ZARA
Registered User
Every couple of months I will sit down and read Dear Abby. Sometimes there are some very good articles followed by equally good advice. This particular article caught my attention because I have experienced a similar situation.
So ladies, Do you kiss your kids (and or family members) on the mouth or not?
I will start so no one feels insecure (for lack of a better word) about their families.
We are a very physically affectionate family. We hold hands in public, in the car driving, sitting on the couch, family hugs, hugs before bed, hugs first thing in the morning, etc. I will kiss my son on the cheek, lips, forehead, hand, whatever and he does the same. When he was little it was always on the lips. Now that he is older it is either the cheek, the corner of the mouth or on the neck if I am hugging him goodnight. I don’t really put a lot of thought into where he is kissed. There are days when my husband says, “Kiss my ass.” And I immediately bend over and kiss his ass, which usually leaves him laughing and shaking his head at me.
Once I had someone tell me it was creepy to kiss my son at all, especially on the lips. I shrugged and told them they didn’t have to kiss him so I don’t know why it was such a big deal. That person’s family, as well as that person, was not physically affectionate. She rarely showed her children any affection at all, which in my eyes is wrong and abusive. In her eyes, I was wrong.
Personally, I believe children should be lavished with affection so they grow up into affectionate adults and loving parents. But that’s just me.
What do you think?
So ladies, Do you kiss your kids (and or family members) on the mouth or not?
I will start so no one feels insecure (for lack of a better word) about their families.
We are a very physically affectionate family. We hold hands in public, in the car driving, sitting on the couch, family hugs, hugs before bed, hugs first thing in the morning, etc. I will kiss my son on the cheek, lips, forehead, hand, whatever and he does the same. When he was little it was always on the lips. Now that he is older it is either the cheek, the corner of the mouth or on the neck if I am hugging him goodnight. I don’t really put a lot of thought into where he is kissed. There are days when my husband says, “Kiss my ass.” And I immediately bend over and kiss his ass, which usually leaves him laughing and shaking his head at me.
Once I had someone tell me it was creepy to kiss my son at all, especially on the lips. I shrugged and told them they didn’t have to kiss him so I don’t know why it was such a big deal. That person’s family, as well as that person, was not physically affectionate. She rarely showed her children any affection at all, which in my eyes is wrong and abusive. In her eyes, I was wrong.
Personally, I believe children should be lavished with affection so they grow up into affectionate adults and loving parents. But that’s just me.
What do you think?
