The Discipline Debate...

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timberwolf

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Originally posted by Ken King

If out in public they either are afraid that some busybody will report them and do nothing about the behavior or they just don’t mind that others are sharing in the pleasure of this modern family.
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I can't remember the last time I spanked my child either..I am afraid that if I did someone from somewhere would "tell on me" ever since she came home from school and told me she would tell. We did tell her go ahead and tell but I must say that I don't believe I have spanked her since.
 
vraiblonde

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Originally posted by timberwolf
I am afraid that if I did someone from somewhere would "tell on me" ever since she came home from school and told me she would tell. We did tell her go ahead and tell but I must say that I don't believe I have spanked her since.
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If I think about that teacher usurping your parental authority for too long, it's going to really pizz me off.

I'd have called the principal and given her/him a piece of my mind. Teachers overstep their boundaries too much these days. And while her comments were probably directed at kids who are truly abused at home, she shouldn't be making those kinds of blanket statements to the students as a whole.
 
Ken King

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You might want to tell the teacher and school that while those at the school can't spank a child (prohibited under Maryland law) a parent has no such restriction and that they should just mind their own business unless they are 100% certain abuse is taking place. And abuse isn't a child saying that their parent spanked them.
 
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timberwolf

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I realize that abuse isn't a child saying that her mother spanked her..and what you are saying is pretty much what the b/f is saying. She is my child and I need to do what I can to help her learn..At this point I am working on not worrying about what the teachers say..but on the other hand I don't want to give her father a reason to take her from me (if that makes sense). I know that I am just being paranoid but I am getting better at it. She still is after all my responsibility and I have to teach her right from wrong.:smile:
 
pixiegirl

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When I was growing up I got the beat down from my mom. Lots of spankings (she still claims it wasn't enough) some bare handed, some with the belt, some with a spoon or whatever was handy. In the car she kept on of those wood boards that had the elastic string and rubber ball attached to it (string and ball removed) up front with her and she wouldn't hesitate to grab it and whack the crapola out of you; no need to slow down or threaten to stop the car. My mom was a doer not a talker. My dad on the other hand never laid a hand on me. One time he was going to spank me and I ran like hell from him. Still remember that day clear as can be.

Before I got to the discipline age with Noah I always said that I would spank his ass if he ever got out of line. And I do on occasion. Sometimes though I find that it doesn't help the situation. If he wakes up on the wrong side of the bed and is just being foul and impossible it's aggrivating to no end but spanking him does no good. Now on the other hand if I've told him something more then a time or two and he continues to not listen then he'll get a swat on the butt. There has been one or two times that even the firm swat on the butt didn't work and I had to drop his drawers and smack bare butt. I'd rather not have to resort to such things. I do not believe in hitting a child in the face at all. B was telling me last night how he said "damn" when he was 12 and his mom came across his face. My mom never hit us in the face but would make you eat soap quick and felt no pity for you when you had a belly ache after.

B's father NEVER laid a hand on any of the kids. But a stern look was enough to keep them in place. Not a one of the 4 kids has ever been in much trouble. B hopes to have the same effect. He will spank if he has to but he's hoping that like his father he'll never have to.
 
vraiblonde

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Originally posted by pixiegirl
no need to slow down or threaten to stop the car.
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Thank God for bucket seats - I used to reach back and pinch my kids on the legs. :lol:
 
pixiegirl

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Originally posted by vraiblonde
Thank God for bucket seats - I used to reach back and pinch my kids on the legs. :lol:
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Noah being so young and still so sweet (on occasion) always wants me to hold his hand. I guess since I can reach back there and hand him things or take things from him he thinks it's ok that I hold his hand all the way down the road. Needless to say I get quite a shoulder ache. But how can you tell them no when they're being so sweet.
 
cattitude

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Originally posted by pixiegirl
But how can you tell them no when they're being so sweet.
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Easy..explain you need to pay attention to driving and it's not safe. Telling them no now makes it easier for them to understand no when they aren't being so sweet. :wink:
 
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Originally posted by kwillia
Well... until I got to the part where Pixie's mom removed the ball and elastic I was picturing her bonking them on the head with the ball from the front seat...
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OMG! Now I'm getting a mental picture! :lmao: *whackawhackawhacka*

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Originally posted by pixiegirl
But how can you tell them no when they're being so sweet.
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If you talk to kids like they have some sense, they'll in fact develop sense. From what you say, Noah's a nice little kid and not some screaming lunatic. So just say, "I can't right now because I'm driving. I might get in a car crash and hurt us if I don't keep both hands on the wheel." Simple. And if he keeps on, just keep repeating yourself until he gives.
 
cattitude

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Originally posted by vraiblonde
If you talk to kids like they have some sense, they'll in fact develop sense. From what you say, Noah's a nice little kid and not some screaming lunatic. So just say, "I can't right now because I'm driving. I might get in a car crash and hurt us if I don't keep both hands on the wheel." Simple. And if he keeps on, just keep repeating yourself until he gives.
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would you please take me off of your iggy list.
 
pixiegirl

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Originally posted by vraiblonde
If you talk to kids like they have some sense, they'll in fact develop sense. From what you say, Noah's a nice little kid and not some screaming lunatic. So just say, "I can't right now because I'm driving. I might get in a car crash and hurt us if I don't keep both hands on the wheel." Simple. And if he keeps on, just keep repeating yourself until he gives.
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I do. The kid's not spoiled and understands a lot. I don't use my right hand while driving for the most part so it's not that big a deal. It is uncomforatable so I don't usually do it unless it's late (as in past his bed time) and I'm feeling guilty for having him out. My mom and I actually get into my child rearing a lot because I'm too honest with my two year old she thinks. If I tell him to do something and he tells me he doesn't want to then I'll tell him "I don't care if you don't want to; I told you to..." or if I don't want to hold his hand I'll tell him "mommy doesn't want to hold your hand right now." My mom has told me that I'm cruel. :rolleyes:
 
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