Since I'm already labeled a :loser:...

[poster]

...might as well bring it up.
Recently went out with the daughter who was having melt down and couldn't behave. We're having dinner (8yrs old) and she's pouting at the table, won't talk or look at us. I told her to change the attitude, it's not going to be tolerated. This goes on and on and finally I reached over and smacked her leg. Not hard, just a, "I'm not going to put up with this attitude" reminder. Now she cries, wipes her eyes and is magicly in a better mood. 5mins tops after the "smack". I look over and this older woman is clearly staring me down and pissed off.

Should I be ?? My being a and all. I'm just not sure anymore.

 

[jetmonkey]

You shoulda keptitr3al.

 

[Baja28]

Here's where you went wrong. You smacked her in public where the goobers could see.

You always take them into the bathroom to whip their ass.

 

[poster]

Here's where you went wrong. You smacked her in public where the goobers could see.

You always take them into the bathroom to whip their ass.

We'd already had the bathroom talk, she didn't get a ass whipping.
Actually I think I embarrassed her. She straightened right up.
Actually she was pleasent the rest of the evening.

 

[donbarzini]

...might as well bring it up.
Recently went out with the daughter who was having melt down and couldn't behave. We're having dinner (8yrs old) and she's pouting at the table, won't talk or look at us. I told her to change the attitude, it's not going to be tolerated. This goes on and on and finally I reached over and smacked her leg. Not hard, just a, "I'm not going to put up with this attitude" reminder. Now she cries, wipes her eyes and is magicly in a better mood. 5mins tops after the "smack". I look over and this older woman is clearly staring me down and pissed off.

Should I be ?? My being a and all. I'm just not sure anymore.

You should have said: "What? You want next?"

 

[Vince]

You should have said: "What? You want next?"

 

[aps45819]

You should have said: "What? You want next?"

ask your waitress for some extra straws and as a reward allow your daughter to shoot the paper at the lady

 

[Dupontster]

Should have (in a calm and soft voice) tell the daughter: "DON'T MAKE ME OPEN A CAN OF WHOOP ASS HERE YOUNG LADY" Then pat her on the head and smile..

 

[sockgirl77]

Here's where you went wrong. You smacked her in public where the goobers could see.

You always take them into the bathroom to whip their ass.

 

[vraiblonde]

Poster, I think you should stay away from children - you do not seem to know how to deal with them.

First, why would you smack a kid who's just sitting there? If she were acting up, that's one thing. But when they pout and won't speak to you, that's when you enjoy the silence.

Second, why do you care that some strange lady is angry about you disciplining your child?

 

[rich70]

Its your child so what other people think shouldn't matter. Now if you beat her in public thats different. But just a smack on the leg, hey I've done the same thing. I remember when I was little, my mom would lay the smackdown on us at the store in a minute. Nobody cared back then. Now everybody is so worried about everybody elses bussiness.

 

[jenbengen]

You should have said: "What? You want next?"

That is hysterical. I'll remember that one if it ever happens to me.

 

[Pete]

Here's where you went wrong. You smacked her in public where the goobers could see.

You always take them into the bathroom to whip their ass.

When they scream in agony it echo's.

 

[Fugazi]

Here you go Poster.... keep it real...

Parenting Class

 

[godsbutterfly]

...might as well bring it up.
Recently went out with the daughter who was having melt down and couldn't behave. We're having dinner (8yrs old) and she's pouting at the table, won't talk or look at us. I told her to change the attitude, it's not going to be tolerated. This goes on and on and finally I reached over and smacked her leg. Not hard, just a, "I'm not going to put up with this attitude" reminder. Now she cries, wipes her eyes and is magicly in a better mood. 5mins tops after the "smack". I look over and this older woman is clearly staring me down and pissed off.

Should I be ?? My being a and all. I'm just not sure anymore.

By any chance does this "silent treatment" include arms folded across the chest, one leg swinging rapidly that either kicks the chair or table and she isn't eating either?

 

[Sonsie]

Here's where you went wrong. You smacked her in public where the goobers could see.

You always take them into the bathroom to whip their ass.

My mom had the most savage pinch. You rarely saw it coming, and by the time you yelped in startled pain and people were looking she would be staring with a cool composed expression promising further reprisal for embarassing her in public.

I could get away with a lot at home but making her look bad or embarassing her in public was verboten.

 

[Sadielady]

This is where you have to worry about all of the CPS calling freaks! Having some kind of control of your child is a good things. These days there are so many parents that let their children do whatever they want.

 

[poster]

By any chance does this "silent treatment" include arms folded across the chest, one leg swinging rapidly that either kicks the chair or table and she isn't eating either?

You got it. Sitting and enjoying the silence as vrai suggested has been used and isn't a solution, it just gets worse. When she does speak during these episodes it's with total disrespect and I'm not going to ignore it any longer. I think the shock of, "OMG-mom didn't just smack me in public", was an eye opener. She was actually very pleasent the rest of the meal and evening.

 

[SamSpade]

.First, why would you smack a kid who's just sitting there? If she were acting up, that's one thing. But when they pout and won't speak to you, that's when you enjoy the silence.

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[poster]

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By any chance does this "silent treatment" include arms folded across the chest, one leg swinging rapidly that either kicks the chair or table and she isn't eating either?

You got it. Sitting and enjoying the silence as vrai suggested has been used and isn't a solution, it just gets worse. When she does speak during these episodes it's with total disrespect and I'm not going to ignore it any longer. I think the shock of, "OMG-mom didn't just smack me in public", was an eye opener. She was actually very pleasent the rest of the meal and evening.

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