Of course I'd love to adopt, I'm just saying I would love to have my own first which I am not sure I physically will be able to do myself (dr's say they think I could but haven't been able to after some tests and after almost 3 yrs now), but I'd love to have a child and have it look like my husband so thats why I'm thinking of going the surrogacy route first and then adopt as many as we could afford..
Surrogate Mothers
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Of course I'd love to adopt, I'm just saying I would love to have my own first which I am not sure I physically will be able to do myself (dr's say they think I could but haven't been able to after some tests and after almost 3 yrs now), but I'd love to have a child and have it look like my husband so thats why I'm thinking of going the surrogacy route first and then adopt as many as we could afford..
hahahahahahaha j/k
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
From karma:
Surrogate Mothers 01-30-2008 02:14 PM Then why didn't YOU adopt?!
Response:
Because I didn't have a medical issue that made concieving, carrying and delivering a child a problem, I guess. But if I had had difficulty in having a child, I certainly would have investigated adoption as a serious option.
I think adoption is a wonderful thing; it can bring children needing a loving and nuturing environment to those who really WANT children. What could be better than that? My only gripe about adoption is the costs associated with it. If the adoption process were more reaonably priced, just think about how many more children could be adopted into welcoming homes.
Surrogate Mothers 01-30-2008 02:14 PM Then why didn't YOU adopt?!
Response:
Because I didn't have a medical issue that made concieving, carrying and delivering a child a problem, I guess. But if I had had difficulty in having a child, I certainly would have investigated adoption as a serious option.
I think adoption is a wonderful thing; it can bring children needing a loving and nuturing environment to those who really WANT children. What could be better than that? My only gripe about adoption is the costs associated with it. If the adoption process were more reaonably priced, just think about how many more children could be adopted into welcoming homes.
Dymphna
Loyalty, Friendship, Love
She said she responded to an ad in the Pennysaver that lead to a lawyer.
I'll PM you her email. She said you could contact her and ask questions
barncat
New Member
I know a married couple that first fostered then adopted two children. One was older but the other was an infant. They had another opportunity to adopt another infant that they fostered but they opted not to for various reasons. They are not wealthy and never indicated anything about the cost, maybe folks that foster and then adopt the child they fostered are cut a break?
Many agencies when they conduct their referrals take this into account, even if you don't ask for it. Many people have said our son looks like my wife, and could have been his birth mother - blue eyes, blonde hair. We noticed this on the plane home where there were many couples that had adopted - an Italian couple had two small dark featured boys - a young mother had a curly blond daughter with blue eyes that was the spittin' image of her new mom. One of my best friends adopted from Guatemala - he is Hispanic, and she looks just like him.
My father was also adopted, and even though that was a long time ago, pictures of him compared to HIS father as a boy are astonishing.
You can make a choice this way if you are willing to adopt a child that has already been born (as strange as that sounds, most domestic adoptions that agencies conduct are arranged while the birth mother is still pregnant). They'll try to accomodate your wishes.
Adoption is NOT cheap, but depending on the route you go, and the financing - it can be affordable. For instance, Uncle Sam gives an adoption tax credit of 11,390 dollars for adoption. The state of Maryland gives a 5000 tax deduction. And several companies and government agencies have either adoption help or adoption grants, and some airlines and hotels will provide cut rates for adopting parents. There's a lot out there.
sanchezf
Little ol' Me
Samspade
Do you just have one child
for adopting a child and giving them a loving home.
Samspade
Do you just have one child
Just one right now - once we get the credit from Uncle Sam, we'll be gearing up to get our second child. My plan is to start up again sometime this fall or Christmastime.
sanchezf
Little ol' Me
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wantnafemale
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Wonder how hard it is to foster kids? What kinda loops u gotta jump thru I mean? I wouldn't mind fostering children ..
The whole process in itself, adoption, IVF, surrogate mothers - all of it is very expensive.. but no matter how I get to be a mother, I just can't wait, I'm soooo ready.. and I'm so excited and so nervous at the same time ...
Thank you! I just can't wait ya know.. I just wanna hear them laugh and see their smiles, and I can't wait for them to wake me up xmas morning screaming about how Santa Claus came so get up and I wanna go to ballgames or soccer games and I wanna see their school plays and I wanna show them how to do things.. I just can't wait..
