Tantrums
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Brought back bad memories, huh? 
Tinkerbell
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Mikeinsmd said:
UGH!!
Cowgirl
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You'd better spank her...or she'll eventually end up in jail.
Seriously though, ignoring them is the best thing. The boy is old enough now (4) that if he starts to whine, we tell him he can whine in his room becasue we don't want to listen to it. The other day he pitched a fit because he couldn't draw a heart. I tried to help him for a few minutes, but he started throwing a fit because he couldn't do it by himself. I told him he could go in his room...so he went and threw himself on the bed and started whining really loudly. He'd look through the doorway at us every now and then to see if we were watching. We ignored him (it was really hard not to laugh), and he quit after a few minutes.
Seriously though, ignoring them is the best thing. The boy is old enough now (4) that if he starts to whine, we tell him he can whine in his room becasue we don't want to listen to it. The other day he pitched a fit because he couldn't draw a heart. I tried to help him for a few minutes, but he started throwing a fit because he couldn't do it by himself. I told him he could go in his room...so he went and threw himself on the bed and started whining really loudly. He'd look through the doorway at us every now and then to see if we were watching. We ignored him (it was really hard not to laugh), and he quit after a few minutes.
oldman
Lobster Land
Many years ago when my oldest son was somewhere between 1 and 2 he'd get peeved at ???? and rather than throw a fit he'd hold his breath until he passed out. Now that will make anyones heart stop and we'd toss him in the air, throw water on him and anything else we could think of doing. Then a smart doctor told us to just lay him down on the floor and he'll come around all on his own. We did and it worked, but that is not to say our hearts didn't take a few extra beats along the way.
SoMDGirl42
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Ignore her until she stops. Negative attention is still attention, and that's what she's looking for.
Nanny Pam
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Tinkerbell said:First of all, your child isn't learning this from anywhere. They don't have to. They come with the ability naturally! Isn't that nice?
She is frustrated about something, and because she is very young, has no idea how to properly express those feelings. So, she screams and cries and yells. It gets mommies attention - so it works for her!
Know that it is much harder on you than it is on her. You are more stressed out by her fit than she is.
Most important: DO NOT LET HER GET CONTROL! Ignore it. Even if she follows you. You can say "I will talk to you when you are done" if that makes you feel better, but then walk away and do not say one more word until the fit is completely over. Pick up a book and start reading, cook something, watch tv, fold laundry, anything - but ignore it. If she lays in your way, step over her.
It won't take long for her to see it's not working and she'll have to figure something else out to get to you!
I agree! Once she learns that her "fits" will get her exactly what she wants ...she will use it every time to get her way. You be the parent.
I wish I'd thought of thataosmiles said:
Tinkerbell
Baby blues
vraiblonde said:I wish I'd thought of that
It's not too late for me! I still have a 5 year old! She doesn't throw tantrums anymore, but I'm sure there's something I can spray her for 
Heck, she'll probably like it.
When our son started doing this we sent him to his room. We told him it was okay to get mad, however tantrums should be done in private not public. When he was ready to behave like other people he was welcome to come out of his room.
I didn't want to teach him to keep his anger inside and later done the line cause uclers but at the same time I didn't want him to think a tantrum was acceptable behavior. It did not take long for him to get with the program.
Once they loose their audience the problem starts to go away.
I didn't want to teach him to keep his anger inside and later done the line cause uclers but at the same time I didn't want him to think a tantrum was acceptable behavior. It did not take long for him to get with the program.
Once they loose their audience the problem starts to go away.
bohman
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Cowgirl said:
This is my problem. My girl is 18 months, and she seems to be outgrowing the tantrums already, because we ignored them and she didn't get what she wanted. But it was hard not to laugh when she completely lost control of herself like that. It's just amazing to think that we all started as little people who'd completely fall apart if they aren't allowed to grab things off the kitchen table.
