Since you been gone I can do whatever I want...

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shiki

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Husband let me know he'd be divorcing me about a week ago. :flowers:

He has always maintained that he loved me, even tho many times it seemed that he didn't. So couple days ago I just ask him to be honest, did he love me?
He starts with the I have love for you and I care about you crap, but I say hey now. Its over, can't you just be honest, do you love me? And of course the answer was no.

I asked how long he'd felt that way, and he said he'd been falling out of love with me for a while...I asked how long...and he said since the beginning.

We've been together for 9 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter. I have asked him over the years to just let me go if he didn't love me, but he lied and manipulated me this whole time.

How can a person do that to someone else? How could he do it to me when he knows I love him? If he had the tiniest speck of love for me at all he would have told me the truth, he should have let me go.

This has my head spinning. I thought people were good for the most part. But they aren't.

I feel completely violated.
 
Lilypad

Lilypad

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Sorry but

you must have known this was coming....:flowers:
If I have to continually ask someone if they love me, I really have to take a long hard look at myself.
You got a plan yet?
 
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Kain99

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I think sometimes, our obligations cloud our judgement. I bet he thought he was doing the right thing. Chin up!
 
Geek

Geek

New Member
:huggy: You have to buck up and handle this like a lady for your daughter. It sounds like the marriage has not been perfect for you. Your true love has yet to come.
 
morningbell

morningbell

hmmmmmm
shiki said:
Husband let me know he'd be divorcing me about a week ago. :flowers:

He has always maintained that he loved me, even tho many times it seemed that he didn't. So couple days ago I just ask him to be honest, did he love me?
He starts with the I have love for you and I care about you crap, but I say hey now. Its over, can't you just be honest, do you love me? And of course the answer was no.

I asked how long he'd felt that way, and he said he'd been falling out of love with me for a while...I asked how long...and he said since the beginning.

We've been together for 9 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter. I have asked him over the years to just let me go if he didn't love me, but he lied and manipulated me this whole time.

How can a person do that to someone else? How could he do it to me when he knows I love him? If he had the tiniest speck of love for me at all he would have told me the truth, he should have let me go.

This has my head spinning. I thought people were good for the most part. But they aren't.

I feel completely violated.
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Its not that he wasn't a good person, if he wasn't you wouldn't have been with him, its just that it would hurt him to hurt you, he didn't want to be the cause of your pain because of all you both had together.
Nine years is a long time but not too long for you to heal from it. :huggy:
 
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shiki

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Lilypad said:
you must have known this was coming....:flowers:
If I have to continually ask someone if they love me, I really have to take a long hard look at myself.
You got a plan yet?
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it's true. I am looking at myself. But before I just threw away my family I wanted to make sure I was not just imagining it. I just wanted him to tell me the truth.

Was he still hittin it up until last week?
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yep and still telling me he loved me.
 
CRoyal

CRoyal

Infinite Impetus
shiki said:
He has always maintained that he loved me, even tho many times it seemed that he didn't. So couple days ago I just ask him to be honest, did he love me?
He starts with the I have love for you and I care about you crap, but I say hey now. Its over, can't you just be honest, do you love me? And of course the answer was no.

I asked how long he'd felt that way, and he said he'd been falling out of love with me for a while...I asked how long...and he said since the beginning.

We've been together for 9 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter. I have asked him over the years to just let me go if he didn't love me, but he lied and manipulated me this whole time.

This has my head spinning. I thought people were good for the most part. But they aren't.

I feel completely violated.
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Don't wait for HIM to let you go if you feel the marriage was over.. Be proactive, it was your marriage too. If you had to ask then you already had your answer.

Good luck in moving on, it'll make you stronger. :flowers:
 
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