honey I'm sorry you're SO upset....

 

[DoWhat]

it's okay to tell people to STFU.

 

[JabbaJawz]

I prefer the phrase, "ZIP IT!!!"

 

[bresamil]

My mother in law used the term "Hush your fuss". The first time she did it was very effective because they had to sit and try to figure out what she meant.

 

[Ken King]

Archie Bunker era - Stifle it.

 

[Pete]

I told Boy to "shut up" yesterday and he showed no signs of trauma this morning.

 

[pixiegirl]

Yup, you're one of the folks who subscribe to the school of thought that teaches you should treat young kids like adults. They aren't adul;ts, but you are. You have to assume that responsibility and assert your authority. And thelling the youngster to shut up and take many forms, but "be quiet please" is the kind of garbage that drives the rest of us crazy, when a kid is acting up in public. "Shut up or I'm going to whup your behind" tends to work a bit better - especially if you DO whup their behinds when they don't shut up. Raising a kid is not an exercise in popularity. It's an exercise in tough love, the kind of education that sticks and helps mould them into adults.

Growing up, stripped to the basics, is a process of learning by experience. A child learns that a stupid act brings a feedback of "that was stupid" or "you are stupid." Good way for the kid to figure out that doing that stupid thing again would result in feeling stupid. Feedback from peers or parents, it depends on the individual kid and parents which weighs more, but it always weighs something. Negative feedback for bad stuff, positive feedback for good stuff. Very simple. A technique being rapidly abandoned by the wreckage of the Dr. Spock era.

My son does get positive and negative feeback for his actions. That doesn't mean I belittle him in the process.

If he's good he gets rewarded. If he's bad he gets his butt tanned. I don't see the need to be cruel to be effective.

 

[Tinkerbell]

My almost 4 year old has taken to saying "What the...." She never finishes the sentence, but I'm trying to get her to stop saying it before she does!

 

[Vince]

Actually, i sit down and talk to him about words he has used, and if the word is bad enough, he not only has a red hinney. But he also sits in his bedroom, with no tv, no gameboy. Nothing but a pencil and a pad of paper and has to write me a letter to explain what he has done wrong.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

My almost 4 year old has taken to saying "What the...." She never finishes the sentence, but I'm trying to get her to stop saying it before she does!

OMG it must be something going around, my kid was trying that for while too, as are my bf'S kids....mine has since stopped, after I told her that it didn't sound like something a nice young lady should say, we arestill working on his kids since weonly have them every other weekend.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

Yup, you're one of the folks who subscribe to the school of thought that teaches you should treat young kids like adults. They aren't adul;ts, but you are. You have to assume that responsibility and assert your authority.

Actually, you are soo wrong there....I treat my daughter like a kid and she treats me like the adult. But, I am confident in my adultness and parenting skills enough that I do not have to be nasty or belittle my child so I feel like the bigger person.

It's an exercise in tough love, the kind of education that sticks and helps mould them into adults.

And you what, mold your children to grow up and tell others "STFU before I beat your a$$" GOOD IDEA!!!
I am not nasty to my daughter nor am I negative to her and the thought of calling a child stupid makes me cringe. But I have a very well behaved daughter who knows that if she steps out of line her a$$ is mine. It would be extremely difficult for you to find a more respectful or better behaved 6 year old than mine. and look, she has learned how to behave and show respect all without being made to feel 2 inches tall.

 

[DoWhat]

OMG it must be something going around,

I believe it is the parents fault.

Did your kid ever poop on a bath mat?

 

[Christy]

I told Boy to "shut up" yesterday and he showed no signs of trauma this morning.

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[Wickedwrench]

Did your kid ever poop on a bath mat?

Mine did once.

 

[pixiegirl]

Each of my kids have pooped in the tub once. No bath mats in the tub though. Grady wins. He dropped his load while in the tub with Noah. The next time I gave them a bath Noah looked at me and asked if Grady was going to poop in the tub again.